In this episode Juan reflects on turning 46, sharing how his view of God has changed from a distant provider to an intimate heavenly Father. He opens up about past successes that felt empty, major life struggles that led to spiritual renewal, and how pruning and wisdom have reshaped his purpose.

Juan and Jenna talk candidly about identity, lessons learned, practical faith, and using blessings as bridges to share Christ, encouraging listeners to let their seasons refine rather than harden them.

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In this episode, Juan and Jenna open up a tender conversation about what happens when love starts to look more like control. Sometimes, our attempts to protect or help the people we care about are really ways we try to manage fear — fear of failure, rejection, or loss.

Together, they explore:

• How control disguises itself as “care”

• Why fear often hides beneath our good intentions

• The difference between protecting and possessing

• What it looks like to love like God — patiently, freely, without manipulation

• How to begin trusting again when control has always felt like safety

Whether you’re a leader, a parent, or a partner, this episode invites you to pause and ask: Is my love freeing the people I care about… or trying to manage them?

Because real love doesn’t tighten its grip — it loosens it.

In this episode, Juan and Jenna open up a tender conversation about what happens when love starts to look more like control. Sometimes, our attempts to protect or help the people we care about are really ways we try to manage fear — fear of failure, rejection, or loss.

Together, they explore:

• How control disguises itself as “care”

• Why fear often hides beneath our good intentions

• The difference between protecting and possessing

• What it looks like to love like God — patiently, freely, without manipulation

• How to begin trusting again when control has always felt like safety

Whether you’re a leader, a parent, or a partner, this episode invites you to pause and ask: Is my love freeing the people I care about… or trying to manage them?

Because real love doesn’t tighten its grip — it loosens it.

1. Where in your life might love have turned into control?

2. What fear might be hiding underneath your desire to manage outcomes?

3. What would it look like to release that control — and trust God with the results?

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We all have difficult people in our lives — the ones who test our patience, challenge our peace, and sometimes even reveal parts of ourselves we’d rather not see. In this episode, Juan and Jenna dive deep into what it really means to love difficult people without losing yourself in the process.

From the “tools” that represent different types of difficult people — the hammer, the measuring tape, the sandpaper, and the vice grip — to the example Jesus set in loving those who would betray Him, this conversation will help you shift your perspective and see how God uses hard relationships to grow and refine you.

Juan and Jenna also explore how unresolved pain, unforgiveness, and past wounds can make others feel “difficult” — when sometimes the real work God is doing is within us.

They’ll walk through practical ways to:

• Recognize when someone’s “rubbing you wrong” may actually reveal something God’s trying to heal.

• Pray Psalm 139:23–24 to invite God into the process of transformation.

• Set healthy boundaries and still love well.

• Use biblical wisdom, prayer, and reflection to handle conflict without becoming hardened.

• Remember that every “difficult” person is also someone deeply loved by God — just like you.

This episode is honest, funny, and full of real-life insight from 14 years of ministry and coaching experience.

Key Scriptures Mentioned:

• Psalm 139:23–24 — “Search me, O God, and know my heart...”

• Ephesians 6 — Putting on the full armor of God.

• Matthew 18 — Handling conflict biblically and restoring relationships in love.

Takeaways:

• God often uses “sandpaper people” to smooth out our rough edges.

• Loving difficult people starts with letting God search your heart.

• You can’t fix people — but you can pray, set boundaries, and point them to truth.

• Forgiveness frees you more than it fixes them.

• Transformation happens when we replace reaction with reflection.

Listener Reflection Questions:

1. Who is a “sandpaper” person in your life right now?

2. What might God be showing you through that relationship?

3. How can you pray Psalm 139 this week and invite God to search your heart?

4. Are there any people you need to forgive to release bitterness or judgment?