Consent, beginning a relationship with someone who has past sexual trauma, the "orgasm gap," and more... let's talk about it! In this episode of "Coffee With The Penners," Julia & Derek continue the converstaion from last week, exploring many topics surrounding sex and how to get to the good part when SA is in the rearview mirror.

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Todays Community Questions:
*Intended for Partner Communication*

1) Have you ever felt like you need to stop in the middle of sex, and were you free to do so? Why or why not?

2) Do you think we as a couple or individually should see a therapist to work through something in this area?

3) What were you taught in church about sex, and was it helpful or hurtful? How will you change the converstaion if/when the time comes to talk to your kids about it?

**Please pray about whether or not this episode is good for you to listen to today or not. In this episode we discuss Rape, Marital Rape, Reporting Rape and Abuse, as well as living through a situation that is unhealthy and abusive**

Join the Penners as they open their books up about sex and their past sexual experiences. A sexless marriage, marital rape, and losing your sex drive are all topics discussed on today's episode all about Sex.

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Resources Named:
"The Great Sex Rescue" by Sheila Wray Gregoire

"She Deserves Better" by Sheila Wray Gregoire

Healthy Sex Teachings Rubric

Today's Community Questions:
*Intended for partner communication*

1) How do you feel about our current sex life? What's good, what could improve, is it overall healthy or unhealthy?

2) Is there anything in your past that might be making sex difficult (abuse or other things)? Is there anything I should be aware of so WE can work together on a healthier sex life for both of us?

3) Talk about the best sex you've had together and why it was the best!

Taking questions from you, the listener, the Penners sit down and take time to answer a few questions that have rolled in incluidng questions like "What is God teaching your right now?", "What does this passage of scripture really mean?", and "What are 3 things you are actively doing differently in this marriage than your first marriages?" Tune in for a great conversation.

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Resources:

Sabbath Podcast by John Mark Comer Teaching Podcast on Spotify
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2eckgoaQ1yUUL0bpgDqSWj?si=d73c32cceec541d3

"Should Christians celebrate Halloween?" is a question that is asked by MANY, especially around this time of year. Today, the Penners sit down for a chat to discuss their thoughts on whether or not it's okay to let your kids go trick-or-treating. With Derek on one side of the issue and Julia on the other, tune into today's episode to laugh, learn the origins of this 'holiday' and hear the conclusions they reach on whether or not Halloween is okay to celebrate with your family.

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Community Questions to keep the conversation going:

1) Have you ever thought to pray about whether or not your family should participate in Halloween?

2) Do you think it's an over-reaction to bow out, or do you think the western culture today does not take Halloween seriously enough?

3) What are your thoughts surrounding Church's providing alternative fun nights for kids?

It took 5.5 years for the diagnosis of Julia's youngest daughter to come in, and when they finally received the name of what it was... they were left with more questions than answers. Join The Penners as they discuss the seasons of waiting, how the global pandemic affected their daughter in good and bad ways and maybe most exciting, tune in to hear about the miracles they've wittnessed through the life of their 6 year old. Only GOD can do these things!

Questions for you community:
1) Do you know someone with a Disability? How did you meet them?
2) Have you ever had to wait for a diagnosis, what was that like? How did you feel once you got the diagnosis?
3) Are you in a season of waiting? What if you don't get the answer you're hoping for? Is the foundation of your faith firm, regardless of the answer?

Questions for your kids:
1) Do you know what disability means?
2) Do you know someone who has a disability? Maybe someone who is blind, someone in a wheelchair or someone who needs extra help learning at school? Talk about the similarities they have with that kid, not only the differences.
3) Do you know what a Miracle is? They didn't only happen in the Bible, they happen today! Tell your child about one of the miracles from this episode and talk about how cool God is!

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Resources mentioned at the end of this episode:

Fast Friends by Heather M. O'Connor
Zoom by Robert Munsch
Questions and Feelings about Having a Disability by Louise Spilsbury
The Goose with Noodles for wings by Jaime Henderson
All about Diversity (Usborne books) by Felicity Brooks and Mar Ferrero

Today, the Penners share their thoughts on how biblical teachings influenced their decisions to enter into second and third marriages. They look at both the Old and New Testaments to explore what scripture says about these choices. They also discuss the insights and advice they received from family and friends along the way. Join Derek and Julia in today's discussion focused on "remarriage".

Resources mentioned in today's episode:
"101 Questions to Ask Before Getting Remarried" - H. Norman. Wright.

We'd love to hear from you about today's episode or future topics you'd like to hear on the podcast. Email us at thepennersworship@gmail.com or find us on Instagram at www.instagram.com/the.penners

Derek was launched into fatherhood at full speed when he joined the family in 2023. In today's episode, the Penners talk about what it was like to not only marry someone with kids, but be a father to those kids. What is the easiest part of Step-Dad life, and what is the biggest challenge he faces? Join the Penners in today's episode to hear all about living that step-dad life.

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Join the Penners as Julia opens up about what led to her father's death in 2019. Addiction is messy, hard, chaotic, uncertain and, in this case, led to brokeness that could not be fixed on this earth.

If you are triggered by sudden death, alcoholism or addiction in general, we suggest you take a moment to discern if this is an episode you should be listening to right now.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

* "Imagine Heaven" by John Burke
* "Hope for an Unwanted Journey" by Bill and Donna Lea Dyck
* "Good Boundaries and Goodbyes" by Lisa Terkeurst