Episode 20 - Introduction to entering controlling relationships as a trauma response

Are you in a relationship personal or professional with someone that makes you feel powerless or scared? Maybe they hold grudges constantly over issues that are actually trivial? Perhaps they make you feel like you cannot do anything right ever, or that there is something wrong with you?

Or maybe you are in a situation where the other person makes you feel like you are always the problem in any situation. In certain situations they could be monitoring you by asking you to tell them everything or looking into your personal email and social media accounts?

If so, you could be experiencing a controlling relationship situation. If you are realizing that this may be the case for you, it is absolutely not your fault and you can get out of it.

So what exactly is a controlling relationship?

A controlling relationship is one that is based on an imbalance of power. It is a relationship where the other person is dominating you, and displaying authoritarian and possessive behavior. It is a situation where the other person is constantly trying to control your every move, regularly makes you feel guilty, shows extreme jealousy, isolates you from your friends and family. It is a relationship where you are not free to be yourself, and where you experience a lack of self worth, intimidation, guilt and insecurity and alienation from your support system. This form of control can be brought up in multiple ways - financial, physical, sexual, spiritual, psychological and emotional.

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Episode 19 -Introduction to emotional numbness as a trauma response

Have you ever experienced a change in your emotional experience, as if your emotions became something you started to have restricted access to? Or perhaps, have your emotions started to feel completely inaccessible? Maybe you have experienced a feeling of distance and detachment from others, and have developed a strong preference for being alone and isolated. Or are you struggling to experience positive feelings like happiness and feel generally “flat” emotionally and physically? If you are experiencing one or more of these symptoms, you could be dealing with emotional numbness as a trauma response.

So what exactly is emotional numbness?

Emotional numbness is when you are in a state of existence which leaves you unable to feel and express emotions. It is the mental and emotional process of shutting out feelings. Everyone can experience a day when they feel emotionally numb and it is often temporary. When experiencing emotional numbness though, this feeling will be present for many days consecutively and for multiple weeks in a row. The emotional numbness will begin to impact your day to day life. Emotional numbness is a strategy to protect oneself from a physical or emotional pain that is in addition to what you have already endured.

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Episode 18 - Introduction to people pleasing and ignoring your own needs

Do you overcommit to activities or responsibilities that others ask of you? Do you ever find yourself saying yes to everything or struggling to ever say the word no to others? Maybe you often find that you are saying yes to work or personal commitments, despite having too much of a work or personal load already. Maybe you end up regretting saying yes and over-committing yourself. Or, perhaps you look back and realize that you are never taking care of your own needs because you have been so focused on pleasing others. If so, you may be experiencing People Pleasing as a Trauma Response.

So what exactly is people pleasing?

People pleasing is when a person constantly strives to please others, a people pleaser chronically over-commits to activities and responsibilities and, people pleasers have a great deal of trouble setting boundaries.

People pleasing can be a trauma response, this is a response that is motivated by fear.

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