This episode, Matt and Graham try to help listeners answer the key question of when to stay and work hard on an imperfect relationship, and when to call it quits.

In a culture of instant gratification, we're often told to cut and run.

But relationships aren't meant to be easy, and a good life involves accepting life on life’s terms. If you end it, you might be missing the satisfaction and self-growth that come via the joint effort.. You might even live longer: married people are 20 percent less likely to die prematurely.

Even if you choose to stay and fight for the relationship, how do you make that work? What might you need to change within yourself?

It's 25 years since the release of David Fincher's movie Fight Club. The first rule of Fight Club is, of course, never to discuss Fight Club.

Matt and Graham disagree. More couples should talk about fighting. Arguments happen. The trick is to make sure you fight well.

Cultivating good relationships is like learning a new language: there are certain grammatical "rules" to guide you; practice makes perfect; making mistakes is a key part of getting better. But we often mistakenly assume we just absorb those skills during our early lives.

Today, Matt and Graham explore skills we need to learn along the way to get better at relationships and how to learn to put aside some of the learning we did in our childhood homes ("we never argue in this house", "when things get difficult, doors get slammed" etc.) and lean into the differences our partners bring to the table.

Along the way, the delve deeper into some of the specific skills we could all do with practicing to improve our relationships.