If you’re like most people with chronic insomnia, you’ve probably tried a lot of things to fix it.

• Pills
• Relaxation exercises
• Strict wind-down routines
• Endless adjustments to your bedroom setup

But despite your best efforts, you still can’t sleep.

That’s not your fault.

And it doesn’t mean you’re broken.

It just means you’ve been stuck in a trap most people fall into.

Here’s what it is:

Most insomnia fixes are actually sleep efforts.

And sleep efforts are one of the core reasons insomnia persists.

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What Are Sleep Efforts?

Sleep efforts are any actions you take to try to make sleep happen.

They come from a place of urgency and desperation.

You’re exhausted.

You’re anxious.

You want sleep to come—but it won’t.

So you try to force it.

You do something to fix it.

Because that’s what we’re taught to do in life.

See a problem, take action, fix it.

But that logic backfires with sleep.

Because sleep isn’t something you do.

It’s a passive biological process.

Just like digestion or your heartbeat.

It happens on its own—when the conditions are right.

And trying to make it happen just sends your body the wrong message.

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Why Sleep Efforts Keep You Stuck

There are two big reasons sleep efforts fail—and actually make things worse.

1. They activate your nervous system.

When you treat being awake at night like a crisis you need to fix, your body hears:

“There’s a threat.”

And when your body thinks there’s a threat, it activates fight-or-flight.

That ramps up the Sleep-Stopping Force—your anxiety and hyperarousal.

And that stops sleep from happening, no matter how tired you are.

2. They reinforce fear.

When your efforts fail—which they almost always do—you feel even more anxious.

More out of control.

More desperate.

Which just ramps up the cycle again.

You try harder.

Sleep resists.

And on it goes.

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Examples of Sleep Efforts

Here are a few common sleep efforts that might sound familiar:

• Elaborate bedtime routines

• Using breathwork or meditation specifically to induce sleep

• Micromanaging your bedroom environment

• Taking sleeping pills or supplements

• Changing your entire day around to “protect” your sleep

• Getting in bed early or sleeping in late to “catch up”

None of these are bad in themselves.

But if you’re doing them as a way to control sleep, they’re sleep efforts.

And they’re keeping you stuck.

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So What Should You Do?

The first step is to recognize sleep efforts for what they are.

Desperate attempts to control an uncontrollable process.

They’re not evil.

They’re just misguided.

The next step?

Let go.

Not of sleep.

But of the efforts.

This might sound counterintuitive.

But it’s exactly how normal sleepers sleep.

They don’t try to sleep.

They just allow sleep to happen when it’s ready.

And your body can too—once the sleep-stopping force is lowered.

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A Quick Experiment

Let’s test it.

Right now—or tonight when you go to bed—try this:

Lie down.

Close your eyes.

And tell yourself:

“Sleep. Now.”

Feel that?

Even with a strong desire to sleep, you can’t force it.

It’s just not how sleep works.

And that’s actually good news.

Because once you stop trying to force it, sleep gets a lot easier.

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What Happens...

If you feel like you’ve tried everything to fix your sleep and nothing has worked, there’s a reason for that.

It’s not because you’re failing.

It’s not because your brain is broken.

It’s because most insomnia solutions ignore a very simple but crucial truth:

There are only two forces that control whether or not you sleep.

We refer to them as the Sleep-Starting Force and the Sleep-Stopping Force.

Understanding these two forces is the key to reversing chronic insomnia.

And once you know how they work, you’ll finally be able to stop trying to “force” sleep and start letting it happen naturally.

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Force #1: The Sleep-Starting Force

This is what makes sleep happen.

It’s made up of two biological systems:

• Your sleep drive
• Your circadian rhythm

Your sleep drive is your body’s pressure to sleep.

It builds up the longer you stay awake.

And the only way to release it is by actually sleeping.

It’s kind of like hunger.

The longer you go without food, the stronger your urge to eat.

Eventually, the pressure is so strong that you have to eat.

Sleep works the same way.

You can’t go without sleep forever.

Your body will make it happen.

Then there’s your circadian rhythm—your internal body clock.

It tells your body when to feel awake and when to feel sleepy based on past patterns, light exposure, and time of day.

In the evening, your circadian rhythm aligns with your sleep drive, helping you feel sleepy.

This powerful combo is your Sleep-Starting Force.

It’s your body’s built-in system for regulating sleep.

And here’s the good news:

It cannot be broken.

Even if you have chronic insomnia, this system is still there in your body—waiting to help you.

So why doesn’t it feel like it works?

Force #2: The Sleep-Stopping Force

If the sleep-starting force is your body’s built-in mechanism to make you sleep, then the sleep-stopping force is what blocks it.

And this force is almost entirely psychological.

It’s made up of:

• Anxiety
• Hyperarousal
• And the nervous system’s threat response

When your brain perceives a threat, it activates the fight-or-flight response.

This was helpful when we were being chased by wild animals.

However, it becomes a problem when the “threat” is your fear of not sleeping.

Your body can’t tell the difference.

It just knows you feel under threat.

So it keeps you awake.

Because to your primal brain, it’s not safe to sleep when there’s danger nearby.

That’s why sleep is so hard when you’re anxious.

Even when your body is tired.

Even when you want nothing more than to rest.

The threat of insomnia becomes insomnia.

This creates a loop:

You fear not sleeping → your nervous system activates → you can’t sleep → that makes you more anxious → your nervous system activates again… and on it goes.

This is the Sleep-Stopping Force.

And it’s the real reason you can’t fall asleep—not because you’re doing something wrong.

So What Makes Sleep Happen Easily?

Here’s the formula you want:

High Sleep-Starting Force + Low Sleep-Stopping Force = effortless sleep

If your body is biologically ready to sleep and your nervous system is calm, sleep happens.

No...

If you’re struggling with chronic insomnia, it’s not because you haven’t tried hard enough.

It’s not because you’re broken.

And it’s not because you haven’t found the right sleep hygiene hack.

It’s because insomnia becomes conditioned over time—and this conditioning keeps your nervous system on high alert every night.

In this episode, I want to show you why that happens… and what to do about it.

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The Heart of Chronic Insomnia: Sleep Anxiety and Hyperarousal

At its core, long-term insomnia is a psychological and physiological loop.

You begin to feel anxious about sleep.

That anxiety activates your nervous system.

Your body enters a fight-or-flight state.

And that physical hyperarousal blocks your ability to fall and stay asleep.

This happens even when you’re exhausted.

You might feel wired at bedtime.

You might toss and turn while your mind spins.

You might even jerk awake just as you’re drifting off.

These are all signs that your nervous system is on high alert.

So how does this keep going?

There are 3 common patterns that fuel insomnia over time:

• Unhelpful perceptions
• Unhelpful reactions
• Unhelpful behaviors

Unhelpful Perceptions

This includes misunderstandings about sleep and insomnia.

You might think:

“There’s something wrong with me.”

“My body just doesn’t know how to sleep.”

“I’ll never function again if I sleep badly tonight.”

You may also carry extreme fears about the long-term effects of insomnia.

These thoughts feel real—but they’re often based on misinformation.

As your mind catastrophizes, your body believes the threat is real.

Cue more stress.

Cue more hyperarousal.

Cue more sleeplessness.

Throughout this system, you’ll learn to shift your perceptions.

By understanding how sleep actually works and how insomnia is maintained, your fear naturally decreases.

When the fear drops, your nervous system begins to calm down.

Unhelpful Reactions

These are the emotional and cognitive patterns that keep your sleep anxiety alive.

You might feel emotionally volatile when you don’t sleep well.

You might spiral when you feel tired during the day.

You might try to force yourself to sleep.

Or berate yourself for not being able to.

These reactions keep you trapped.

With tools like mindfulness, acceptance, and self-compassion, you can learn how to reduce emotional overreactivity and soften your nervous system response.

Unhelpful Behaviors

This includes what you actually do in response to insomnia.

You might:

• Spend extra time in bed trying to make sleep happen
• Take long naps
• Cancel plans to “protect” your sleep
• Avoid life activities that used to bring you joy

These behaviors unintentionally reinforce your fear of insomnia.

They train your brain to believe sleep is fragile and must be “protected.”

But this pressure only makes things worse.

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Conditioned Hyperarousal: Why Your Body Reacts Automatically

Here’s the kicker.

After enough nights of poor sleep and high anxiety, your nervous system starts associating nighttime with threat.

Even if you’re not consciously anxious, your body remembers.

This is known as conditioned hyperarousal.

You might feel sleepy at 9pm.

But the second your head hits the pillow, you’re wide awake.

You might even sleep fine one night, only to find yourself triggered the next.

That’s not your fault.

It’s a...

If you’ve ever wondered how your insomnia actually started and why it’s been so hard to fix… this email is for you.

Because insomnia develops in a fairly predictable way.

And the science explains why so many people end up stuck in it long after the original stressor is gone.

There are three ingredients that lead to chronic insomnia:

Risk factors, a triggering event, and then sleep anxiety.

Let’s walk through this.

Step 1: Risk factors make you vulnerable

These are things in your life that increase your chances of developing insomnia.

Examples include:

• A family history of insomnia
• Prior sleep difficulties
• Being female or getting older
• High sensitivity to feeling bad when you don’t sleep
• Perfectionism or Type A tendencies
• Anxiety, depression, or trauma history
• Health anxiety
• A strong need for control in life

If any of these sound familiar, you’re not alone.

They don’t cause insomnia directly.

But they do make you more likely to struggle when something stressful happens.

Step 2: A triggering event causes short-term sleep disruption

This is usually a stressful situation that temporarily disrupts your sleep.

It might be:

• Work pressure
• A loss or grief​
• A new baby
• Financial stress
• A health scare
• Big life changes
• Or even excitement

These events can make it harder to fall asleep or stay asleep for a while.

This is completely normal.

In most people, once the event passes, sleep returns to normal.

But for others… it doesn’t.

Step 3: Anxiety takes over

When the short-term disruption doesn’t resolve, a deeper pattern starts to form.

You begin to worry:

“What if I can’t sleep again tonight?”

“How will I function tomorrow?”

That worry feels real—and your body reacts like it’s in danger.

This triggers nervous system hyperarousal.

You enter fight-or-flight mode… in bed.

Your heart races.

Your muscles stay tense.

Your thoughts spiral.

You get sudden jerks as you’re falling asleep.

You wake up in the night, wired.

You constantly monitor how close you are to sleep.

Your body isn’t broken.

It’s just been trained to associate nighttime with danger.

This is why insomnia persists—even when the original stressor is long gone.

So, what’s really going on?

Insomnia is not a disease or a defect.

It’s a learned pattern of fear and nervous system activation around sleep.

And that’s actually good news.

Because what is learned can be unlearned.

Why this matters

Understanding that the root of insomnia is sleep anxiety and hyperarousal shifts everything.

It’s not about fixing your sleep directly.

It’s about calming your anxiety and retraining your nervous system to feel safe at night.

That’s what the End Insomnia System is built to do.

It’s not a set of sleep hacks.

It’s a full transformation that helps you:

• Rewire your response to insomnia
• Reverse hyperarousal
• And reduce the fear of not sleeping

So sleep starts happening naturally again.

One final note

This isn’t your fault.

Insomnia develops from a storm of life stress, personality traits, and your body doing its best to protect you.

But it’s also something you can work through.

And you don’t have to do it alone.

You’re not broken.

You’re not alone.

And you’re not stuck with...

I and 100s of others have used the End Insomnia System to recover from insomnia for good and sleep great again for life.

Have you ever had doubts that a new system that goes after the root cause of insomnia - hyperarousal - might not work for you?

If so, you’re not alone.

Many people struggling with insomnia feel skeptical at first.

And it’s understandable.

You’ve probably tried countless things that didn’t help or, worse, made things more frustrating.

But let’s explore some common doubts you might have and why they don’t mean the End Insomnia System can’t work for you.

Objection #1: “I have insomnia, but I’m not anxious.”

Maybe the word “anxiety” doesn’t feel like it fits.

That’s fine.

Instead, try focusing on what happens in your body at night when you can’t sleep.

Do you feel tired but wired?

Agitated?

Frustrated?

Is your heart pounding?

Are your muscles tense?

Are your thoughts racing?

That’s not just “normal restlessness.”

That’s a textbook fight-or-flight response.

Your nervous system is reacting to a perceived threat.

That reaction is anxiety - whether you feel mentally anxious or not.

You don’t need to identify as “an anxious person” to recognize your body is stuck in high-alert mode.

And that’s what’s interfering with your ability to fall and stay asleep.

Now ask yourself:

If you truly felt no fear about insomnia or its consequences, would your sleep still be an issue?

In almost every case, the answer is no.

​Objection #2: “I’ve been disappointed so many times. Why should I trust this system?”

Totally fair.

Most people reading this have tried everything - supplements, sleep hygiene, CBT-i, and walked away frustrated.

The difference here is that the End Insomnia System doesn’t focus on making sleep happen.

Instead, it helps you dismantle the anxiety that prevents sleep from happening naturally.

This system doesn’t offer a quick fix. There are none, trust me.

It provides a step-by-step process for unwinding the nervous system patterns that keep you stuck.

And while it takes time, the long-term results are real.

If you’re tired of surface-level fixes, this is a different approach entirely.

Objection #3: “Maybe I’m just broken.”

This one hurts the most - and it’s one of the most common.

You’ve had so many sleepless nights, you’ve started to believe something is deeply wrong.

You’ve probably googled endlessly.

You’ve read scary theories on Reddit.

You’ve convinced yourself that something inside your brain or body is irreparably damaged.

But here’s the truth:

You are not broken.

Your nervous system has been trained to associate night with threat.

And it’s doing what it’s supposed to do when there’s danger: keeping you alert and awake.

This is not a defect.

It’s conditioning.

And conditioning can be reversed.

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Objection #4: “My insomnia is too unique for anything to help.”

Maybe you fall asleep fine, but wake up at 3 a.m.

Or maybe your mind races the second your head hits the pillow.

Or maybe you feel calm at night, but still can’t sleep.

The manifestations of insomnia vary.

But the mechanism under the surface is almost always the same:

A nervous system stuck in threat mode.

A mind trained to over-monitor sleep.

A cycle of fear and struggle that’s gotten deeply ingrained.

This system addresses that cycle—no matter how your insomnia shows up.

Objection #5: “My psychology is too complex for this to work.”

You may...

I know how terrifying insomnia can be.

I’ve lived through it myself for 5 brutal years.

I created the End Insomnia System because nothing else worked.

And I tried everything.

This system wasn’t born in a lab.

It came from my own desperation.

Let me take you back to how it all started.

My descent into insomnia

It began after a particularly stressful period in my life.

The stress eventually passed.

But the insomnia didn’t.

Even once the circumstances calmed down, my body remained on high alert.

I dragged myself through each day, exhausted and tense.

My brain was foggy.

I was irritable, anxious, and scared.

Scared of another night.

Scared of how I’d feel the next morning.

Scared this was never going to end.

I kept telling myself it would resolve on its own.

But it didn’t.

In fact, things only got worse.

The turning point

I would lie awake for hours.

Then finally fall asleep—only to jolt awake again, heart pounding.

Sometimes I’d feel panic setting in as soon as I got into bed.

Other times, I’d toss and turn all night in a kind of frozen dread.

I couldn’t relax.

I couldn’t think clearly.

And I couldn’t find anyone who seemed to truly understand what I was going through.

Even people trying to help didn’t get it.

Sleep was becoming the central force in my life.

And it was wrecking everything.

I stopped enjoying things.

Stopped seeing friends.

Stopped feeling like myself.

It was a lonely path to walk.

So I started chasing solutions.

I tried everything

Here’s just some of what I tried:

• Sleeping pills
• Sleep hygiene
• Herbal teas and tinctures
• Relaxation apps
• Exercise
• Weighted blankets
• Blackout curtains
• Pre-bedtime routines
• Cold showers
• Hot showers
• Vitamin D
• Vitamin B12
• No caffeine
• No alcohol
• No screens 2 hours before bed
• Sunlight first thing in the morning, blue-light glasses
• Sleep restriction therapy and CBT-i

Some helped for a few nights.

Most didn’t help at all.

None of it lasted.

After CBT-i failed me—despite being “the gold standard”—I knew I had to do something different.

I wasn’t willing to spend the rest of my life sleep-deprived and afraid.

What finally made things click

I started researching what actually causes long-term insomnia.

What I found changed everything.

Insomnia almost always starts from stress.

But it persists because of sleep anxiety and nervous system activation.

When you’re afraid of not sleeping, your body goes into survival mode.

And the more you worry about sleep, the more you unknowingly train your nervous system to stay alert at night.

This is called conditioned hyperarousal.

And it explains why you can feel calm all day, but your heart still pounds the moment you lie down.

That insight finally helped me understand the real problem.

But I still didn’t have a clear path to fix it.

What helped me finally escape insomnia

Around this time, I found an approach called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).

It had been proven effective for anxiety, trauma, and hyperarousal.

But it had barely been applied to insomnia.

So I teamed up with a therapist.

We studied the research.

We filled in the gaps.

We added in tools from nervous system work, psychology, and mindfulness.

We tested everything.

I experimented on myself.

And slowly…

Things began to shift.

I began to feel calm at night—even if I...

If you’re like many people with long-term insomnia, you’ve probably tried everything.

Pills. Teas. Blackout curtains. Supplements. Sleep hygiene checklists.

You’ve rearranged your bedroom, created the “perfect” nighttime routine, and cut caffeine completely.

And yet here you are, still not sleeping.

• You’re exhausted, frustrated, and on the verge of giving up.
• You want to sleep more than anything, but nothing seems to work.
• Your nights are filled with effort.
• Your days are shadowed by dread and fatigue.

And maybe, deep down, you’ve started to wonder if there’s something uniquely wrong with you.

Something no book, protocol, or expert has been able to fix.

Here’s the truth:

You are not broken.

But you have been misled.

Most approaches to insomnia try to make sleep happen.

They focus on control and effort.

But sleep is not something you can force or have any control over.

And trying to control sleep is exactly what keeps you stuck.

This is where the End Insomnia System comes in.

A new solution based on what actually causes insomnia

Insomnia doesn’t persist because of blue light, a bad mattress, or the fact that you haven’t tried magnesium glycinate.

Long-term insomnia is driven by a very specific combination of two things:

1. Sleep anxiety
2. A chronically activated nervous system

This combination creates a loop where your fear of not sleeping keeps your nervous system alert, which prevents sleep, which fuels more fear.

The End Insomnia System is designed to break that loop.

It teaches you how to calm your nervous system, reduce sleep-related anxiety, and stop making sleep into a performance you need to nail.

Therapy, mindfulness, nervous system regulation, and real-world results from people who’ve used it to sleep again—naturally, without gimmicks.

This is probably you if any of this sounds familiar:

• You constantly think about sleep and how to fix it
• You feel stuck in a loop of exhaustion and dread
• You’ve tried every tip and trick and still can’t sleep
• You obsessively Google sleep solutions but nothing sticks
• You’re scared this is how your life will be forever

You are not alone.

There is, in fact, a real path forward.

This system is not about hacks

It’s not a miracle supplement, ritual, mental exercise, or secret herbal tea.

It’s not about tricking your brain into sleeping.

And it’s not Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-I), which way too many people find too rigid and ineffective.

Instead, you learn how to:

• Build your body’s natural sleep drive
• Lower your nervous system’s alertness at night
• Reduce the pressure you put on sleep
• Respond differently to tired days
• Handle setbacks without spiraling
• Stop trying to make sleep happen—and let it be

This is a long-term shift in how you relate to sleep.

It’s a process of retraining your body, rewiring your thoughts, and reclaiming your life from the grip of insomnia.

Yes, there are ups and downs.

This isn't a straight line.

But as you begin to suffer less and react less, sleep starts to return.

Not through effort—but through letting go of it.

To peaceful sleep,

Ivo at End Insomnia

Why should you listen to me?

I recovered from insomnia after 5 brutal years of suffering. I also wrote a book about it. I've now coached many on how to end their insomnia for good in 8...

If you’ve been seeing progress in your sleep, that’s something to celebrate.

It means the End Insomnia System is working for you.

But let me be upfront about something most people don’t want to hear:

Setbacks are part of the process.

Not just common.

Necessary.

They’re how your nervous system learns to stop fearing sleep again.

Let’s walk through how setbacks happen, what to do when they hit, and why they’re actually key to long-term recovery.

Setback Scenario 1: The Fear of Losing Good Sleep

This one catches many by surprise.

You start sleeping better.

Relief washes over you.

But then, something creeps in — the fear of losing it.

You start thinking things like,

“What if this doesn’t last?”

“What if I go back to square one?”

That fear reignites sleep anxiety.

And just like that, you’re putting pressure on sleep again.

You’ve moved from a state of non-attachment back to performance mode.

And performance mode is enemy territory for sleep.

Setback Scenario 2: The Big Day Spiral

Even after progress, special events can trip you up.

A work presentation.

A wedding.

An early flight.

Something important is happening tomorrow — and you really want to sleep well for it.

Understandably, your anxiety ramps up.

You want to show up at your best.

But when you need sleep too much, it doesn’t come.

This performance pressure causes your nervous system to tense again, reactivating the old loop.

Setback Scenario 3: The Surprise Drop

Sometimes, it just hits.

Out of nowhere.

You’ve been sleeping better.

Then suddenly — you’re back to lying awake at 3 a.m., heart pounding.

You can’t trace it to anything specific.

This is old wiring in the nervous system reactivating.

It doesn’t mean you did anything wrong.

It means a pocket of stored hyperarousal is surfacing to be cleared.

This, too, is part of the healing process.

The Way Through: Reapply the System

No matter the cause, the solution to every setback is the same:

Return to the tools.

Don’t try to analyze or solve the setback.

Don’t spiral.

Don’t force sleep.

Do the work you already know:

• Let go of controlling sleep
• Reconnect to your values
• Practice self-compassion
• Use mindfulness to observe, not react
• Stop tracking your sleep
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Most importantly, remember:

The tools still work.

You’re not back at the beginning.

You’ve changed.

Your relationship with insomnia has changed.

You just need to remember what you already know.

Expect Setbacks, Don’t Fear Them

The more you expect setbacks, the less they knock you off course.

Setbacks are not signs that the system failed.

They are signs that your nervous system is finishing its work.​

Each setback is an opportunity to prove that you’re no longer afraid.

To see that poor sleep is not dangerous.

That you don’t need to protect against it.

That you can live your life, even when tired.

Setbacks Build Confidence

Think about it this way:

If you had never had another bad night, you might still fear that insomnia could return.

You might live in the shadow of “What if?”

But when you experience a setback, face it, and recover…

You prove to yourself — for real — that insomnia has no power over you

That proof rewires your brain.

It builds trust.

And eventually, you lose your fear of sleep trouble altogether.

The Final Shift: From Setback to Stability

Recovery...