Are negative thoughts running the show? In this episode of Becoming Relentless, host Tom Alvarez opens up about the personal and universal struggle with low self-esteem — and what to do when your own mind becomes your harshest critic.

Explore the psychology behind self-worth, learn how to identify toxic inner dialogue, and discover proven tools like the Rosenberg Self-Esteem Scale. This episode is packed with practical strategies to help you rebuild confidence, set healthy boundaries, and finally believe you’re enough.

Whether you’re working through self-doubt, social anxiety, or simply trying to understand yourself better, this episode offers a powerful roadmap for healing from the inside out.

Topics Covered:

• The roots of low self-esteem

• Self-sabotage and inner criticism

• Practical tools to shift your mindset

• Why your thoughts don’t define you

• Social media’s hidden impact on self-worth

References

Bird, J. (Ed.). (2022, August). Types of mental health problems | about self-esteem | Mind - Mind. https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/self-esteem/about-self-esteem/

Holloway, F. (2016). Self-esteem: Perspectives, Influences and Improvement Strategies. Nova Science Publishers, Inc.

Rosenberg, M. (1965). Society and the adolescent self-image. Princeton University Press. https://psycnet.apa.org/record/9999-01038-000

Cleveland Clinic. (2023, July 21). How social media can harm your body image. Cleveland Clinic. https://health.clevelandclinic.org/social-media-and-body-image

Join Tom Alvarez on Becoming Relentless for an inspiring and candid conversation on personal development. In this episode, Tom breaks down the journey of self-improvement, exploring topics like the power of self-awareness, the difference between a fixed and growth mindset (Davis, 2020), and practical strategies for coping with challenges. He also dives into creating a personal development plan and the core pillars of growth, backed by insights from experts like Perina (2009) and Miles (2025). Whether you’re looking to boost your self-esteem, improve your relationships, or achieve success in every area of your life, this episode offers actionable tips to help you turn setbacks into comebacks. Tune in and start your journey toward lasting change—onward and forward!

References

Davis, T. (2020, June 7). Personal development: 9 skills, Tips, and examples. Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/click-here-for-happiness/202006/personal-development-9-skills-tips-and-examples

Miles, M. (2025, January 21). What is personal development and why is it important?. BetterUp. https://www.betterup.com/blog/personal-development

Perina, K. (Ed.). (2009, March 17). Self-control. Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/self-control

In this heartfelt episode of Becoming Relentless, I dive deep into my personal journey of transformation—from a relentless pursuit of self-growth to making intentional decisions in the face of uncertainty, and ultimately finding strength in the darkest moments. After losing my job and facing profound challenges, I share how I embraced vulnerability, sought help through therapy, and turned setbacks into powerful stepping stones toward a better life. Join me as I reflect on the lessons learned, explore the importance of making yourself a priority, and invite you to consider what small step you can take today to elevate your own journey. Tune in for an honest, casual conversation about resilience, transformation, and the art of living intentionally—because every setback is just a setup for a comeback.