What makes a good father?

What dictates whether we succeed or not?

How can we know we are doing well?

Is it affirmation from those around us?

Confirmation in who we are?

How our kids act in public?

In episode 2 with Anthony Felix we discussed that largely, we cannot know if we are successful as a father until our kids grow up and start raising their own kids.

So by this measure, as we become dads, we now have to look back and and come to terms with the good, and the painful of growing up with our fathers.

Many things we didn’t realize we were holding onto are brought to light in parenthood.

Joyful moments of playing with our fathers

Growth moments where we learned valuable lessons, both from him and because of him.

But also moments of pain and questioning, as we reflect through the deeper recesses of our memories, and come to terms with the fact that our dads are and were then just like us, human.

Hi, my name is Ryan Guerra, and I am the host of A Father’s Voice.

Today I talk about this with one of my closest friends Rob Arauza, as we dissect this idea of looking back over our childhood as a whole, and learning from it, to be the best father’s that we can be.

If you look at Rob standing next to his dad you see the past and future from them both. It’s uncanny how similar they appear. Both great dads. both care for their kids. Both value family.

Rob’s father checks all the boxes of a great man and father. He is a man who works hard, someone who fought to provide for his family, someone who fought to leave a legacy for his children.

Simply put, he has done the best he could, and he did well.

And yet still, when we look back there are these holes, because no dad is truly perfect. And so how do we, as adults, navigate these holes, while honoring our fathers, and yet still acknowledging that we needed something as a child we never got.

This is a very difficult conversation to have. And I’m thankful Rob trusted me with it. Because we both respect his dad, and want to honor him through this conversation as we process what life was like growing up with one of the best.

So let’s get started. I am honored to present to you my conversation with Rob Arauza.

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