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Unfiltered Deep Dive into Emotional Intelligence with Dr. Audrey Schnell
- 2025/04/14
- 再生時間： 48 分
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Episode Overview In this unfiltered and dynamic episode of Higher Density Living, host Jason Rigby sits down with Dr. Audrey Schnell, an emotional intelligence expert with over 40 years of experience studying human behavior, self-sabotage, and personal transformation. With an M.A. in Clinical Psychology and a Ph.D. in Epidemiology and Biostatistics, Dr. Schnell brings a unique blend of science-backed insight and practical wisdom to the conversation. She’s spent decades helping clients—from entrepreneurs to everyday individuals—end self-sabotage, master their emotions, and unlock their potential. Together, Jason and Dr. Schnell dive into the messy truths of emotions, boundaries, and productivity, offering actionable strategies to turbocharge emotional intelligence and live a more intentional life. Guest Bio Dr. Audrey Schnell Credentials: M.A. in Clinical Psychology, Ph.D. in Epidemiology and BiostatisticsExperience: Over 40 years researching why and how people changeMission: Enables clients to stop self-sabotage, eliminate emotional triggers, and achieve their goals by identifying blind spots and mastering emotionsImpact: Helps individuals and businesses build long-term relationships, turn difficult clients into success stories, and reach peak performanceAchievements: Featured speaker at retreats, frequent podcast guest, and founder of two successful online summits featuring 20+ top experts in healing and peak performancePersonal Life: Lives off-grid on 40 acres in rural West Virginia with her husband and dogsWebsite: audreyschnell.com Key Topics Discussed Boundaries: The Ultimate Power Move (00:36 - 06:51) Why We Struggle with Boundaries: Dr. Schnell explains that boundaries are less about others and more about self-care—what we’re willing to accept or not. Many fail to set them due to a need to be liked, hypervigilance, or fear of rejection.Practical Tip: For entrepreneurs, set time boundaries (e.g., no client texts at 6 a.m. unless it’s a true emergency). A simple automated response like “I’ve seen your message and will reply soon” can ease the pressure.Jason’s Insight: Entrepreneurs often get addicted to busyness, feeding off high cortisol levels and the need to feel wanted.Saying No to Good Things: Dr. Schnell highlights the challenge of rejecting appealing opportunities that derail focus—a lesson reinforced by Jason’s anecdote about a billionaire who mastered saying “no” to amazing offers. 2. Emotional Intelligence for Everyone (12:14 - 18:22) Underrated EI Skill: Empathy is the game-changer we’re sleeping on. It’s about understanding others’ feelings, not just feeling them (empathy vs. sympathy).Cultural Traps: Jason notes society’s victimhood obsession, asking how narcissists can develop empathy. Dr. Schnell debunks the overuse of “narcissist” labels and urges people to escape survival mode to unlock self-awareness and empathy.Practical Application: In relationships, aim to connect, not win. Start conversations from shared goals (e.g., “We both want to retire by 70”) and ask curious questions like “What made you say that?” instead of arguing. 3. The Science of Getting Things Done (09:15 - 11:41, 21:24 - 28:10) Dr. Schnell’s Journey: Her shift from clinical psychology to research (sparked by the rise of computers in the ‘80s) taught her discipline and the power of starting overwhelming projects.Fear of Finishing: People avoid completing projects due to fear of imperfection or uncertainty about “what’s next.” Dr. Schnell calls BS on perfectionism—it’s often avoidance or lack of commitment, not a noble trait.Discipline Equals Freedom: Procrastination stems from relying on urgency rather than motivation. Jason ties this to his own shift from fear-driven hustle to intentional discipline, noting it protects the nervous system. 4. Dumbest Emotional Traps and How to Escape (29:09 - 37:18) The Trap: Worry and selfishness top the list. Worry is “praying for the outcome you don’t want,” draining energy without purpose. Selfishness shows up when we obsess over ourselves instead of serving others (e.g., coaches fixating on client perceptions).Climbing Out: Take care of your nervous system first—hunger and fatigue amplify toddler-like meltdowns. Self-awareness is key: name your feelings (e.g., “I’m agitated”) to contain them, and don’t trust them as facts.Jason’s Take: Society’s feelings-obsession (especially among younger generations) reflects a pendulum swing from repression to indulgence, fueled by our brain’s energy-conserving wiring. 5. Decision-Making and Overthinking (38:58 - 44:26) Why We Overthink: Survival instincts overestimate task difficulty and underestimate post-task relief, stalling action. Visualization can trick the brain into thinking a job’s done, reducing motivation.Solutions: Set a timer for 15 minutes to start, lean on discipline over habits, and anchor ...