Shaunie Henderson breaks the mold of the traditional First Lady of a church. The television star’s transition from basketball wife to pastor’s wife came with many unexpected challenges, including excessive public scrutiny and unrealistic expectations. In this revealing episode, Lighthouse Church’s first couple explore the delicate balancing act Shaunie navigates daily –between assumption and authenticity. They also discuss why they believe some religious norms and expectations are more cultural “pageantry” than Biblical wisdom. As First Lady, Shaunie says she’s more committed to “embodying her role instead of explaining it.” Less concerned with “quoting Bible scriptures” and “being untouchable,” she’s dedicated to “showing more grace and being relatable.” As a highly visible pastor with his own challenges, Keion affirms that Shaunie “should have as much latitude” to express herself in her role as he does.

Key episode insights include how authenticity makes you a stronger leader, why your character should always outrank your title, and how transparency sets you apart. For the Hendersons, “growing in your truth” means knowing your lane and being clear on what expectations you allow yourself to be influenced by. After all, as Keion questions, “Who can lead anybody when you lose yourself?”

Driven by the belief that “without a vision, the people perish,” Keion and Shaunie Henderson are on a mission to thrive in their marriage. Soon after getting married, Keion –the self-appointed “technocrat”– sat with Shaunie, notebook in hand, to lay out a detailed vision for their union. Despite being a self-professed “winger,” Shaunie recalls how refreshing it was to unite around their purpose, and define the kind of relationship they wanted. A marriage mission may sound like rigid rules, but it’s actually a roadmap to a strong and lasting relationship. As Keion asks, “If you don’t know where you’re going, how will you ever know when you get there?” In this episode, the couple describes 3 relationship frameworks –A-frame, H-frame, and M-frame – and explain why they are committed to building an M-frame relationship.

The Hendersons say they nurture their marriage mission by practicing “10-Minute Wednesdays,” a communication exercise that helps them hash out misunderstandings and actively listen to and learn from one another. Listen and learn why the Hendersons’ marriage isn’t 50/50, why Shaunie believes “submission isn’t a bad word,” and why a marriage mission is ever-evolving. Commiting to the vision of a marriage requires much growth on the inside, but Keion reminds us, “if you fail to plan, you plan to fail.”

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As the lead pastor of a mega-church and executive producer of the reality TV series Basketball Wives, Keion and Shaunie couldn’t appear more different. The Indiana native and LA transplant hail from very distinct worlds. So how do they come together to make their marriage work? Delving into what they dub the 3Cs of a healthy relationship –compromise, compassion, and communication– the faith and culture powerhouses unpack how embracing their differences strengthens their interpersonal dynamic. In this episode, they share why there are “levels to grace,” why “knowing when to communicate is a sign of maturity,” how “compromise doesn’t always have to be verbal,” and the reason Keion keeps a notebook full of his thoughts about Shaunie.

The Hendersons' commitment to growth on the inside has enabled them to spend less time identifying their differences and more time appreciating them. But their most important lesson has been prioritizing each other’s needs. Growth becomes a joint inside job when each individual puts their partner first, never allowing them to wonder if they will get their needs met.

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The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle.

How did a Pastor get with a Reality TV Mogul? Find out on this episode. Keion shows himself on a different level and listen to Shaunie in a new, evolved space in life from Basketball Wives. It’s almost like an introduction as a couple, as a unit. This is the backstory, to the lovestory we all have been waiting for. Who's side is the truth? We'll let you decide!