When someone’s words hit that tender spot…ouch! Criticism can sting — even when it seems small, unintentional, or wrapped in a tone we don’t prefer. And if we’re honest, our knee-jerk reactions usually tell the truth long before our heart catches up.

In this conversation, we pull back the curtain on what really happens inside us when we feel judged or criticized. We talk about the things we wish didn’t bother us — but do. We look at what Scripture says about guarding our hearts without hardening them. And we wrestle with the tricky balance: how to receive feedback without letting it define us and how to make sure we’re not becoming the very critical spirit we dislike in others.

This is a grace-filled, honest, sometimes funny, and deeply practical conversation about emotional maturity, spiritual growth, and what it looks like to stay steady when the sting is real.

Keepin’ It Real Question:
What is your knee-jerk reaction when you feel criticized? And why do you think that shows up the way it does?

If you’ve ever battled people-pleasing, defensiveness, overthinking, or the deep desire to crawl into a cave and not come out — this one's for you.

Lean in. Let God speak. Let your confidence settle in Him again.

Maybe it’s time to put away the cape — the one with the supersized “S” — and remember that strength isn’t in doing it all, it’s in depending on the One who already did it all.

We all know her, that woman who seems to do it all and make it look effortless. Somewhere along the way, many of us started believing we had to be her, too. But behind the cape, the smile, and the color-coded calendar is often a heart running on empty.

In this Keepin’ It Real episode, we unpack the myth that we have to be all things to all people. Through honest reflection and a little laughter, we talk about the idea that God never asked us to be Superwoman — just faithful women who know when to show up, when to rest, and when to hand it back to Him.

💭 Keepin’ It Real Question:
Are there areas in your life where you feel like you have to be all things to all people?
We’d love to hear your story and what topics you’d like us to dig into next on Keepin’ It Real.

We live in a world that applauds hustle, but hustle without boundaries leads to burnout. In this episode of Keepin’ It Real, we discuss the importance of balance, including knowing when to say yes, when to say no, and setting healthy guardrails that protect your energy, time, and peace. Boundaries aren’t barriers to keep people out; they’re bridges to keep you strong enough to stay in the game for the long haul.

From practical strategies to spiritual wisdom, we’ll look at how creating balance helps you avoid exhaustion and actually enjoy the life God has given you. If you’ve been running on empty, this one’s for you.

Our Keepin' It Real question: Is there something you love doing that takes up too much of your time?

Aging, it’s something we all do, but the way we think about it can either hold us back or set us free. In this episode of Keepin' It Real, we’re asking the hard but honest questions: What messages have we told ourselves about getting older? How has our perspective shifted from our 20s, 30s, 40s, and beyond? And how do cultural expectations of women play into the way we see ourselves in the mirror and in the world?

From gray hairs and laugh lines to wisdom and resilience, we’ll uncover the real story behind the aging process—what we lose, what we gain, and how we can learn to embrace the season we’re in with humor and authenticity.

💬 And the Keepin' It Real Question: What’s the most random thing that’s happened that made YOU feel older? You might just laugh (or groan) in recognition.

This is a candid, hope-filled conversation for every woman who has ever wondered, “Am I aging well?” and who longs to reframe the narrative of growing older with grace, courage, and perhaps even a little sass.

We've all been there, that moment when the apology we hoped for never came. Whether it was a betrayal, a deep hurt, or just a moment when someone should have known better... silence can sting. So what do we do with that?

In this episode of Keepin' It Real, we're talking about the apology you never received, how it made you feel, how you moved forward (or didn’t), and what healing can look like when closure doesn’t come the way we expected.

💭 How do we deal with the emotions that linger?
💔 What’s the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation?
🚧 When is it time to set boundaries, even after forgiveness?
🛠️ And what are some tangible ways we can begin to release the hurt and take back our peace?

We’re not handing out easy answers, but we are pulling up a seat for some real talk that just might shift your heart.

How about you? Have you ever felt owed an apology that never came? We’d love to hear your story.

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✨ Quick Reminders from Your Favorite Busy Ladies:

• Kim Haar’s new book Healing From Life’s Deepest Hurts is available now! Get your copy and stay up to date at www.kimberlyhaar.com.
• Don’t miss the RISE Conference coming to Tulsa on September 16th, hosted by The Women’s Fellowship! Join us for a God-infused half-day of powerful speakers, panelists, worship, and connection. Get all the details at www.thewomensfellowship.com under the RISE Conference tab.

Let’s keep it real: 72% of women say they’ve felt burned out in the last year—and honestly, we’re not surprised. When you’re juggling work, family, leadership, expectations, emotions, faith, and a group text thread that never stops… feeling stuck isn’t a sign of failure. It’s a sign you’ve been carrying a lot.

Call your friend and make time to listen together. Together, we’ll unpack the pressure of perfectionism, the paralysis that comes from cluttered minds, and the quiet toll of trying to do it all.

🎙️ Keepin’ It Real Question: When was a time when you felt stuck?

We also share practical, hope-filled steps to get out of survival mode—because being unstoppable doesn’t mean being superhuman. It means knowing when to ask for help, what to lay down, and how to find joy again.

💛 A little wisdom. A little laughter. A little “yeah, I'm with you.”

✨ Quick Reminders:

• Kim Haar’s new book Healing From Life’s Deepest Hurts is available now! Get your copy and stay up to date at www.kimberlyhaar.com.
• Kim Spence Mullen is leading the RISE Conference coming to Tulsa on September 16th, hosted by The Women’s Fellowship! Join us for a God-infused half-day of powerful speakers, panelists, worship, and connection. Get all the details at www.thewomensfellowship.com under the RISE Conference tab.

Let’s keep it real: people-pleasing might sound kind and selfless, but when helping others becomes a constant at your own expense, it’s time for a wake-up call. In this episode, we’re diving into what it looks like when your need to make everyone else happy starts draining your energy, your peace, and your purpose.

Do you ever feel like you’re not okay unless everyone else is okay? Do you find yourself saying yes before checking if it actually fits your life—or your calling? Are you worried about how others perceive you more than how you feel in your own soul?

🚨 Newsflash: If your value is tied to how much you're doing for others… it’s time to pause and check-in.

We’re talking about the signs, the traps, and the truth: sometimes God’s best "yes" for you is a holy “no.” Balance is key. Let’s explore it together.

🎙️ Keepin’ It Real Question:
Is people pleasing something you struggle with? What does that look like for you, and how does it show up in your life?

✨ Quick Reminders from Your Favorite Busy Ladies:

• Kim Haar’s new book Healing From Life’s Deepest Hurts is available now! Get your copy and stay up to date at www.kimberlyhaar.com.
• Don’t miss the RISE Conference coming to Tulsa on September 16th, hosted by The Women’s Fellowship! Join us for a God-infused half-day of powerful speakers, panelists, worship, and connection. Get all the details at www.thewomensfellowship.com under the RISE Conference tab.

We’re popping into your feed with a special bonus episode! Kim Haar’s powerful new book, Healing From Life’s Deepest Hurts, is out, and we couldn’t wait to give you a behind-the-scenes peek into the journey since release day. From long writing sessions to launch week miracles, it’s been a wild ride, and we’re so glad you’re on it with us.

The book is available wherever books are sold, but you can also visit www.kimberlyhaar.com to order your copy and stay up-to-date on Kim’s upcoming speaking engagements and resources.

And don’t forget to check in with Kim Spence Mullen’s world at www.thewomensfellowship.com and get the scoop on the RISE Conference coming to Tulsa on September 16th—you do not want to miss it!

We’re two busy ladies doing what we love, and we’re so thankful to have you walking alongside us. Now… back to our regularly scheduled programming! 😉