Let’s keep it real: people-pleasing might sound kind and selfless, but when helping others becomes a constant at your own expense, it’s time for a wake-up call. In this episode, we’re diving into what it looks like when your need to make everyone else happy starts draining your energy, your peace, and your purpose.

Do you ever feel like you’re not okay unless everyone else is okay? Do you find yourself saying yes before checking if it actually fits your life—or your calling? Are you worried about how others perceive you more than how you feel in your own soul?

🚨 Newsflash: If your value is tied to how much you're doing for others… it’s time to pause and check-in.

We’re talking about the signs, the traps, and the truth: sometimes God’s best "yes" for you is a holy “no.” Balance is key. Let’s explore it together.

🎙️ Keepin’ It Real Question:
Is people pleasing something you struggle with? What does that look like for you, and how does it show up in your life?

✨ Quick Reminders from Your Favorite Busy Ladies:

• Kim Haar’s new book Healing From Life’s Deepest Hurts is available now! Get your copy and stay up to date at www.kimberlyhaar.com.
• Don’t miss the RISE Conference coming to Tulsa on September 16th, hosted by The Women’s Fellowship! Join us for a God-infused half-day of powerful speakers, panelists, worship, and connection. Get all the details at www.thewomensfellowship.com under the RISE Conference tab.

We’re popping into your feed with a special bonus episode! Kim Haar’s powerful new book, Healing From Life’s Deepest Hurts, is out, and we couldn’t wait to give you a behind-the-scenes peek into the journey since release day. From long writing sessions to launch week miracles, it’s been a wild ride, and we’re so glad you’re on it with us.

The book is available wherever books are sold, but you can also visit www.kimberlyhaar.com to order your copy and stay up-to-date on Kim’s upcoming speaking engagements and resources.

And don’t forget to check in with Kim Spence Mullen’s world at www.thewomensfellowship.com and get the scoop on the RISE Conference coming to Tulsa on September 16th—you do not want to miss it!

We’re two busy ladies doing what we love, and we’re so thankful to have you walking alongside us. Now… back to our regularly scheduled programming! 😉

Yes, Kimberly Haar wrote her story to testify to God’s redemptive power after unimaginable pain… but this part? It’s for you.

In this final part of our powerful series with my co-host and author Kimberly Haar, we go deeper into the heartbeat behind her new book. And it's my (Kim Spence Mullen) favorite part!

Whether you’re carrying trauma, grief, heartbreak, or some hard-to-name weight, this conversation is a gentle guide through the healing process. Kim Haar shares how the very act of navigating loss becomes a roadmap for others. This episode is filled with hope, wisdom, and practical encouragement for anyone who has walked through something hard and is ready to move forward instead of staying stuck in it.

This isn’t just Kim’s story of healing.
It’s an invitation into your own.

Remember to pick up a copy of Healing From Life's Deepest Hurts, wherever books are sold!

✨ And hey—if this episode speaks to you, or if any of our Keepin’ It Real conversations have encouraged your heart, would you share them with your circle? You never know who might need the real, raw, and redeeming reminders that they’re not alone.

In this powerful Part 2 episode of Keepin’ It Real, co-host and author of Healing From Life’s Deepest Hurts: Reclaiming Your Life After Grief, Loss, or Trauma Kim Haar, LMFT, opens up about what happened after the unthinkable.

If you caught Part 1, you heard the moment her world was shattered in an act of violence that forever changed her life. Today, she invites us behind the curtain into the quiet, gritty work of healing mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and physically.

From navigating trauma recovery to the small daily moments where hope began to flicker again, Kim shares how she found her footing after the pain. This is a sacred glimpse into the “middle chapters” of her story, which are full of wrestling, rebuilding, and rediscovering purpose.

✨ Whether you’re healing from something unimaginable or simply wondering how to get through your own hard season, this conversation will remind you that you’re not alone and healing is possible.

🔗 Learn more or pre-order Kim's new book, connect with Kim at:
www.kimberlyhaar.com
Kim Spence Mullen helps people share their story: Ready to tell your story? Visit:
www.yourstoryspeaks.com

In this special two-part series, I, Kim Spence Mullen, get to do something deeply personal and incredibly meaningful: interview my dear friend and co-host, Kim Haar.

In Part 1, Kim opens up about the night that changed everything when her ex-husband broke into her home, armed and dangerous, claiming to have killed her parents. What followed was a harrowing experience of kidnapping, emotional torment, and a shooting that nearly took the life of the man she loved.

But this isn’t just a story of trauma. It’s a story of survival, redemption, and the kind of hope you can only find when you dig deep, lean into faith and let God walk you through the valley.

🎧 Listen in as Kim shares how the darkest night of her life became the beginning of something redemptive and powerful.

🛑 Warning: This episode contains content related to domestic violence and may not be suitable for all listeners.

✨ Be sure to share this episode, and don’t miss your chance to support Kim’s powerful new book Healing From Life’s Deepest Hurts: Reclaiming Your Life After Grief, Loss, or Trauma — now available for preorder at www.kimberlyhaar.com.

What do you do when your child is hurting, and there’s nothing you can do to fix it? Whether they’re 7 or 70, watching your child suffer is one of the deepest heartaches a parent can face.

In this Keepin’ It Real conversation, we talk about the ache of watching our kids struggle, the prayers we whisper (or cry) in the dark, and the truth that God sees both of you. If you’ve been asking God for a sign about your child, this is it. He has not forgotten you. He has not forgotten them. He holds you both in the palm of His hand.

We’ll unpack how to walk with our kids through hard seasons, even when we can't fix what’s broken. And we’ll remind each other that God still has a purpose and a plan for their lives and yours.

❓Keepin’ It Real Question: Was there a time when you saw your child struggling and knew there was nothing you could do to fix it… How did you handle it?
We want to hear your heart. Please share in the comments or message us.

💻 Behind the Microphones:

Kim Haar is a licensed therapist in Tulsa, OK, and her brand-new book Healing From Life’s Deepest Hurts is almost here! Preorder your copy or learn more at:
👉 https://kimberlyhaar.com/healing-from-lifes-deepest-hurts-book/

Kim Spence Mullen is all things storytelling — from ghostwriting and book coaching to legacy stories and podcasting. You can reach Kim at www.yourstoryspeaks.com. She also leads The Women’s Fellowship - Tulsa, a monthly gathering of powerhouse women leaders in NE Oklahoma.

Both Kims are available for speaking events — connect with them through their websites!

We’re diving into the rollercoaster of emotions that come when the kids leave the nest. From excitement and freedom to unexpected tears and identity shifts, we’re talking stages, struggles, and sweet surprises.

Our Keepin It Real Question: What does your journey of empty nesting look like?

We’re keepin’ it real about the highs and lows and reminding each other that it’s okay if some stages are harder than others. You’re not just saying goodbye to a chapter — you’re stepping into a new role and discovering new things to look forward to in your life. Whether you’re an empty nester already or it’s on the horizon, this one’s for you. 💛

Join us at our websites to learn more about what we do when we're not behind the microphones!

Kim Haar : https://kimberlyhaar.com/healing-from-lifes-deepest-hurts-book/

Kim Spence Mullen : https://www.yourstoryspeaks.com/

Why is it so hard to ask for help? Why do we struggle to receive it? And what does it truly mean to offer help in a way that honors God? In this episode of Keepin’ It Real, we dive into the challenges and blessings of help—whether it's asking for it, receiving it with grace, or offering it with love.

As Christian women, we often feel the pressure to be strong and self-sufficient, but God designed us for community. Join us as we unpack the biblical perspective on help, share personal experiences, and challenge each other to step into both giving and receiving with faith.

Keepin’ It Real Question: Which of the three—asking, receiving, or offering help—do you find the hardest, and why? Send us your thoughts!

Keep an eye out for Kim Haar's new book - Healing From Life's Deepest Hurts: Reclaiming Your Life After Grief, Loss or Trauma is now available for pre-order. Go to www.Kimberlyhaar.com

If you're ready to start your book or podcast project, contact Kim Spence-Mullen at www.yourstoryspeaks.com