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  • The Amicable Divorce Playbook for Putting Kids First and Co-Parenting with Grace
    2024/11/21
    EPISODE 5: The Amicable Divorce Playbook for Putting Kids First and Co-Parenting with Grace

    Introducing our Guest for today's Episode:

    Molly Fay

    Molly is an Emmy award winning journalist who co-hosts The Morning Blend on TMJ4, Milwaukee’s NBC affiliate. Molly earned a degree in Broadcast Journalism from the University of Missouri-Columbia. She worked as an investigative reporter and news anchor prior to her current role at WTMJ. For many years, Molly has supported local and national charities dedicated to mental health awareness and improving the lives of those who are affected. Since losing her brother to suicide in 1998, Molly has tried to be a voice for families and loved ones who are struggling with very real and common mental health disorders. Molly knows that it's imperative that we continue to talk about our experiences, end the stigma and show up for each other so that no one feels alone or hopeless. She's a mom to three adult children and has been divorced since 2011. Molly got remarried to her husband Ross in 2020 and loves to spend time with her dog Zeke, practice hot yoga, and go for early morning walks.

    Molly's Facebook page

    @mollyfayhey on Instagram

    Summary

    In this episode of the Better Than Bitter Divorce podcast, Tania Leichliter interviews Molly Faye, an award-winning journalist and advocate for mental health awareness. They discuss the importance of amicable divorce, especially for the well-being of children, and how emotional healing plays a crucial role in the process. Molly shares her personal experiences and insights on maintaining a positive mindset, effective communication, and the significance of setting a good example for children during and after divorce. The conversation also explores the idea of a marriage contract with renewal options, encouraging couples to reflect on their relationship and commitment.

    Takeaways

    An amicable divorce is essential for children's well-being.

    Emotional healing is crucial before legal proceedings.

    Feeding the 'white wolf' promotes positivity during divorce.

    Communication and flexibility are key in co-parenting.

    Children benefit from seeing parents treat each other kindly.

    It's important to check in with children about their feelings.

    Divorce doesn't mean the end of family; it can be reimagined.

    A marriage contract with renewal options could change perspectives.

    Self-reflection and awareness can improve relationships.

    Surround yourself with positive influences during divorce.

    Sound Bites

    "Are you gonna put your children first?"

    "It's about coming together as a new partnership."

    "You can always find good and nice things to say."

    "It's never too late to make changes."

    "The one that survives is the one that you feed."

    "You have a choice as to how you are going to show up."

    "It's okay to be vulnerable."

    "Hang out with people who uplift you."

    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to Molly Faye and Her Journey

    02:54 The Importance of Amicable Divorce for Children

    05:57 Navigating Emotional Healing During Divorce

    08:51 Feeding the Right Wolf: Positive Mindset in Divorce

    12:14 Reimagining Family Dynamics Post-Divorce

    14:50 Communication and Flexibility in Co-Parenting

    18:09 Setting a Positive Example for Children

    20:55 The Concept of a Marriage Contract with Renewal Options

    23:45 Final Thoughts and Key Takeaways

    Keywords

    divorce, amicable divorce, co-parenting, mental health, emotional healing, family dynamics, communication, positive mindset, marriage contract, parenting

    Thanks for tuning in to Better Than Bitter, navigating an amicable divorce. Whether you are at the beginning...

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    43 分
  • When Life Throws You A Curve Ball-Divorce! Time To Pivot - Jeff Wenzler
    2024/11/14
    Episode 4: When Life Throws You A Curve Ball! Time To Pivot - Jeff Wenzler

    Introducing our guest for Today's Episode:

    Jeff Wenzler

    Jeff Wenzler is a motivational speaker, award-winning author of The Pivotal Life: A Compass for Discovering Purpose, Passion & Perspective, resilience mentor, international servant leadership organization founder, executive producer of 10 Dollar Perspective, humanitarian, wannabe photographer, avid hiker, dad, and dog rescuer. He has been amicably divorced for 10 years, and playing zone defense with 3 teenagers. Jeff has degrees from Marquette University and Boston College. He currently teaches high school social justice in an urban school in Milwaukee in the zip code with the highest incarcerations. When he is not teaching or playing zone defense with his 3 teenagers, he frequently is at his 12x12 home in a Jamaican landfill community where he mentors single mothers and their children living in extreme poverty.

    Jeff's Website

    Jeff's Facebook page

    @jeffwenzler on Instagram

    Jeff on YouTube

    Summary

    In this episode of the Better Than Bitter Podcast, host Tania Leichliter engages with Jeff Wensler, a resilience mentor and author, discussing the journey through divorce and the importance of maintaining hope and resilience. They explore themes of humility, personal growth, and the dynamics of co-parenting, emphasizing the need for emotional healing before legal proceedings. Jeff shares his personal experiences and insights on navigating life's challenges, highlighting the significance of perspective and the power of choice in shaping one's future.

    Takeaways
    • Resilience is about riding the waves of life.
    • Divorce is a series of losses that require emotional processing.
    • Humility plays a crucial role in healing and personal growth.
    • Post-divorce, individuals can experience significant personal growth.
    • Co-parenting requires a shift in perspective and prioritizing the children.
    • Emotional healing should precede legal divorce proceedings.
    • Life happens for you, not to you; focus on what you can control.
    • Maintaining hope is essential during difficult times.
    • Weakness can be a strength when approached with humility.
    • Effective communication is key in co-parenting relationships.

    Sound Bites

    "Life is just a series of losses."

    "There is hope."

    "You have options."


    Chapters


    00:00 Introduction to Jeff Wensler and His Journey

    07:34 Navigating Divorce: Hope, Gratitude, and Perspective

    15:14 Shifting Mindsets: From Failure to Growth

    19:45 Co-Parenting: Prioritizing the Children

    24:35 Lessons in Love and Humility

    32:42 Negotiating the Legal Aspects of Divorce

    41:58 Finding Hope and Moving Forward

    46:35 Riding the Waves of Resilience

    48:37 Thank You For Tuning In To Better Than Bitter™ Divorce Podcast

    50:06 Resources for Support and Growth


    Keywords

    divorce, resilience, humility, personal growth, co-parenting, emotional healing, Better Than Bitter, divorce coaching, amicable separation, life lessons


    Thanks for tuning in to Better Than Bitter, navigating an amicable divorce. Whether you are at the beginning of your divorce journey, midway through, or even done, we want the stories from our guests to give you hope that an amicable resolution is possible. If you'd like to dive deeper into today's episode, check out our show notes for a full transcript, reflections, and links to learn more about Better Than Bitter's coaching...

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    50 分
  • I "GET TO" Co-Parent! Guide To Being Better In Divorce! - Darlene Taylor
    2024/11/14
    EPISODE 3: I "GET TO" Co-Parent! Guide To Being Better! - Darlene Taylor

    Our Guest for Today's Episode:

    Darlene Taylor

    Darlene Taylor, MSW, CPC, is a former licensed social worker and certified coach with over 15 years of experience helping families navigate co-parenting after divorce. Specializing in creating positive, supportive environments for children, Darlene’s book, It's Not About Us: A Co-Parenting Survival Guide for Taking the High Road, combines personal and professional insights to provide practical strategies for effective co-parenting. Outside of her work, Darlene is an obstacle course race enthusiast, enjoys staying active, and loves spending time with her daughter in Los Angeles. As a dedicated advocate for single-parent families, she works to break stigma and promote resilience, love, and understanding in evolving family dynamics.

    Darlene's Website

    Check her book and journal below:

    Divorce Support Partners

    • Barnes and Noble link
    • Amazon link for journal
    • Amazon link for book : It's Not About Us

    Story of her challenges with co-parenting with her college coach ex

    Stories of her relationship with her daughter's stepmom

    Having Bonus Kids and Having a Bonus Mom for her Daughter

    Parenting Plans Vs. Parenting Time

    Creating flexibility in scheduling, learning to support one another

    collaboration vs. combative


    Summary

    In this episode of the Better Than Bitter™ Divorce Podcast, host Tania Leichliter speaks with Darlene Taylor, a former licensed social worker and certified coach, about her journey to achieving an amicable divorce. They discuss the importance of emotional healing, flexibility in parenting plans, and the role of communication in co-parenting. Darlene shares her insights on separating the partner from the parent, the benefits of having bonus parents, and the significance of maintaining a positive relationship for the sake of the children. The conversation concludes with practical tips for navigating divorce and co-parenting successfully.


    Takeaways
    • Amicable divorces are possible with effort and intention.
    • Emotional healing is crucial before entering legal negotiations.
    • Flexibility in parenting plans is essential for co-parenting success.
    • Communication is key to maintaining a positive co-parenting relationship.
    • Separating the partner from the parent helps in focusing on the child's needs.
    • Bonus parents can provide additional love and support for children.
    • It's important to prioritize the child's well-being over personal grievances.
    • Creating a renewable marriage contract could foster intentional relationships.
    • Being vulnerable can lead to more grace in communication.
    • The gift of an amicable relationship benefits the children immensely.


    Sound Bites

    "Divorce doesn't have to be a battleground."

    "I wanted to have an amicable relationship."

    "You have to acknowledge what's going on."

    "One of you has to get on the high road first."

    "You can have a positive relationship or be vengeful."

    "There is never too much love that's given to children."

    "Flexibility is key in co-parenting."

    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

    02:59 Darlene's Journey to an Amicable Divorce

    06:02 Navigating the Tough Stuff

    08:54 Creating a Flexible Parenting Plan

    12:10 The Importance of Communication

    14:53 Separating Partner from Parent

    18:03 The Role of Bonus Parents

    21:14 The Gift of an Amicable Relationship

    24:10...

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    39 分
  • Modeling Being Better Apart: Amicable Resolutions Revealed - Mandy Barr
    2024/11/07
    Episode 2: Modeling Being Better Apart: Amicable Resolutions Revealed - Mandy Barr

    Introducing our guest for Today's Episode:

    Mandy Barr

    Mandy Pullen Barr is a dedicated Concierge Specialist and Strategic Managing Partner at Vesta, leveraging over five years of expertise to guide individuals through the complex divorce journey. Based in Natick, MA, Mandy's passion lies in helping clients make informed, confident decisions that lead to clarity and long-term success. Having gone through her divorce over 15 years without Vesta's support, Mandy feels deeply passionate about providing others with the resources she wished she'd had. As Vesta's first point of contact, she ensures clients feel seen, heard, and supported. Mandy expertly connects them with Vesta's trusted professionals and creates tailored roadmaps that address divorce's emotional and practical aspects.

    Mandy 's Website

    Divorce Support Partners

    • Barnes and Noble link
    • Amazon link for journal
    • Amazon link for book : It's Not About Us

    Summary

    In this episode of the Better Than Bitter Divorce Podcast, host Tania Leichliter speaks with Mandy Barr, a divorce concierge specialist at Vesta Divorce. They discuss the importance of amicable divorce resolutions, the role of divorce professionals, and the unique approach of nesting in co-parenting. Mandy shares her personal experiences with her parent's divorce and her own, emphasizing the significance of communication and child-centered practices. The conversation also touches on the concept of a marriage contract and the dynamics of blended families, concluding with key takeaways for listeners navigating their own divorce journeys.

    Takeaways
    • Divorce can be amicable and doesn't have to be a battleground.
    • Vesta Divorce provides free essential support provided by their vetted divorce professionals and free concierge resources for individuals going through divorce.
    • Nesting allows families to maintain a sense of normalcy during transitions.
    • Communication is key in ensuring children feel loved and secure during divorce.
    • It's important to check in on children after the divorce is finalized.
    • Remarriage can create blended families that provide additional love and support for children.
    • A marriage contract could encourage couples to work harder on their relationships.
    • Divorce should not carry a stigma; it's a common experience.
    • The more supportive adults in a child's life, the better for their emotional well-being.
    • It's possible to create a re-envisioned family dynamic post-divorce.

    Sound Bites

    "Divorce doesn't have to be a battleground."

    "Nesting is a unique approach to co-parenting."

    "We have to continue to check in on our kids."

    "Mindset around being a re-envisioned family."

    "20 year marriage contract - I would have carved out time to nurture my marriage."

    "Divorce is not the end of love - there is an after if you believe there is."

    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

    02:50 The Role of Vesta Divorce

    06:08 Understanding Divorce Professionals

    09:04 Nesting: A Unique Approach to Co-Parenting

    11:54 Reflections on Parents' Divorce

    15:06 Navigating Child-Centered Divorce

    17:53 The Importance of Communication Post-Divorce

    21:08 Remarriage and Blended Families

    24:03 The Concept of a Marriage Contract

    26:53 Conclusion and Key Takeaways

    Thanks for tuning in to Better Than Bitter, navigating an amicable divorce....

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    43 分
  • Amicable After All: A Child’s View on Divorce Done Right with Callie Donavan
    2024/11/07
    Episode 1: Amicable After All: A Child’s View on Divorce Done Right with Callie Donavan

    Introducing our Guest for Today's Episode:

    Callie Donavan

    Callie is in her 20's and comes from a very amicable set of divorced parents. She works in communications in journalism. She tells her story of her parents divorce from her perspective. She speaks about the gift her parents gave to her and her siblings in working very hard to make divorce not something for them to feel shame over.

    Summary

    In this episode of the Better Than Bitter Divorce Podcast, host Tania Leichliter speaks with Callie Donavan, an adult child of parents who navigated a child-centered divorce. They discuss the importance of amicable separations, the nesting approach to co-parenting, and how children perceive and adapt to divorce. Callie shares her personal experiences and insights on how her parents' thoughtful decisions made a significant difference in her life, emphasizing that divorce can be handled in a way that prioritizes the well-being of children. The conversation highlights the potential for positive outcomes even in challenging situations, encouraging listeners to envision a future where love prevails over conflict.

    For divorce concierge services, go to Vesta Divorce.

    Takeaways
    • Divorce can be amicable and child-centered.
    • Nesting can ease the transition for children.
    • Communication between co-parents is crucial.
    • Every child's experience of divorce is unique.
    • Amicable divorces can lead to healthy family dynamics.
    • Divorce doesn't have to be a negative experience.
    • It's important to prioritize children's feelings during divorce.
    • Parents can remain friends post-divorce.
    • Children benefit from clear boundaries in co-parenting.
    • Divorce can provide opportunities for personal growth.

    Sound Bites

    "Every divorce is different."

    "Amicable divorce doesn't ruin your kids."

    "Nesting is a great transition option."

    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

    01:04 Child-Centered Divorce: A Personal Story

    05:49 Nesting: A Unique Approach to Co-Parenting

    11:51 Navigating Transitions Between Homes

    17:54 The Impact of Divorce on Relationships

    24:03 Key Takeaways and Conclusion

    Keywords

    amicable divorce, child-centered divorce, co-parenting, nesting, divorce resolution, family dynamics, divorce coaching, relationship advice, parenting plan, divorce stories

    Thanks for tuning in to Better Than Bitter, navigating an amicable divorce. Whether you are at the beginning of your divorce journey, midway through, or even done, we want the stories from our guests to give you hope that an amicable resolution is possible. If you'd like to dive deeper into today's episode, check out our show notes for a full transcript, reflections, and links to learn more about Better Than Bitter's coaching courses, and how to connect with our fabulous guests. If you're ready for more support, you can head over to betterthanbitter.coach .

    On our website you'll find details and additional information on our 5-Step Gameplan multimedia course, our different types of coaching methods, monthly memberships, events and retreats, and a whole lot more. Plus, we've got a ton of free resources, like our...

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    26 分