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Do it different.

著者： Jez Rose
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  • This is a podcast about finding the best version of us.

    With so many versions of ourselves, at home, at work, alone, and with each group of friends - all with so much influence on how we behave and show up - could we be further from truly knowing ourselves than we’ve ever been?

    Join #1 bestselling author Jez Rose to discover who we are, why, and how to discover the best version of ourselves. #doitdifferent
    © Jez Rose 2024, all rights reserved.
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  • The Changes That Matter (Episode #5)

    The Changes That Matter (Episode #5)
    2024/09/17

    This is the first of what will be monthly feature-length episodes that include an interview with a special guest. I've got some amazing guests lined up for the series and am delighted to begin with someone you'll likely not have heard of...

    TRANSCRIPT:

    Don’t ever google the words “motivational quote”.

    Either you run the day, or the day runs you - that’s Jim Rohn.

    Fear kills more dreams than failure ever will. Suzy Kassem.

    Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible. That one is Tony Robbins.

    Look, they’re not bad; I’m not dismissing other people’s work and you may well have been inspired or found some of those useful either in the past, or just now. That’s all okay. I’m not having a rant about motivational quotes, per-se.

    The message that our lives can be better than they are right now is for some a life saving message, and for all of us at some point has been necessary to hear to help us move forwards or heal. However, I do have a problem with them, and it’s a glaring omission that makes me feel uneasy and is at the heart of all that is wrong with the self-help inspirational literature and motivational speaking worlds.

    Hello everyone, my name is Jez Rose, a behaviourist and author encouraging people to discover the best version of themselves. Welcome to episode 5 of my weekly podcast ‘do it different’ where we’ll explore just that.

    This week is the first of the monthly feature-length episodes, with a special guest. More on that in a moment.

    You see, what people don’t tell us about all this inspiration to change, and be different, and think different, and do different things, is that changing is hard. It requires support, new habits, and specific environments to help us.

    Reading an inspirational book isn’t enough. Having motivational reminders on your bathroom mirror isn’t enough either. We must act, and that requires a leap of faith on our part; leaning into a vulnerable space where we must let go of what we know, and hope the change we hope for not only does happen but that it is at least as we expected.

    This week I’m joined by someone you won’t know. Lesley Graney is a Mum, a wife, a teacher - and the thing you need to know about Lesley is that she has stage 4 breast cancer.

    Hey Lesley.

    Can you tell the story about how we met?


    If this week’s episode has encouraged you to consider your own journey to becoming the best version of yourself, head over to thatjezrose.com/journey

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  • We Have (More Than) Enough (Episode #4)

    We Have (More Than) Enough (Episode #4)
    2024/09/10
    TRANSCRIPT:I read a post on instagram that said: adulthood is basically saying as soon as this week is out of the way things will calm down and it’ll be okay, over and over again.We never state *which* week though do we! We keep it vague! That certainly was my life for a long time, at work and at home - believing if I just got this thing done, it would all calm down. I just need to get these emails out the way, or this bit of work done and then I can relax. In fact, that’s how I lived for most of my life. Chasing the idea of obtaining something in the belief that then, then, things would feel different. Better. Complete. Less stressed.My entire life consumed with the idea that when I bought a certain thing my life would be happier; when I achieved a specific work milestone or number of instagram followers, or income amount, I’d somehow feel accomplished and that life would be better. Chasing all the time for more. Not in a consciously greedy way, but in an entirely unconscious, un-present way that had somehow gripped me like an obsession I wasn’t even aware I had. A behavioural addiction in its truest sense. There was no malice; it wasn’t like I was thinking I’d be better than other people if I had a specific object, or appeared on a certain TV program, but the drive existed nonetheless, entirely selfishly, for me, because I was sucked into the idea that I would somehow be not even happier, just happy, more content sure, but also that I would feel successful or validated conditionally when that certain thing was achieved. But it never, ever, ends.We’re always running after something we believe we’ll be happier for having. Sound familiar?Hello everyone, my name is Jez Rose, and welcome to episode 4 of my weekly podcast ‘do it different’.“Please sir”, replied Oliver, “I want some more”. In Charles Dickens’ Oliver Twist the young boy seeks more and is cruelly punished for his greed. More, more, more is what so many seem to blindly seek, perfectly able to justify why we need a new car, a new item of clothing, more shoes, the latest thingy majig from an instagram ad. Reaching desperately to the future that will be brighter, easier, happier with the latest temptation of our desire. Desire is the root of all evil, and all our futures are a graveyard, so why are we rushing there?Well it’s not that we’re all bad people, it’s that we have a powerful relationship with the chemicals that impact our brain like dopamine - the feel-goodHormone that is released when good things happen to us. It’s so powerful that we actively seek more of it, and our brains quickly connect which behaviours are linked to getting the dopamine fix of feeling positive and stimulated. The social status that comes with the purchase of an expensive item of clothing, for example. The feeling of being part of an elite group. Better than others. Safe. Superior. All very primitive desires from a survival and development perspective.Looking back, did anything get better for us in the way we hoped it might because of us reaching for more? Well, of course, for a time….. but then we reach for more again, and I do know nothing makes us happy for long or cures any ill feeling. Nothing we buy or do secures us in a place of nirvana forever. We are only ever managing the impact on us of external factors, and as fellow Buddhist Cory Muscara said: until you are able to hold the discomfort of life with stillness and presence, your inner world will continue to push you into unconscious reactivity. The tragedy of life is not death but what we let die inside of us while we live. It is true that sometimes we need to be brave enough to outgrow the life we’ve built, but we should never do that at the expense of living right now, and buying our way to happiness, or relying on the future version of ourselves to be happy, sorted, less stressed and to have it all together is futile, and entirely at odds with reality. When I realised this, I looked through all of my possessions - every item I owned. Why did I buy the £1000 luggage? Is it any better than luggage even half that amount? No. So I sold it. Why did I buy £200 pencils? Are they beautiful? Yes. Do they have exactly the same graphite inside them as one dollar pencils. Yes. So I sold them. Then my attention turned to items. Things. Stuff. Sat on our shelves, on surfaces, window ledges and in cabinets. And I’m talking about the things you can see, that you buy to make your house look pretty. Or so that’s what we tell ourselves. Do we need them? For me, I realised for much of them, no. If it didn’t have an essential purpose, or deep personal meaning, I sold it. Looking around, I realised I had more than enough. And then there were the drawers and cupboards full of more things collected over years and just coming along for the ride because we have greater feelings of security with the more possessions we have: security symbols. All the time seeking more of ...
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    12 分
  • The Search for Meaning (Episode #3)

    The Search for Meaning (Episode #3)
    2024/09/03
    TRANSCRIPT:Do you ever wonder what the meaning of life is? Wait, that’s probably too deep to start with. What I mean is - or perhaps I’m looking for reassurance that it’s not only me - when you look at a huge tree with its vast trunk, and bountiful leaves and you suddenly remember that it grew from a tiny seed that would fit on the very end of your finger tip. Or when you look at a tall building, soaring high into the sky with its many floors, and marvel at how all that weight on each floor doesn’t just collapse the building. Or looking at a fellow human and your mind is blown when you realise they were a tiny baby when they were first born and beneath the skin a mess of liquids and electrical impulses. Life, in all its forms, is mesmerising, mind-blowing, awe-inspiring, and utterly magical. But the world as we know it - of its beauty and flaws, is created almost entirely by our mind. Which is exactly why the phrase ‘beauty is in the eye of the beholder’ is such an interesting statement. The fact that the world, or more specifically our perception of what we see is created by our mind is precisely why there is conflict of opinion. But actions and insight must go hand in hand. We may have deep aspirations toward the future; dreams, aspirations, goals - but how are we living in this moment, right now, to support the future we would like to create? At work and at home, what culture are you actively helping to create?Hello everyone, my name is Jez Rose, and welcome to episode 3 of ‘do it different, my new podcast exploring how we discover the best version of ourselves’.The meaning of life for many is simply to enjoy every moment. After all, there’s no guarantee of a tomorrow. Ask 10 people what the meaning of life is and you’ll likely get several different answers: to make a difference, to help others, to leave the world better than how you found it, to reach the top, to succeed in every endeavourSo, what is the meaning of life? Well, the meaning to you may well be different to what I feel the meaning is, and that’s the point: there is no one meaning of life because life is what our brains make it to be. And so the unanswerable question changes position to something much more interesting and useful: how do live a meaningful life?It starts, just as our understanding of the world does, with our own perception because when we accept we have control, we stop seeking meaning in external factors. There’s no need to yearn for the latest iPhone, or an expensive car, or a Gucci watch to get meaning because all of those things are meaning-less. A PhD or starting your own business aren’t meaningful either. They are accolades to collect: external things we seek because our brain is programmed to collect. Our species collects things: food, money, status, for survival, and it always has done. Entirely necessary once, don’t get me wrong, - and by once I mean in the early stages of human development, but arguably not at all any more. I don’t need a PhD to be a king person or to make a difference. I don’t need an expensive watch to make me good at my job. And I certainly don’t need the latest iPhone to make me happy. All around us, littered throughout our lives are things without meaning, and hearts and minds yearning for more meaning: for substance, for their lives to feel better, or different, or more purposeful - or just not to be how they are. Instead of looking inwards, we by habit look externally: what can I buy to fix things or change things. After a while we realise that what we’ve been doing isn’t working and we find ourselves at a place where, even if we can’t quite put our finger on it, life just doesn’t quite feel right.Listener Victoria sent in this question, which I think sums up the need for meaning really well.My name is Victoria and I am a 34 year old sty at home Mum to my 4 year old son. I have struggled with change my entire life, probably more than the average person. Before my son was born I worked as a neurosurgical operating room nurse. As you can imagine becoming a parent is the change of a lifetime and boy was I unprepared. My husband and I had a lot of curve balls thrown at us and as much as I love my son and appreciate that I am able to stay home with him full time, these last three years have been the hardest of my life. I often find myself wrestling with my thoughts which are equal parts 'things will be better when', and ' I need to savour this moment or I will regret it'. I try to tell myself 'don't think about tomorrow, focus on right now' but it's so, so hard. I often feel unsettled and would love to learn how to feel to just be. How can I get to a place of peace and acceptance not only as a Mum, but as myself? What are some small changes I can put into practice to help me be more present and live just for today. Honestly I'm looking to just be peaceful and just feel 'ok, this is my life and I want to be happy.' Thank you so much, your insight ...
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    12 分

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This is a podcast about finding the best version of us.

With so many versions of ourselves, at home, at work, alone, and with each group of friends - all with so much influence on how we behave and show up - could we be further from truly knowing ourselves than we’ve ever been?

Join #1 bestselling author Jez Rose to discover who we are, why, and how to discover the best version of ourselves. #doitdifferent
© Jez Rose 2024, all rights reserved.
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