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  • Recovering from Therapist Abandonment & Narcissistic Abuse: Stop Feeling Worthless
    2025/10/30
    Is talking about your emotions actually hurting your healing? Licensed therapist Kati Morton dives deep into the non-linear reality of healing, tackling feelings of meaninglessness, navigating forced therapy, and how to recover from therapist abandonment. Discover the key difference between therapeutic processing and harmful rumination, learn what narcissistic abuse looks like, and find out how to get unstuck from survival mode and self-sabotage. Audience Questions: 0:43 - Q1: When Does Talking About Emotions Become Negative? ("...at what point does talking about your motion emotions have a negative effect?" / "...I would rather skip the talking and go straight to the homework...") 8:59 - Q2: Dealing with the Feeling of Meaninglessness ("How do I deal with the feeling of meaninglessness? I'm a successful girl by society standards... But I don't feel any excitement about anything...") ** Shopping with our sponsors helps support the show and allows us to continue bringing you these important conversations about mental health. Please check out this week's special offer: Get 15% off Branch Basics with the code KATI at https://branchbasics.com/KATI 13:49 - Q3: How to Recover from Feeling Abandoned by Your Therapist ("How do I get over feeling worthless even when not even my therapist seems to care.") 19:39 - Q4: The Effects of Toxic Narcissistic Abuse on Healing ("It feels like I'm stuck in a loop. Like I keep sabotaging myself." / "My life revolved around her. She'd get mad if I didn't go out with her...") 26:22 - Q5: Stuck in Survival Mode After Leaving an Abusive Home ("...moving away from home to college because of my abusive parents... I thought moving away would get me out of survival mode, it didn't.") 31:09 - Q6: How to Fix Life Once You Figure Out "The Why" ("...after one figures out why life has turned out the way it did, how does one quote unquote fix that?") 37:57 - Q7: Working on Being Less Hard on Yourself ("I'm very hard on myself and have two higher expectations... Do you have any other methods that can help me work on being less hard on myself?") My new book is available for pre-order: Why Do I Keep Doing This? → https://geni.us/XoyLSQ If you’ve ever felt stuck, this book is for you. I’d be so grateful for your support. Ask Kati Anything ep. 286 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT MY BOOKS Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPY (enjoy 10% off your first month) While I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: https://betterhelp.com/kati PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Disclaimer The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    46 分
  • Are Your Hormones Making Focus Harder (Menopause & ADHD Meds)
    2025/10/24
    Today's questions are very interesting! Everything from breaking the habit of nail biting and skin picking, to navigating comparison, perfectionism, and imposter syndrome. We’ll also talk about menopause, how it can affect mood, depression, and even how ADHD medications work plus what happens when your diagnosis suddenly changes and you’re left wondering who to believe. And finally, we’ll explore what it’s like to be diagnosed with ADHD later in life, after years of being told it was something else entirely. So whether you’re here to better understand your own mental health, or you just love learning more about how our brains and emotions work, this episode is full of real questions, honest conversations, and practical takeaways you can actually use. My new book is available for pre-order: Why Do I Keep Doing This? → https://geni.us/XoyLSQ If you’ve ever felt stuck, this book is for you. I’d be so grateful for your support. Audience questions: (01:03) How do I stop biting my nails? (Compulsion to pick at skin/nails) (09:54) I keep comparing myself to other people, perfectionism, and imposter syndrome. (20:01) Thoughts about menopause and how it affects depression. (25:21) Is it true that menopause hinders ADHD meds from working? (30:26) What are some things I can do to improve my communication skills with my partner? (41:00) Identity shift with a change in diagnosis (ADHD/ASD vs. OCPD) and who to believe. (51:43) Women being diagnosed with ADHD later in life (55+) and misdiagnosis with bipolar disorder. Sponsors: I want to take a moment to give a kind word of thanks to the companies that support this podcast. Shopping with our sponsors helps support the show and allows us to continue bringing you these important conversations about mental health. Please check out this week's partners and their special offers: • Headspace: Get 60 days FREE www.Headspace.com/AskKati • Fabletics: 80% off everything for new VIP members www.Fabletics.com/Kati • Crowd Health: Get your first three months for just $99 www.JoinCrowdHealth.com | use code ASKKATI • One Skin: 15% off www.OneSkin.co | use code KATI Ask Kati Anything ep. 285 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT My original YouTube Channel www.youtube.com/@Katimorton #podcast #therapist #katimorton MY BOOKS Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    59 分
  • MDMA, Oxytocin, & Empathy: The Neuroscientist on How Connection Rewires Your Brain | Dr. Ben Rein
    2025/10/16
    Today, Kati sits down with neuroscientist Dr. Ben Rein, to dive into the social connection and the growing loneliness epidemic. Dr. Rein, author of Why Brains Need Friends, explains how your brain is fundamentally wired for interaction, why isolation is a biological stressor, and what you can do to improve your social health. In this must-watch episode, Dr. Rein explains the mechanical changes happening in your brain during isolation and clarifies why the U.S. Surgeon General has declared a loneliness epidemic. You'll learn the surprising truth about isolation and physical health—it can cause stress hormones like cortisol to rise within days and is associated with more adverse health outcomes. Dr. Rein also reveals the science behind why isolation can make people more irritable and even angry, linking it to the body's natural stress response. Kati and Dr. Rein discuss the difference between in-person and digital interactions, noting that less "lifelike" communication strips away vital social cues like eye contact, body language, and even smell, leading to fewer mood benefits. Dr. Rein introduces the concept of a "Social Diet" and social journaling—practical tools to help you identify which interactions energize you ("breath in" relationships) versus those that leave you depleted. The conversation takes fascinating turns into the role of brain chemicals like oxytocin and serotonin in social reward and the development of empathy. Plus, discover the incredible, innate ability of dogs to detect physiological stress signals and the science of how pets help children develop crucial social skills. By shopping with our sponsors, you help support our podcast: Green Chef https://www.greenchef.com/50ASKKATI HeadSpace https://www.headspace.com/ASKKATI Timestamps 00:00 - Introduction to Dr. Ben Rein, neuroscientist and author of Why Brains Need Friends. 02:54 - The neuroscience behind loneliness-induced anger and why isolation is treated as a stressor by the body. 05:57 - Debunking the myth: Do introverts benefit from social interaction, and in what dose? 10:48 - The evolutionary reason we are wired for social reward, and the key brain chemicals involved: dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin. 15:40 - A discussion on MDMA, serotonin depletion, and the severity of the drug's comedown. 21:11 - The shocking statistics on increasing time spent alone in modern society (36 hours more per month). 28:22 - What is "inter brain synchrony," and can it happen over a text message?. 35:47 - The power of social smells: how tears can reduce aggression and how a mother's scent affects a baby's brain synchrony. 41:51 - Why growing up with dogs helps children develop empathy and fewer conduct problems. 48:53 - The powerful therapeutic properties of oxytocin (anti-inflammatory, neuroprotective) beyond just social connection. Ask Kati Anything ep. 284 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT Today's guest is Dr. Ben Rein https://www.youtube.com/@dr.benrein Order Ben's new book Why Brains Need Friends → https://geni.us/WhyBrainsNeedFriends My new book Why Do I Keep Doing This? is available for pre-order! https://geni.us/XoyLSQ If you’ve ever felt stuck, this book is for you. I’d be so grateful for your support. MY BOOKS Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPY (enjoy 10% off your first month) While I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: https://betterhelp.com/kati PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    56 分
  • Can You Be a Good Friend While Struggling? Boundaries, self-care & healing trauma
    2025/10/09
    Are you struggling to support a friend's mental health crisis while battling your own? This essential episode of Ask Kati Anything dives deep into setting healthy boundaries in tough friendships, tackling the crucial question of how to protect your peace without guilt. We also explore the often-misunderstood journey of relapse and recovery, the profound search for meaning when life feels empty due to depression, and offer vital insights into eating disorders at different life stages, from early struggles to fears about pregnancy and being a role model. Plus, discover whether day-to-day anxiety truly serves a purpose, how to navigate a forgetful therapist, and the emotional impact of chronic illness and bullying. My new book is available for pre-order: Why Do I Keep Doing This? → https://geni.us/XoyLSQ If you’ve ever felt stuck, this book is for you. I’d be so grateful for your support. Episode Timestamps: 00:44 - q1 What to do when supporting a struggling friend begins to trigger your own pain. 08:31 - q2 Could you talk about best practices for staying out of the hospital and about the stigma around relapse and recovery? 17:00 - q3 How can any meaning in life be found when it takes action to find meaning? 21:59 - q4 I'm almost 28 years old and have been struggling with anorexia for six years and eating disorder behaviors for more than half my life. 29:26 - q5 I was wondering if I have an eating disorder. 33:51 - q6 Does day-to-day anxiety actually serve a purpose like other emotions? 38:16 - q7 Can you please talk about therapy and how to handle a forgetful therapist? 42:47 - q8 Could you cover the correlation of chronic illnesses or chronic pain like a leg disability... and mental health issues? Ask Kati Anything ep. 283 | your weekly mental health podcast hosted by licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton, where she answers your most pressing mental health questions with compassion, expertise, and actionable advice. Support Our Show by Checking Out Our Sponsors We're able to bring you these important conversations thanks to the support of our incredible sponsors. Please take a moment to visit them and learn more about what they offer! BetterHelp - Our listeners get 10% off their first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/katipod October 10th is World Mental Health Day, and BetterHelp is celebrating the therapists who make healing possible. If you're ready to find the right therapist for you, BetterHelp can help you start that journey. Blissy - as a listener, receive your 60 nights risk-free plus an additional 30% off when you shop at https://blissy.com/askkatipod and use code askkatipod MY BOOKS Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co DISCLAIMER The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    53 分
  • "Am I stuck in survival mode?"
    2025/10/02
    Today, I'm answering your top questions on trauma recovery, emotional processing, and breaking free from mental blocks. I'm diving deep into how to move out of functional freeze and start feeling again, what structure is actually needed in therapy sessions, and the hard but essential first steps of eating disorder recovery. We also discuss the severe emotional impact of failed suicide attempts, techniques for determining if a memory is real or false, and why your nervous system makes you push away safe people and loved ones. If you've felt stuck in survival mode or questioned your own recollections, this video offers practical grounding techniques and trauma-informed healing advice. ONLINE THERAPY (enjoy 10% off your first month)While I do not currently offer online therapy, this episode's sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: https://betterhelp.com/katipod Today's questions: 00:42 - How to get out of a functional free state and start to feel and process emotions again. 04:46 - I have a question about structure and goals in therapy... Is a specific plan and structure needed? 12:42 - I hope you're not tired of hearing me dance around my eating disorder behaviors, but I'm a little lost. Is this the way most eating disorder recovery starts? 20:13 - I'm still stuck in survival mode, which I thought would go away by moving out earlier. 24:06 - I have a question about trauma and false memories... How do I know when or if something is a false memory? 29:13 - Can you talk about the effects of failed suicide attempts? Is it possible to have trauma from an attempt even if you weren't hospitalized? 31:33 - Can you talk a bit about what a therapist takes notes about during a session? 37:53 - What are best ways to cope with triggers and panic attacks in school? 42:36 - I puffer fish the people closest to me, and I don't know why I keep doing it. My new book is available for pre-order: Why Do I Keep Doing This? → https://geni.us/XoyLSQ If you’ve ever felt stuck, this book is for you. I’d be so grateful for your support. MY BOOKS Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Ask Kati Anything | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton LMFT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    51 分
  • Are You 'High-Functioning' but Secretly Depressed? (Psychiatrist Explains)
    2025/09/25
    High-functioning depression is a silent struggle for many. Are you walking through life, feeling overwhelmed, but still managing to keep it all together? Dr. Joseph shares insights from her groundbreaking, peer-reviewed study, the first of its kind on high-functioning depression. She explains why many people with depression symptoms continue to function, showing up to work and managing their responsibilities, often while wearing a mask to hide their pain. They may not experience joy or pleasure, a symptom known as anhedonia, which can be a key indicator of this condition. Episode sponsors: • BABBEL Get up to 55% OFF: https://www.babbel.com/kati • MINT MOBILE Premium wireless service for just $15 a month. https://www.mintmobile.com/kati • HEADSPACE Receive a free 60-day trial: https://www.headspace.com/askkati My new book is available for pre-order: Why Do I Keep Doing This? → https://geni.us/XoyLSQ If you’ve ever felt stuck, this book is for you. I’d be so grateful for your support. Our conversation challenges the traditional medical approach to mental health, which often requires a person to reach a point of crisis before they can receive a diagnosis or treatment. We explore why this "wait until you're at stage four" mentality is so flawed and how we can instead adopt a preventative mindset, similar to what we see in cardiology. We also dive into the fascinating link between past trauma and the need to be constantly busy. Dr. Joseph’s research shows that high-functioning individuals often avoid dealing with their pain by taking on more work and distracting themselves. In this episode: 00:46 - What is High-Functioning Depression? 02:47 - The connection between trauma, being busy, and high-functioning depression 04:21 - The medical field's narrow definition of trauma 07:12 - The idea of "white knuckling" life 08:32 - The difference between happiness and joy 11:23 - The importance of small moments of joy 14:16 - Using the Bio-Psychosocial Model to find joy 25:50 - The significance of body and emotional awareness 27:50 - The impact of social media and technology 31:53 - The importance of in-person connection 37:48 - The future of AI in therapy 40:39 - The connection between people-pleasing, perfectionism, and trauma 45:54 - Why people return to abusive relationships 48:38 - A 5-step model for finding joy 53:40 - The joy of writing and creative work Order Dr. Judith Joseph's book, High-Functioning: https://amzn.to/3Iotjvx Kati's Main Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@Katimorton#podcast #psychology #drjudithjoseph KATI'S BOOKS Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPY (enjoy 10% off your first month) While I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: https://www.betterhelp.com/kati PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  • Ryland Adams: My Biggest YouTube Regrets (and What I'd Do Differently)
    2025/09/23
    Thank you to today's sponsor Vegamour! Go to vegamour.com/kati code KATI for 20% off your first order! Join Kati Morton as she sits down with Ryland Adams from the Sip podcast to discuss his unconventional journey, navigating the world of YouTube, and the realities of online fame. Ryland opens up about his early days, from finding a roommate on Craigslist to pursuing an acting career in Hollywood, and how he eventually found his place on YouTube. He shares insights into the hustle, the burnout, and the importance of staying real while building a career online. Ryland also discusses his relationship with Shane Dawson, including how they met, collaborated, and navigated the challenges of online life together. The conversation dives into the challenges of dealing with criticism, maintaining mental health in the digital age, and finding balance as a content creator. Ryland also shares his experiences with marriage and parenthood. This episode is a must-watch for anyone interested in YouTube, online culture, and personal stories of growth and resilience. Ask Kati Anything ep. 258 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT https://www.youtube.com/@UCVe_RrR9AMeY6Z8ixOv5gtw https://www.youtube.com/@thesipwithrylandadamsandli5476 https://www.youtube.com/@Katimorton #podcast #rylandadams #katimorton MY BOOKS Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY CHANNEL MEMBERSHIP https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/join ONLINE THERAPY (enjoy 10% off your first month) While I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: https://betterhelp.com/kati PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    59 分
  • Injuries, Identity, and the Invisible Load: Loving an NHL Hockey Player
    2025/09/23
    Kati Morton, LMFT sits down with Jordan Leigh—mental health advocate, entrepreneur, and fiancée of Montreal Canadiens NHL star Patrik Laine—for a candid look behind the scenes of professional sports and personal struggle. Jordan shares the unseen emotional weight of loving someone in the public eye: the fear of injury, the pressure to stay strong, and the mental health impact of being the steady one when your partner can't be. They also talk about her non-profit From Us to You, the mental toll of unpredictability, and how real support goes beyond just “being there.” EPISODE SPONSOR Thank you to today's sponsor Vegamour! Go to https://www.vegamour.com/kati code KATI for 20% off your first order! Whether you're an athlete’s partner, a high achiever carrying too much, or just someone looking for a truly honest conversation about love and mental health—this one’s for you. Ask Kati Anything ep. 260 with Jordan Leigh | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Why Do I Keep Doing This? https://geni.us/XoyLSQ 🧠 Learn more about From Us to You: https://fromustoyou.com/ https://www.youtube.com/@UC1LJUpc-SRnWFHqQbioMRyQ https://www.instagram.com/lifebyjordanleigh/ Kati's Main Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw ONLINE THERAPY (enjoy 10% off your first month) While I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: https://betterhelp.com/kati PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    55 分