At 31 weeks pregnant, Emi Nietfeld’s nightmare came true. Her baby was breech. In the weeks that followed, she did everything she possibly could to try and flip her kid: chiropractic adjustments, acupuncture, Spinning Babies… all the way to ECV (External Cephalic Version).

Emi tried EVERYTHING to avoid a C-section. Tune in for an honest and detailed account of her experience, the challenges she faced, and why more moms should know about their options

00:18 Getting the Bad News

02:22 Chiropractic! Acupuncture! Lying upside while patting my head and rubbing my belly!

08:09 My ECV experience

12:36 What I learned on this stressful journey

RESOURCES:

Evidence Based Birth on ECV:

https://evidencebasedbirth.com/what-is-the-evidence-for-using-an-external-cephalic-version-to-turn-a-breech-baby/

Evidence Based Birth episodes on breech vaginal birth:

https://evidencebasedbirth.com/ebb-296-evidence-on-breech-birth-with-dr-rebecca-dekker-and-sara-ailshire-ma/

https://evidencebasedbirth.com/breech-vaginal-birth-with-dr-rixa-freeze-and-dr-david-hayes/

Spinning Babies: https://www.spinningbabies.com/

New York Times piece on breech babies: https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/15/parenting/pregnancy/breech-baby-turning.html

Vaginal breech birth: https://www.elle.com/life-love/a44842/decline-of-breech-birth/

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Best friends Ren Lu and Emi Nietfeld, both 31-year old new moms, contemplate the question: what have we done?!

So many people are deciding not to have kids. (Emi was almost one of them.) So why did we decide to have kids of our own? And why now? (Spoiler: “now” isn’t always Plan A.)

We dish on reluctant partners, cultural expectations, f-ed up families, and the real F-word (fertility) as we navigate through the fog of war and ask: who are we? And: “was having kids worth it?”

01:14 Ren's Journey to Motherhood: wanting to be a mom but struggling to find the right guy who’s ready

02:25 Emi's Journey to Parenting: why she wasn’t sure she wanted to be a parent, and the things that changed her mind.

09:00 Ren’s devastating diagnosis of diminished ovarian reserve

13:45 Maternity leave as a self-employed mom

20:42 Emi’s egg freezing journey gone wrong

22:22 Why Emi doesn’t want to be called a “Mom”

29:38 So, have our screaming potatoes changed us yet?

35:12 Is mom brain real? Are we more productive than ever?

37:01 Is Having a Kid Worth It?

RESOURCES:

New York Times Story - Kids? A Growing Number of Americans Say, ‘No, Thanks.’ https://www.nytimes.com/2024/07/25/well/mind/child-free-adults-pew-study.html

Ariel Levy’s New Yorker Piece - Thanksgiving in Mongolia

https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2013/11/18/thanksgiving-in-mongolia

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Emi Nietfeld

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Read Acceptance: bit.ly/AcceptanceMemoir

Newsletter: https://eminietfeld.substack.com/

Yiren Lu

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X: @yirenlu

Ren’s Technical Content Agency, Frindle: https://www.tryfrindle.com/