There’s a particular kind of woman people instinctively run to when life falls apart. She’s strong. She listens well. She prays. She shows up. And before she knows it, she’s carrying everyone else’s stories, struggles, and pain, often quietly, and usually without complaint.

In this episode of Keepin' It Real, Kimberly Haar and Kimberly Mullen talk honestly about what it’s like to be the go-to woman...the one people lean on, vent to, and expect always to have the strength, the words, and the faith to hold it all together.

We unpack the difference between being present and taking responsibility… between loving people well and slowly draining your own emotional and spiritual stamina. We talk about why you don’t have to fix, solve, or even respond with the perfect words, and how sometimes the most faithful thing you can do is let someone know you’re thinking about them and praying for them.

This conversation is a gentle reminder that just because you can carry something doesn’t mean you’re meant to. Ultimately, God is the One who carries burdens, not us.

Keepin’ It Real Question:
Are you the go-to person for friends and family? If so, how do you keep from wearing out?

Pull up a chair. This one feels like a conversation you didn’t know you needed.

There’s something undeniably powerful about a woman who shows up for another woman. Not in grand, cinematic moments—though those happen, too—but in the quiet, everyday ways that remind us we’re not walking this life alone.

This episode is all about that sacred gift: women showing up for women.

We’re talking about the friend who helps you pick out an outfit when you can’t decide.

The auntie-type who gives the kind of advice that saves you five years of heartache.

The sister in Christ who sits with you in silence when life knocks the breath out of you—no answers, just presence.

And yes… the woman who prays you through something you didn’t even have the words for.

These moments matter. They shape us. They steady us. They remind us that God often wraps His love in the voice, arms, and wisdom of another woman.

✨ Our Keepin’ It Real Question:
“Tell me about a time a woman showed up for you.”
Your story might be sweet, simple, hilarious—or holy. They all count.

Because here’s the truth:
Sometimes you’re the one who shows up.
And sometimes you’re the one who needs someone to show up for you.

That’s the beauty of genuine relationships.

Pull up a chair and join the conversation.

Burnout doesn’t always show up like a collapse — sometimes it sneaks in quietly, one “I’m fine” at a time. You’re doing all the things… serving, working, praying, saying yes… and yet something inside feels dim, off, disconnected.

In this conversation, we get real about what burnout looks like for women who genuinely love God but suddenly find the fire low, the joy thin, and the connection flickering.

We unpack the subtle signs most of us ignore — the irritability, the numbness, the going-through-the-motions. And we talk about why burnout doesn’t make you weak or unspiritual…it makes you human.

More importantly, we explore what it actually looks like to reignite the fire — not through guilt or striving, but through grace, rest, honesty, boundaries, and simple, practical shifts that create space for the Spirit to breathe again.

This one’s for the woman who’s been pushing, carrying, pouring out… and suddenly realizes she’s running on fumes.

Keepin’ It Real Question:

Have you ever found yourself doing all the things, but something still felt off — and later realized you were burned out? What did that look like for you?

Take a breath. Let the Lord meet you here. You’re not alone — and you’re not meant to burn out to prove your faith.

When someone’s words hit that tender spot…ouch! Criticism can sting — even when it seems small, unintentional, or wrapped in a tone we don’t prefer. And if we’re honest, our knee-jerk reactions usually tell the truth long before our heart catches up.

In this conversation, we pull back the curtain on what really happens inside us when we feel judged or criticized. We talk about the things we wish didn’t bother us — but do. We look at what Scripture says about guarding our hearts without hardening them. And we wrestle with the tricky balance: how to receive feedback without letting it define us and how to make sure we’re not becoming the very critical spirit we dislike in others.

This is a grace-filled, honest, sometimes funny, and deeply practical conversation about emotional maturity, spiritual growth, and what it looks like to stay steady when the sting is real.

Keepin’ It Real Question:
What is your knee-jerk reaction when you feel criticized? And why do you think that shows up the way it does?

If you’ve ever battled people-pleasing, defensiveness, overthinking, or the deep desire to crawl into a cave and not come out — this one's for you.

Lean in. Let God speak. Let your confidence settle in Him again.

Maybe it’s time to put away the cape — the one with the supersized “S” — and remember that strength isn’t in doing it all, it’s in depending on the One who already did it all.

We all know her, that woman who seems to do it all and make it look effortless. Somewhere along the way, many of us started believing we had to be her, too. But behind the cape, the smile, and the color-coded calendar is often a heart running on empty.

In this Keepin’ It Real episode, we unpack the myth that we have to be all things to all people. Through honest reflection and a little laughter, we talk about the idea that God never asked us to be Superwoman — just faithful women who know when to show up, when to rest, and when to hand it back to Him.

💭 Keepin’ It Real Question:
Are there areas in your life where you feel like you have to be all things to all people?
We’d love to hear your story and what topics you’d like us to dig into next on Keepin’ It Real.

We live in a world that applauds hustle, but hustle without boundaries leads to burnout. In this episode of Keepin’ It Real, we discuss the importance of balance, including knowing when to say yes, when to say no, and setting healthy guardrails that protect your energy, time, and peace. Boundaries aren’t barriers to keep people out; they’re bridges to keep you strong enough to stay in the game for the long haul.

From practical strategies to spiritual wisdom, we’ll look at how creating balance helps you avoid exhaustion and actually enjoy the life God has given you. If you’ve been running on empty, this one’s for you.

Our Keepin' It Real question: Is there something you love doing that takes up too much of your time?

Aging, it’s something we all do, but the way we think about it can either hold us back or set us free. In this episode of Keepin' It Real, we’re asking the hard but honest questions: What messages have we told ourselves about getting older? How has our perspective shifted from our 20s, 30s, 40s, and beyond? And how do cultural expectations of women play into the way we see ourselves in the mirror and in the world?

From gray hairs and laugh lines to wisdom and resilience, we’ll uncover the real story behind the aging process—what we lose, what we gain, and how we can learn to embrace the season we’re in with humor and authenticity.

💬 And the Keepin' It Real Question: What’s the most random thing that’s happened that made YOU feel older? You might just laugh (or groan) in recognition.

This is a candid, hope-filled conversation for every woman who has ever wondered, “Am I aging well?” and who longs to reframe the narrative of growing older with grace, courage, and perhaps even a little sass.

We've all been there, that moment when the apology we hoped for never came. Whether it was a betrayal, a deep hurt, or just a moment when someone should have known better... silence can sting. So what do we do with that?

In this episode of Keepin' It Real, we're talking about the apology you never received, how it made you feel, how you moved forward (or didn’t), and what healing can look like when closure doesn’t come the way we expected.

💭 How do we deal with the emotions that linger?
💔 What’s the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation?
🚧 When is it time to set boundaries, even after forgiveness?
🛠️ And what are some tangible ways we can begin to release the hurt and take back our peace?

We’re not handing out easy answers, but we are pulling up a seat for some real talk that just might shift your heart.

How about you? Have you ever felt owed an apology that never came? We’d love to hear your story.

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✨ Quick Reminders from Your Favorite Busy Ladies:

• Kim Haar’s new book Healing From Life’s Deepest Hurts is available now! Get your copy and stay up to date at www.kimberlyhaar.com.
• Don’t miss the RISE Conference coming to Tulsa on September 16th, hosted by The Women’s Fellowship! Join us for a God-infused half-day of powerful speakers, panelists, worship, and connection. Get all the details at www.thewomensfellowship.com under the RISE Conference tab.