Saying that should cease – Grass is Greener on the Other Side

Often, we believe that that others have it made, but in reality, we can appreciate our current surroundings.

Psych Central analysis - https://psychcentral.com/blog/relationships-balance/2013/03/16/the-grass-is-greener-syndrome#5

Beyond the Minimum podcast episode - https://beyondtheminimum.podbean.com/e/saying-that-shoud-cease-go-along-to-get-along/

Simon Sinek’s YouTube (11:54 – 12:10) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gPcgEBbNQvw&list=PLgCOAz4cqZMROPAsFBt_IWgOmMax6Y24y&index=6

Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/

Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah

Credits:

Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/

Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Update on some events

It has been some time since I recorded a podcast, and I thought I should give an update. Listen to hear the three large events that took place in my life from April – May 2023.

Resources:

Bill Cain’s book - https://www.amazon.ca/Diary-Jesus-Christ-Bill-Cain/dp/1626984077

Rick Beato’s analysis of If You Could Read my Mind https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X33YyowZZxQ&list=PLW0NGgv1qnfzb1klL6Vw9B0aiM7ryfXV_&index=15

Rick Beato’s tribute upon Gordon Lightfoot’s Death - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Iw7Jei8XOo

Documentary on Gordon Lightfoot https://gem.cbc.ca/gordon-lightfoot-if-you-could-read-my-mind

Glenda Bartlett’s obituary - https://www.wardfuneralhomes.com/memorials/glenda--bartlett/5196703/index.php

Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/

Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah

Credits:

Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/

Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

What Good Looks Like – Interview with Greg Hollander

Listen to Greg’s description of how they hire, support one another, hold meetings, have committees and so much more. Lots of hidden treasures in practices that others can (and have been) adopt(ing)!

Greg’s bio:

Greg Hollander is a Realtor® with Keller Williams Integrity. As well as helping a variety of clients with their real estate needs, he is also a Realtor® who specializes in helping seniors and empty nesters downsize with his Next Stage Method. Over the last 14 years, he has been helping a variety of people in the Ottawa area with their real estate needs. After working with many senior clients, he discovered that his skills and strengths are really perfectly suited for helping people with their downsizing needs. He works hard to ensure his clients are always treated with respect, kindness and understanding. Housing transitions in life are difficult and his wish is to help make a potentially stressful situation as smooth as possible for his clients. He considers it an honour and a privilege to be the agent guiding people through their next stage in life when it comes to their real estate and housing needs.

Greg’s contact info:

Email: greg@greghollander.com Phone & Text: (613) 795-3871

Greg’s free downloads:

Next Stage Method Guide: https://bit.ly/NextStageMethodGuide 5 Pro Tips to Downsize: https://bit.ly/ProTipsToDownsize

Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/

Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah

Credits:

Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/

Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Expanding our Vocabulary – Extrinsic incentives bias

We often believe that people can be motivated by incentives – just up the incentives, and they will be more motivated. This is actually a bias, and when employed, can be counterproductive.

MADTv Safety at Work episode - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zVB5lQpPYow

Dan Ariely’s videos - https://danariely.com/resources/#gallery

Hidden Brain episode - https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/what-do-you-want-to-be/

Humankind – a hopeful history – (where I learned of this term) https://www.amazon.ca/Humankind-Hopeful-History-Rutger-Bregman/dp/0316418536

Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/

Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah

Credits:

Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/

Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Saying that should cease – Getting away with it

Rules are out there – speed limits, paying for things, etc. – and there are times when they are not enforced. We often feel a brush of excitement in getting away with something, but is this helpful?

The Agenda episode on Has the Government Mishandled Pandemic Spending? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IyDtRF-oQlk&t=1205s

The Inquiry on American Road Fatalities https://www.podbean.com/media/share/dir-pthb6-173c1277

The Agenda episode on Is Everyone Robbing Everyone in the Underground Economy? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XEfe9Bqia2o

Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/

Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah

Credits:

Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/

Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Expanding our Vocabulary – Radical responsibility

Our world has many complainers who bemoan their circumstances, but we all can be empowered to change things with radical responsibility.

Matt Gurney’s commentary https://theline.substack.com/p/experimental-the-line-podcast-episode-e9e 1:19-4:37

Conscious Leadership group https://conscious.is/

Episode on the Fundamental Attribution Error https://beyondtheminimum.podbean.com/e/expanding-our-vocabulary-%e2%80%93-fundamental-attribution-error/

Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/

Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah

Credits:

Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/

Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Saying that should cease – Time heals all wounds

While a common saying, time is not the healer. Healing includes everything from medical attention for physical wounds, attentional focus for psychological wounds, and internal work and forgiveness.

Merriam Webster dictionary https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/grudge

Peter Herrndorf’s memorial - https://www.tvo.org/article/remembering-peter-herrndorf

Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/

Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah

Credits:

Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/

Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/

Expanding our Vocabulary – Pluralistic Ignorance

When we are in a group, we may be influenced by how others behave, believing that their thoughts influence their behaviour, and allow this to override what we are thinking, and then behaving.

Humankind: A hope for humanity (Rutger Bregman) https://www.amazon.ca/Humankind-Hopeful-History-Rutger-Bregman/dp/0316418536

Asch experiment analysis https://www.simplypsychology.org/asch-conformity.html

Lemmings and their behaviour https://www.britannica.com/story/do-lemmings-really-commit-mass-suicide

How Disney influenced our understanding of lemmings https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_Wilderness_(film)

Beyond the Minimum Go Along to Get Along https://beyondtheminimum.podbean.com/?s=Go%20Along%20to%20get%20along

Connect with Tanya Hewitt on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanya-hewitt-55804529/

Buy her a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanyah

Credits:

Adam Johns – voiceover - https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjohns730/

Beverley McKiver – composer and player of the music Tell Me About Love - https://www.linkedin.com/in/beverleymckiver/