Aging, it’s something we all do, but the way we think about it can either hold us back or set us free. In this episode of Keepin' It Real, we’re asking the hard but honest questions: What messages have we told ourselves about getting older? How has our perspective shifted from our 20s, 30s, 40s, and beyond? And how do cultural expectations of women play into the way we see ourselves in the mirror and in the world?

From gray hairs and laugh lines to wisdom and resilience, we’ll uncover the real story behind the aging process—what we lose, what we gain, and how we can learn to embrace the season we’re in with humor and authenticity.

💬 And the Keepin' It Real Question: What’s the most random thing that’s happened that made YOU feel older? You might just laugh (or groan) in recognition.

This is a candid, hope-filled conversation for every woman who has ever wondered, “Am I aging well?” and who longs to reframe the narrative of growing older with grace, courage, and perhaps even a little sass.

We've all been there, that moment when the apology we hoped for never came. Whether it was a betrayal, a deep hurt, or just a moment when someone should have known better... silence can sting. So what do we do with that?

In this episode of Keepin' It Real, we're talking about the apology you never received, how it made you feel, how you moved forward (or didn’t), and what healing can look like when closure doesn’t come the way we expected.

💭 How do we deal with the emotions that linger?
💔 What’s the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation?
🚧 When is it time to set boundaries, even after forgiveness?
🛠️ And what are some tangible ways we can begin to release the hurt and take back our peace?

We’re not handing out easy answers, but we are pulling up a seat for some real talk that just might shift your heart.

How about you? Have you ever felt owed an apology that never came? We’d love to hear your story.

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✨ Quick Reminders from Your Favorite Busy Ladies:

• Kim Haar’s new book Healing From Life’s Deepest Hurts is available now! Get your copy and stay up to date at www.kimberlyhaar.com.
• Don’t miss the RISE Conference coming to Tulsa on September 16th, hosted by The Women’s Fellowship! Join us for a God-infused half-day of powerful speakers, panelists, worship, and connection. Get all the details at www.thewomensfellowship.com under the RISE Conference tab.

Let’s keep it real: 72% of women say they’ve felt burned out in the last year—and honestly, we’re not surprised. When you’re juggling work, family, leadership, expectations, emotions, faith, and a group text thread that never stops… feeling stuck isn’t a sign of failure. It’s a sign you’ve been carrying a lot.

Call your friend and make time to listen together. Together, we’ll unpack the pressure of perfectionism, the paralysis that comes from cluttered minds, and the quiet toll of trying to do it all.

🎙️ Keepin’ It Real Question: When was a time when you felt stuck?

We also share practical, hope-filled steps to get out of survival mode—because being unstoppable doesn’t mean being superhuman. It means knowing when to ask for help, what to lay down, and how to find joy again.

💛 A little wisdom. A little laughter. A little “yeah, I'm with you.”

✨ Quick Reminders:

• Kim Haar’s new book Healing From Life’s Deepest Hurts is available now! Get your copy and stay up to date at www.kimberlyhaar.com.
• Kim Spence Mullen is leading the RISE Conference coming to Tulsa on September 16th, hosted by The Women’s Fellowship! Join us for a God-infused half-day of powerful speakers, panelists, worship, and connection. Get all the details at www.thewomensfellowship.com under the RISE Conference tab.

Let’s keep it real: people-pleasing might sound kind and selfless, but when helping others becomes a constant at your own expense, it’s time for a wake-up call. In this episode, we’re diving into what it looks like when your need to make everyone else happy starts draining your energy, your peace, and your purpose.

Do you ever feel like you’re not okay unless everyone else is okay? Do you find yourself saying yes before checking if it actually fits your life—or your calling? Are you worried about how others perceive you more than how you feel in your own soul?

🚨 Newsflash: If your value is tied to how much you're doing for others… it’s time to pause and check-in.

We’re talking about the signs, the traps, and the truth: sometimes God’s best "yes" for you is a holy “no.” Balance is key. Let’s explore it together.

🎙️ Keepin’ It Real Question:
Is people pleasing something you struggle with? What does that look like for you, and how does it show up in your life?

✨ Quick Reminders from Your Favorite Busy Ladies:

• Kim Haar’s new book Healing From Life’s Deepest Hurts is available now! Get your copy and stay up to date at www.kimberlyhaar.com.
• Don’t miss the RISE Conference coming to Tulsa on September 16th, hosted by The Women’s Fellowship! Join us for a God-infused half-day of powerful speakers, panelists, worship, and connection. Get all the details at www.thewomensfellowship.com under the RISE Conference tab.

We’re popping into your feed with a special bonus episode! Kim Haar’s powerful new book, Healing From Life’s Deepest Hurts, is out, and we couldn’t wait to give you a behind-the-scenes peek into the journey since release day. From long writing sessions to launch week miracles, it’s been a wild ride, and we’re so glad you’re on it with us.

The book is available wherever books are sold, but you can also visit www.kimberlyhaar.com to order your copy and stay up-to-date on Kim’s upcoming speaking engagements and resources.

And don’t forget to check in with Kim Spence Mullen’s world at www.thewomensfellowship.com and get the scoop on the RISE Conference coming to Tulsa on September 16th—you do not want to miss it!

We’re two busy ladies doing what we love, and we’re so thankful to have you walking alongside us. Now… back to our regularly scheduled programming! 😉

Yes, Kimberly Haar wrote her story to testify to God’s redemptive power after unimaginable pain… but this part? It’s for you.

In this final part of our powerful series with my co-host and author Kimberly Haar, we go deeper into the heartbeat behind her new book. And it's my (Kim Spence Mullen) favorite part!

Whether you’re carrying trauma, grief, heartbreak, or some hard-to-name weight, this conversation is a gentle guide through the healing process. Kim Haar shares how the very act of navigating loss becomes a roadmap for others. This episode is filled with hope, wisdom, and practical encouragement for anyone who has walked through something hard and is ready to move forward instead of staying stuck in it.

This isn’t just Kim’s story of healing.
It’s an invitation into your own.

Remember to pick up a copy of Healing From Life's Deepest Hurts, wherever books are sold!

✨ And hey—if this episode speaks to you, or if any of our Keepin’ It Real conversations have encouraged your heart, would you share them with your circle? You never know who might need the real, raw, and redeeming reminders that they’re not alone.

In this powerful Part 2 episode of Keepin’ It Real, co-host and author of Healing From Life’s Deepest Hurts: Reclaiming Your Life After Grief, Loss, or Trauma Kim Haar, LMFT, opens up about what happened after the unthinkable.

If you caught Part 1, you heard the moment her world was shattered in an act of violence that forever changed her life. Today, she invites us behind the curtain into the quiet, gritty work of healing mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and physically.

From navigating trauma recovery to the small daily moments where hope began to flicker again, Kim shares how she found her footing after the pain. This is a sacred glimpse into the “middle chapters” of her story, which are full of wrestling, rebuilding, and rediscovering purpose.

✨ Whether you’re healing from something unimaginable or simply wondering how to get through your own hard season, this conversation will remind you that you’re not alone and healing is possible.

🔗 Learn more or pre-order Kim's new book, connect with Kim at:
www.kimberlyhaar.com
Kim Spence Mullen helps people share their story: Ready to tell your story? Visit:
www.yourstoryspeaks.com

In this special two-part series, I, Kim Spence Mullen, get to do something deeply personal and incredibly meaningful: interview my dear friend and co-host, Kim Haar.

In Part 1, Kim opens up about the night that changed everything when her ex-husband broke into her home, armed and dangerous, claiming to have killed her parents. What followed was a harrowing experience of kidnapping, emotional torment, and a shooting that nearly took the life of the man she loved.

But this isn’t just a story of trauma. It’s a story of survival, redemption, and the kind of hope you can only find when you dig deep, lean into faith and let God walk you through the valley.

🎧 Listen in as Kim shares how the darkest night of her life became the beginning of something redemptive and powerful.

🛑 Warning: This episode contains content related to domestic violence and may not be suitable for all listeners.

✨ Be sure to share this episode, and don’t miss your chance to support Kim’s powerful new book Healing From Life’s Deepest Hurts: Reclaiming Your Life After Grief, Loss, or Trauma — now available for preorder at www.kimberlyhaar.com.