Abby is a transracial adoptee as a black adoptee adopted in 1971 by white parents. Her family was interested in adopting another Black child but that did not work out.

Her family were told by adoption agencies that a Black child would be the“Cheapest and Quickest “.

Abby started searching earnestly for her “truth” with her mother’s dementia,diagnosis.

Abby is also a Birth/First Mother and psychotherapist serving clients in the adoption constellation.

Abby spoke about the “ Real Truth” in Adoption dispels the Blank Slate ,Nurture over Nature that she heard in her family .

She speaks about her “ Dream Family” for her son placed in adoption.

The Truth Always Prevails and we need to Talk the Truth about the Trauma

Carman and Susan continue their story an adoption plan is made . Carman shared of her unique and sometimes funny journey. Carmen “ Knew” what she wanted for herself and her child. She talked about the “ Fear” from both the birth mother perspective and adoptive mother perspective .

Susan talked about being at the birth of Olivia , Carmen’s daughter . Susan has penned her memoir titles “ One Yes at A Time : How Open Adoption Transformed Our Family “.Birth/First Mothers look forward to meeting their child they have carried for nine months .

Carmen and Susan had parallel lives intersecting to form an open adoption. Carmen spoke of “ The Best in All of Us”. Carmen and Susan “ Adopted Each Other .

Communication is the Key to navigation of Emotions and Trauma of Adoption.

Carmen and Susan share their journey of life . In typical adoption stories, the birth/first mom and adoption mom may never have a conversation, yet Carmen and Susan had “ Real Talk” and conversations about “ their daughter.

These two mothers grew up in different situations and yet started the journey to “grow and learn from each other “.

Carmen was an independent college student providing for herself on the west coast . Susan had a Midwest life and journeying through school, work, and marriage . Their story begins when their parallel lives crossed.

They both came to ‘an adoption plan ‘ from two different perspectives.

An Honest , Open , Transparent , H. O. T. Conversation is what you will hear on this episode of Birth Moms Real Talk.

This story and journey continue with Katherine taking center stage , As you heard on Part 1 that Katherine was in the room listening to Janelle share. This itself is unique for a Birth/First Mom to talk openly and honestly about her placing Katherine in adoption in front of her. No secrets here .

Listen and learn what revelations came out that maybe both Katherine and Janelle had never heard before

We welcome Janelle, Executive Director of BraveLove Inc , a nonprofit that has served

the Birth Mom community since 2012 and her birth daughter Katherine who share their

story that evolved in many extricate paths to “Growth and Healing” .

You will hear the “ Real Talk “ behind the scenes with Janelle and Katherine who were

in the same room together for this episode. Listeners will learn the story of how “

History Repeats Itself

Ruby Lee grew up in a middle-class family in the Midwest. As a teenager, Ruby Lee started a bi-racial relationship with her boyfriend. Ruby knew that was unacceptable by the racist language used by her father in the home. She lost friends who didn’t support this relationship. The support she expected from the birth father upon learning of her pregnancy was not there. Ruby Lee kept believing, of course he will come around because ‘ he loved me’. She held onto hope. Her hope was failing as each month passed. The experience in the unwed mother’s home was still judgmental with birth moms discriminated against her as having a bi-racial child as they were judged also as unwed mothers.

Sharon came from a large family and was a steady support for her siblings. She was an honor society student. Sharon had a great adventure of participating in training in Washington, DC. after high school. Sharon realized her naivete when she became pregnant.

Sharon shares her journey of becoming pregnant and making an adoption plan on her own … and then sharing it with her family. “ It was Never Spoken of Again “.

Sharon went through life wearing “ The Mask that many Birth Moms Wore”.

Listen to how and what prompted her to “Remove her Mask”.