Erika and Jordan Koop are back with the Connection Codes team to discuss creating meaningful connections within relationships and communities. From their initial struggles with applying Connection Codes to their eventual success in fostering a culture of emotional fluency in their northern Canadian community, their story gives you a look into both the challenges and rewards of building relational resilience. The conversation goes into the impact of vulnerability, the reality of conflict in close relationships, and steps for bringing transformative tools to others. The Koops show how connection can thrive even in the midst of personal and communal challenges.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠⁠

Connect with The Koops:

Erika and Jordan on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/questforthecore

Chapters

• 00:00:00 – The Start of a Connection Revolution
• 00:00:29 – Meet Jordan and Erica Koop
• 00:01:27 – A Message from Northern Canada
• 00:03:42 – The Koops’ Path to Connection Mastery
• 00:05:35 – Overcoming Barriers to Build Community
• 00:06:14 – The Key to Group Dynamics Success
• 00:09:01 – Profound Impacts of Connection Codes
• 00:16:10 – Personal Growth Through Emotional Challenges
• 00:27:17 – Navigating Shame and Fear in Relationships
• 00:28:30 – Exploring Emotional Cycles and the Pit of Despair
• 00:29:47 – Why Real-Time Emotional Processing Matters
• 00:31:23 – The Blueprint for a Supportive Community
• 00:34:33 – Vulnerability’s Role in Deepening Relationships
• 00:38:57 – Steps to Foster a Culture of Vulnerability
• 00:40:55 – Tangible Stories of Vulnerability at Work
• 00:45:12 – Empowering Community Builders with Resources
• 00:50:31 – Wrapping Up with Encouragement

Tera Wages and Echo Vetter Hill are discussing the realities of emotional awareness, exploring how emotions show up in our bodies and what they’re really telling us. They talk about the link between sensations and feelings, the purpose behind emotions like anger and sadness, and why we often resist our own needs. Together, they look at how facing pain can lead to real growth and how connecting with our emotions can transform relationships and self-understanding. Tera also guides you through the Core Emotion Wheel, giving you a look at a tool for identifying and processing what’s going on beneath the surface.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠ ⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠

Connect with Echo Hill Vetter:

Echo Hill Vetter’s Substack | Letters from Nashville: ⁠https://substack.com/@echohillvetter⁠

Echo on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/echohillvetter⁠

Schedule 1:1 Coaching or Group Coaching with Echo: ⁠https://calendly.com/echohillvetter⁠

Echo’s LinkTree: ⁠https://linktr.ee/echohillvetter

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 — Start of the journey with Connection Codes
• 00:00:35 — Discovering needs with Echo Vetter Hill
• 00:02:42 — Emotions decoded: What do they do?
• 00:07:16 — Sensations and self-awareness
• 00:13:02 — Emotions stored in the body
• 00:19:14 — Differentiating acute and chronic emotional pain
• 00:27:40 — The surprising strength of anger
• 00:35:52 — Building connection: The real practice
• 00:36:35 — Embracing vulnerability with emotion
• 00:38:30 — Recognizing and managing hurt
• 00:38:51 — Weighing pain against growth
• 00:44:38 — Facing sadness and navigating loss
• 00:47:59 — Loneliness exposed and finding support
• 00:55:19 — Guilt, shame, and rewriting our actions
• 00:59:55 — Unlocking the Core Emotion Wheel
• 01:06:45 — Final reflections and encouragement

Tera welcomes the co-creator of Connection Codes, Echo Hill Vetter. She’s a trauma informed coach as well as a parenting and lead coach. Today they’re discussing the power of beliefs and how they shape our identities, often keeping us in what Echo calls a "tiny little box." As they talk about the emotional weight of Election Day, they explore why differing perspectives can feel threatening and how fear plays a central role in our reactions. Tera and Echo discuss the impact of generational experiences and challenge you to approach differing beliefs with curiosity rather than judgment. Tera shares her own journey toward openness, encouraging you to stay connected to yourself and others, even when it feels uncomfortable.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Connect with Echo Hill Vetter:

Echo Hill Vetter’s Substack | Letters from Nashville: https://substack.com/@echohillvetter

Echo on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/echohillvetter

Schedule 1:1 Coaching or Group Coaching with Echo: https://calendly.com/echohillvetter

Echo’s LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/echohillvetter

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Election Day Reflections and Emotional Intensity
• 00:01:58 - Exploring How Beliefs Shape Identity
• 00:03:22 - The Role of Fear in Feeling Safe
• 00:04:43 - When Beliefs No Longer Fit
• 00:08:19 - Echo’s Personal Journey with Shifting Beliefs
• 00:10:13 - Finding Connection through Curiosity
• 00:14:58 - Using Emotional Awareness to Bridge Differences
• 00:20:33 - Discovering Common Ground Through Shared Fears
• 00:27:15 - Core Emotion Wheel: A Tool for Connection
• 00:30:47 - Final Reflections on Staying Connected

The Connection Codes Team are talking about the topic of male sexuality and vulnerability. With insights from listener feedback and an open discussion, they take a look at the hidden messages men receive about sex and desire—messages that create shame and emotional distance. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis share personal experiences and clinical observations on how societal pressures force men to conceal their struggles, while Tera brings a fresh perspective on how these issues affect marriages. Together, they discuss how acknowledging and unpacking these messages can lead to healthier connections and break down emotional barriers.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Starting the Conversation on Male Sexuality
• 00:00:49 - Listener’s Challenge Sparks a Deep Dive
• 00:04:01 - Untold Stories and Hidden Experiences
• 00:05:27 - The Influence of Cultural Messages
• 00:12:34 - Unpacking Lust and Attraction
• 00:21:45 - Navigating Purity Culture’s Impact
• 00:31:54 - Biblical Takes on Lust: A Fresh Look
• 00:36:59 - Understanding the Greek Roots of Lust
• 00:38:06 - When Does Lust Become Sin?
• 00:39:08 - Attraction Stories That Shape Us
• 00:42:23 - What It Means to Be "Missing" in Marriage
• 00:45:05 - Surprising Insights from Pre-Marriage Talks
• 00:50:00 - Honest Conversations in Pre-Marriage Counseling
• 00:56:08 - How Honesty Reshapes Relationships
• 01:03:14 - Wrapping Up with Core Emotion Reflections

Tera and Phyllis talk about overcoming long-standing taboos around sexual exploration in relationships. They discuss listener questions about intimacy and vulnerability, reflecting on personal stories of breaking through fear and shame. The conversation emphasizes the importance of open communication, mutual trust, and being adventurous in the bedroom—whether that means trying pole dancing, exploring phone sex, or simply processing long-held fears. This episode challenges listeners to move past societal judgments and find what works for them and their partners, pointing out that every couple’s journey is unique.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters

• 00:00:00 Introduction: Girl Time Vibes
• 00:00:50 Welcome to the Connection Codes
• 00:01:36 Unveiling a Listener's Email
• 00:03:26 Phyllis’s U-Haul Truck Adventure
• 00:05:12 Pushing the Boundaries in Sexual Adventure
• 00:07:44 Freeing Yourself from Shame and Judgment
• 00:12:52 Opening Up: Boundaries and Personal Comfort
• 00:14:10 Why Communication Is the Key to Intimacy
• 00:18:26 Chair Dancing: Phyllis’s Unexpected Confidence Boost
• 00:20:27 Staying Intimately Connected Across Distance
• 00:21:47 Girlfriends Sharing Bold Relationship Tips
• 00:23:34 Facing Shame and Embracing Vulnerability
• 00:24:03 The Joy of Fiction: A Surprising Tool for Sexual Exploration
• 00:26:32 From Theater to Bedroom: Removing Barriers
• 00:28:19 Self-Awareness: A Pathway to Sexual Exploration
• 00:31:00 Adventure in the Bedroom at Any Age
• 00:35:21 Processing Emotions Surrounding Sex
• 00:42:34 How to Build Safety and Curiosity in Relationships
• 00:44:13 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Therapist and author Sam Jolman joins Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill to discuss the topic of masculine sexuality. They discuss the ways men’s sexual identities are shaped by early experiences, cultural messages, and religious teachings. Sam shares stories and insights on how men can reclaim their sexuality by embracing vulnerability, addressing shame, and learning to see sex as a form of play rather than performance. The conversation also touches on common challenges in sexual relationships, the importance of open communication, and how better sexual education can lead to deeper emotional connections.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠⁠

Connect with Sam:

• Sam Jolman: https://www.samjolman.com/
• Sam on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/samjolman/
• Sam on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/samjolmancounseling
• Sam’s Substack - the heart of it: https://samjolman.substack.com/
• The Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam Jolman: https://tinyurl.com/4s7b47pr
• Story Formed by Sam Jolman: https://tinyurl.com/53sy8amx

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 – Setting the Stage: Why This Episode Stands Out
• 00:01:38 – Meet Sam Jolman: A New Voice in Masculine Sexuality
• 00:03:48 – Redefining Masculine Sexuality Through Personal Stories
• 00:06:52 – Real-Life Experiences That Shape Our Sexual Identity
• 00:09:55 – Why Sexual Education Is More Important Than Ever
• 00:14:03 – Navigating Challenges in Today’s Sexual Relationships
• 00:20:20 – The Strength in Vulnerability: Opening Up About Sexuality
• 00:25:01 – How to Clearly Communicate Your Sexual Needs
• 00:27:29 – Breaking Down Sexual Play and Its Importance in Relationships
• 00:28:28 – Understanding the Boundaries: Consent and Desire
• 00:29:37 – The Neurological Basis for Play and Vulnerability
• 00:32:32 – The Root of Miscommunication in Sexual Relationships
• 00:34:24 – Overcoming Fear and Embracing Playfulness in Intimacy
• 00:47:13 – The Hidden Power of Non-Sexual Play in Strengthening Bonds
• 00:48:37 – Wrapping It Up: Key Takeaways from the Conversation

The discussion in this episode is about the dynamics of conflict in marriage, exploring how trying to "win" an argument can lead to emotional disconnection. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill unpack the idea of the "courtroom" in relationships, where couples focus on proving who's right instead of understanding each other's emotions. They discuss how this leads to loneliness, especially in areas like sex, and share tools to shift from battling over facts to building deeper emotional connection. Whether it's about resolving conflict or dealing with sexual loneliness, you’ll be offered a path to transforming your relationship.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Opening the Courtroom: How Conflicts Become Trials in Marriage
• 00:01:21 - Marriage as a Battlefield: The Story Behind the Courtroom Mentality
• 00:03:05 - The Burden of Being Right: When Winning Means Losing
• 00:04:21 - Logistics vs. Emotions: The Trap of Disconnected Arguments
• 00:09:45 - The High Cost of Winning: How Arguments Lead to Disconnection
• 00:14:36 - Exhaustion and Innocence: Why Proving Your Case Drains You
• 00:21:36 - The Unseen Toll: Navigating Emotional Chaos
• 00:22:20 - Sexual Loneliness Unveiled: A Pain Often Ignored
• 00:23:05 - Connection Through Conversation: How Words Heal
• 00:24:54 - Validation’s Power: The Key to Emotional Harmony
• 00:26:37 - Conflict as Connection: Transformative Approaches
• 00:27:40 - Practical Tools for Lasting Emotional Intimacy
• 00:29:32 - Reflecting on Past Wounds: Why Emotional Tools Matter
• 00:33:19 - Emotional Mastery: Building the Right Relationship Toolkit
• 00:37:15 - Healing Old Wounds: How Emotional Tools Transform Relationships
• 00:41:48 - Encouragement & Wrap-Up: Moving Forward with Connection

We explore the impacts of unprocessed emotions on mental health, from childhood trauma to adult struggles like OCD and anxiety. The team discusses how society’s tendency to label people, rather than understand them, leads to deeper psychological challenges. They discuss the importance of emotional regulation and use simple tools like the Core Emotion Wheel to help both adults and children process their feelings. By addressing these issues early on, we can improve emotional health and break harmful cycles across generations.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Unveiling the Spectrum of Psyche Disorders: A Journey Begins
• 00:02:06 - Navigating the Human Condition: What Shapes Us?
• 00:03:28 - Unprocessed Emotions: Silent Disruptors of Our Lives
• 00:06:45 - Real Stories, Real Struggles: Humanity in Motion
• 00:09:31 - Childhood Memories: How Early Trauma Echoes in Adulthood
• 00:12:27 - Cultural Shifts and the Rise of Pathologizing Human Experience
• 00:16:02 - Living with OCD: A Deep Dive into Personal Insights
• 00:24:57 - Parenting in the Face of Emotional Health Challenges
• 00:31:26 - Parenting Misunderstandings: The Unspoken Burdens
• 00:33:53 - Childhood Anxiety: Recognizing and Addressing It Early
• 00:36:35 - A Neighborhood Incident: Society’s Quick Judgments Exposed
• 00:40:24 - The Vital Role of Emotional Regulation in Everyday Life
• 00:47:55 - The Core Emotion Wheel: A Game-Changer for All Ages
• 00:54:14 - Personal Reflections: Processing the Emotional Journey
• 01:00:38 - Wrapping Up: Final Thoughts and Encouragement for the Road Ahead