What's Really Beneath the Anger?

Have you ever found yourself feeling angry, frustrated, or upset and wondered why something bothered you so much? Sometimes what we're feeling on the surface is only part of the story.

In this episode of Keepin' It Real, we're checking our internal GPS and looking more closely at what's really going on beneath our emotions. Instead of talking ourselves out of being upset or letting anger take the wheel, what if we got curious about what we're really feeling?

Kim Haar introduces the concept of the anger iceberg—the idea that what we see on the surface may hide something much deeper. Hurt, disappointment, fear, rejection, or even the stories we've been telling ourselves can all shape how we respond.

We're also talking about the power of perspective. What happens when we begin to look at the person who hurt us through a different lens? Could understanding their story change the way we think about our own?

And here's something worth remembering: Anger isn't always bad. Sometimes it's the very emotion that alerts us to something that needs attention or even change.

So pull up a chair and join us for an honest conversation about anger, hurt, grace, and learning to understand what's happening in our hearts. Because sometimes the most important question isn't "Why am I so angry?" but "What's really going on beneath the surface?"

Bring Keepin’ It Real to Your Community

If you’re looking for a speaker for your women’s group, event, or gathering, we would be honored to come alongside you. Whether it’s a small, intimate circle or a larger room filled with women at every stage of life, our heart is the same—to connect, to uplift, and to spark something lasting. These aren’t just talks… they’re moments that stay with you, conversations that continue long after the event ends, and gentle reminders that God is at work in every story represented in the room.

If that resonates with you, we invite you to reach out. We’d be honored to learn more about your group and explore what it could look like to come alongside you.

Connect with us and let's talk! kim@yourstoryspeaks.com or kim@kimberlyhaar.com

There are certain seasons in a woman’s life when she looks around and wonders, Is it time for something to change?

Sometimes those moments arrive with a birthday. Sometimes with an empty nest, a career change, a relationship shift, a loss, a new opportunity—or simply the realization that the woman you were twenty years ago isn't exactly the woman you are today.

But reinvention doesn't mean taking an eraser to your life.

In this episode of Keepin’ It Real, we're talking about what it looks like to reinvent yourself without losing yourself. What would people be surprised to learn about who you were in your 20s, 40s—or even who you're becoming now? What have you carried with you? And what have you discovered it's okay to leave behind?

Because sometimes change isn't about a new haircut, makeup, wardrobe, or color palette. (Although we're certainly not opposed to any of those!)

It's something deeper.

We're not lost. We're not running away from who we've been or desperately trying to become somebody else. We're allowing ourselves to grow—and asking the Lord, “Who are You calling me to be in this season?”

Maybe reinvention isn't really about becoming someone new at all.

Maybe it's about giving God permission to uncover more of the woman He created you to be all along.

And we'd love to keep this conversation going beyond the podcast. If you host a podcast, conference, women's event, church group, or gathering and think your audience would enjoy this conversation, we'd love to talk about joining you.

Because wherever you are in your story, we believe there is still more ahead.

You don't have to erase who you've been to make room for who you're becoming.

Bring Keepin’ It Real to Your Community

If you’re looking for a speaker for your women’s group, event, or gathering, we would be honored to come alongside you. Whether it’s a small, intimate circle or a larger room filled with women at every stage of life, our heart is the same—to connect, to uplift, and to spark something lasting. These aren’t just talks… they’re moments that stay with you, conversations that continue long after the event ends, and gentle reminders that God is at work in every story represented in the room.

If that resonates with you, we invite you to reach out. We’d be honored to learn more about your group and explore what it could look like to come alongside you.

Connect with us and let's talk! kim@yourstoryspeaks.com or kim@kimberlyhaar.com

Take a look back at your life five years ago. Who did you talk to all the time? Who was part of your everyday world? Now look at your life today. Chances are, the picture has changed.

In this episode of Keepin’ It Real, we’re talking about the natural shifts that happen in our relationships as life moves forward. Sometimes people move away. Seasons change. Kids grow up. Jobs change. We get older. Priorities shift. And yes, sometimes we simply outgrow a relationship, or realize it belonged beautifully to a particular season.

That doesn’t mean something went wrong.

We talk about the harder side of those transitions, too: What do you do when someone who once played a significant role in your life simply isn’t part of it anymore? How do you honor what a relationship was without believing you have to somehow recreate it? And how do you stay open to the new people God may be bringing into your life?

Growing is a good thing. And sometimes part of growing is recognizing that not everyone is meant to occupy the same place in every chapter.

You’re not necessarily losing something. You may simply be making room for what—and who—is part of the season ahead.

Pull up a chair and join us. We’re Keepin’ It Real about friendships, changing seasons, letting go without bitterness, and trusting that God knows exactly who we need along the way.

Bring Keepin’ It Real to Your Community

If you’re looking for a speaker for your women’s group, event, or gathering, we would be honored to come alongside you. Whether it’s a small, intimate circle or a larger room filled with women at every stage of life, our heart is the same—to connect, to uplift, and to spark something lasting. These aren’t just talks… they’re moments that stay with you, conversations that continue long after the event ends, and gentle reminders that God is at work in every story represented in the room.

If that resonates with you, we invite you to reach out. We’d be honored to learn more about your group and explore what it could look like to come alongside you.

Connect with us and let's talk! kim@yourstoryspeaks.com or kim@kimberlyhaar.com

Who says you have to wait until December to share the things you love?

In this fun, lighthearted episode, we're pulling up a chair and swapping some of our favorite finds, from little everyday treasures and practical life-givers to things that simply make us smile. Some are useful, some are meaningful, and a few are just plain fun!

We're sharing the first 10 favorites in the show notes, but trust us...we couldn't stop at just ten. If you hear something during the episode that you'd like to know more about, we'd love to hear from you! Just send us a DM or email us using the contact information in our podcast listing, and we'll be happy to point you in the right direction.

Keepin' It Real Question:
What's one item you own that always makes you smile or has become one of your favorite things—and why?

We hope this episode inspires you to celebrate the little things, discover something new, and maybe even start your own list of favorites. After all, joy is often found in the smallest, most unexpected places.

Bring Keepin’ It Real to Your Community

If you’re looking for a speaker for your women’s group, event, or gathering, we would be honored to come alongside you. Whether it’s a small, intimate circle or a larger room filled with women at every stage of life, our heart is the same—to connect, to uplift, and to spark something lasting. These aren’t just talks… they’re moments that stay with you, conversations that continue long after the event ends, and gentle reminders that God is at work in every story represented in the room.

If that resonates with you, we invite you to reach out. We’d be honored to learn more about your group and explore what it could look like to come alongside you.

Connect with us and let's talk! kim@yourstoryspeaks.com or kim@kimberlyhaar.com

Church is supposed to be a place of hope, healing, and belonging...so what happens when the deepest hurt comes from inside its walls?

In this heartfelt conversation, we're keeping it real about church hurt—the words that wounded, the relationships that broke, the disappointments that linger, and why so many people quietly walk away. If you've ever found yourself wondering whether it's safer to love Jesus from a distance than risk being hurt again, you're not alone.

Together we'll talk about the difference between God's heart and people's imperfections, why pain caused by people doesn't change God's character, and how healing doesn't always begin with returning to a building—but with allowing the Lord to restore trust, one step at a time.

If you've been carrying disappointment, anger, or grief because of your church experience, we hope this conversation reminds you that your story isn't over. God still sees you, still loves you, and still designed you for authentic community. Healing is possible, and sometimes the first step is simply believing that your past doesn't have to define your future.

Bring Keepin’ It Real to Your Community

If you’re looking for a speaker for your women’s group, event, or gathering, we would be honored to come alongside you. Whether it’s a small, intimate circle or a larger room filled with women at every stage of life, our heart is the same—to connect, to uplift, and to spark something lasting. These aren’t just talks… they’re moments that stay with you, conversations that continue long after the event ends, and gentle reminders that God is at work in every story represented in the room.

If that resonates with you, we invite you to reach out. We’d be honored to learn more about your group and explore what it could look like to come alongside you.

Connect with us and let's talk! kim@yourstoryspeaks.com or kim@kimberlyhaar.com

If you joined us for Part 1 of our conversation on menopause, thanks for coming back. And if this is your first time with us...pull up a chair. We're so glad you're here.

One thing we've discovered is that when women start talking honestly about what's happening with their health, something amazing happens—we realize we're not the only ones. So many of us have thought, "Is this just me?" or "Why didn't anyone tell me this?"

That's exactly why we're having this conversation.

Here on Keepin' It Real, we're going to keep it real about our health, too. We're laughing through some of it, learning through all of it, and reminding each other that there is absolutely no shame in asking questions or sharing our experiences.

Whether you're driving to work, folding laundry, walking the dog, or just needing a friend for a little while—we're grateful you're here. We hope every episode reminds you that you are seen, valued, and never walking alone.

So settle in... because today we're talking about navigating the changes, finding what helps, and, maybe most importantly, discovering there is still so much to look forward to.

Keepin' It Real Question

What is one thing you've started to do in this season that is helping you feel more like yourself?

In this episode, we talk about:

• The moment many of us realize our bodies have changed.
• Why exhaustion isn't something we can always "push through" anymore.
• Learning to listen to what our bodies are telling us instead of fighting them.
• How paying attention to our emotional well-being is just as important as caring for our physical health.
• The practical things we're trying that are helping us feel stronger, healthier, and more like ourselves again.
• And best of all...why menopause isn't the end of something beautiful—it can actually be the beginning of a season filled with wisdom, confidence, freedom, and purpose.

Because while our bodies may change...our purpose doesn't.

So grab your favorite drink, pull up a chair, and join the conversation. We think you'll leave encouraged...and maybe even excited about what's ahead.

Bring Keepin’ It Real to Your Community

If you’re looking for a speaker for your women’s group, event, or gathering, we would be honored to come alongside you. Whether it’s a small, intimate circle or a larger room filled with women at every stage of life, our heart is the same—to connect, to uplift, and to spark something lasting. These aren’t just talks… they’re moments that stay with you, conversations that continue long after the event ends, and gentle reminders that God is at work in every story represented in the room.

If that resonates with you, we invite you to reach out. We’d be honored to learn more about your group and explore what it could look like to come alongside you.

Connect with us and let's talk! kim@yourstoryspeaks.com or kim@kimberlyhaar.com

Menopause. The season where you can walk into a room and forget why you're there, need a sweater and a fan at the exact same time, and cry over a commercial about puppies...all before lunch.

In this episode of Keepin' It Real, we tackle the often hilarious, sometimes frustrating, and very real journey of menopause. From hot flashes and brain fog to sleep struggles, changing bodies, and shifting emotions, we're talking about the things women whisper about, but rarely discuss openly.

We'll share stories, laughter, encouragement, and a reminder that this season doesn't mean you're losing yourself. In many ways, it can be the beginning of discovering a stronger, wiser, and more confident version of who God created you to be.

Whether you're in the middle of menopause, approaching it, or supporting someone who is, pull up a chair and join the conversation. You're not alone—and yes, someone else is carrying a fan in her purse too.

Listen for the Keepin' it Real Question in this episode, and email us and tell us about your answer! We'd love to hear from you!

Scripture Encouragement:

"Even to your old age and gray hairs I am He, I am He who will sustain you." — Isaiah 46:4

Because while hormones may change, God's faithfulness never does.

Bring Keepin’ It Real to Your Community

If you’re looking for a speaker for your women’s group, event, or gathering, we would be honored to come alongside you. Whether it’s a small, intimate circle or a larger room filled with women at every stage of life, our heart is the same—to connect, to uplift, and to spark something lasting. These aren’t just talks… they’re moments that stay with you, conversations that continue long after the event ends, and gentle reminders that God is at work in every story represented in the room.

If that resonates with you, we invite you to reach out. We’d be honored to learn more about your group and explore what it could look like to come alongside you.

Connect with us and let's talk! kim@yourstoryspeaks.com or kim@kimberlyhaar.com

There may be nothing harder than watching someone you love make choices you know could hurt them. Especially when it’s your child. Whether they’re little or fully grown, the ache can feel the same… the sleeplessness, the prayers, the wondering, and the hope that refuses to completely let go.

In this episode of Keepin’ It Real, we talk honestly about how to hold on to faith when things feel painfully out of our hands.

We unpack the story of the prodigal son and the powerful reminder that the father let him go.

We discuss what it means to “unblend” our lives emotionally, remembering that our children belong to God first before they were ever entrusted to us.

And we talk about hope. The kind that keeps praying. The kind that stands at the window, believing God is still writing the story. Because mama bear prayers? They matter more than we know.

Keepin’ It Real Question:
Have you ever had to love someone who was making choices you knew could hurt them, but you felt completely powerless to help?

Bring Keepin’ It Real to Your Community

If you’re looking for a speaker for your women’s group, event, or gathering, we would be honored to come alongside you. Whether it’s a small, intimate circle or a larger room filled with women at every stage of life, our heart is the same—to connect, to uplift, and to spark something lasting. These aren’t just talks… they’re moments that stay with you, conversations that continue long after the event ends, and gentle reminders that God is at work in every story represented in the room.

If that resonates with you, we invite you to reach out. We’d be honored to learn more about your group and explore what it could look like to come alongside you.

Connect with us and let's talk! kim@yourstoryspeaks.com or kim@kimberlyhaar.com