If you suffer from social anxiety, you might think that the old money, high society types you see effortlessly navigayting cocktail parties were simply born with a socializing superpower, or that they learned it in boarding school, and that it's too late for you, but that's not true. In this calming yet cheeky episode of Awkward Etiquette with Kiki Astor, Kiki turns her velvet gloves toward a topic near and dear to many hearts: social anxiety. Whether you freeze at cocktail parties, overthink every interaction, or find yourself replaying conversations in bed at night, this episode is your invitation to breathe, settle in with something fizzy or soothing, and reclaim your social confidence—the elegant way.

Kiki reveals her favorite etiquette-based social skills hacks designed for introverts, overthinkers, and those who never know what to do with their hands. You’ll learn how classic etiquette tricks—like the art of introductions, small talk that isn’t painful, and exiting a conversation gracefully—aren’t about perfection, but about making others feel comfortable, which (spoiler alert) helps you feel more at ease too.

From how to glide through a room without breaking a sweat to using etiquette as armor in awkward social situations, Kiki shows that even the most anxious among us can master the social graces of high society—without faking a thing.

Perfect for:
Anyone looking for social anxiety tips, introvert-friendly social strategies, and a little old-school etiquette wisdom with a wink.

When your host, Auntie Kiki, says she’s an “ex rich person” and espouses the label of “nouveau pauvre,” you may be left wondering whether that means she’s fabulously wealthy or delightfully destitute, or somewhere in between. In this episode of Awkward Etiquette with Kiki Astor, we explore our society’s love-hate relationship with wealth, performative wealth on social media platforms and in real life, the rich vs poor divide, the rise of nouveau pauvre as the defining ethos of our times, and why the old money aesthetic and lifestyle gained so much traction in a time of financial instability. We also dive into the growing economic disparity of our era—why the ultra-wealthy keep getting richer while the rest feel increasingly precarious, and how this imbalance manifests in social media and social interactions. Why does losing wealth sting more than never having it? Is elegance ultimately more admirable than riches? And in a world where Instagram flaunts excess while reality often tells a different story, how do we maintain grace and authenticity?

Is there anything more elegant and romantic than a garden party? In this episode of Awkward Etiquette, Kiki Astor dishes on the secrets of hosting the perfect old money garden party, because it takes a bit of behind the scenes preparation to exude effortless charm. From phrasing the invitations, to selecting the right garden party dress code to mastering high society entertaining, Kiki breaks down the essential elements of gracious outdoor hosting. She explores the proper etiquette for garden parties, including how to handle uninvited guests, seating arrangements, and social faux pas that could turn an aristocratic affair into a social disaster.

Expect witty insights on classic garden party menus, champagne and other beverages, dos and don’ts, and the subtle art of appearing effortlessly chic while secretly micromanaging everything. Whether you’re planning a formal English garden tea or a laid-back estate luncheon, Kiki reveals how the truly elite entertain outdoors—without breaking a sweat (or letting anyone see them sweat).

Tune in for humorous social commentary, historical high-society anecdotes, and Kiki’s signature nouveau pauvre take on timeless etiquette.