LITTLE MISS BEE IS LIVING A DOUBLE LIFE.

By day, she’s a high-powered working professional proudly shattering glass ceilings and climbing the corporate ladder. But off the clock, she’s a kink-positive, active member of the rope bondage community.

In the final episode of the 3rd season of the GETSOME Podcast, we discuss personal authority, self-acceptance, and keeping it kinky. Our guest, Little Miss Bee, manages to keep her professional and personal worlds completely separate without losing touch with either side of herself. Ultimately, her openness and experiences give us the space to reflect on our own desires and boundaries, helping us find a path towards our own sexual, personal, and professional empowerment.

Show Notes:

• [00:00:30] Little Miss Bee describes her very clear sense of direction and openness to various sexual and non-sexual experiences.
• [00:01:00] The dichotomy of Little Miss Bee's life: a professional by day, exploring her deepest desires by night.
• [00:03:00] Discusses the importance of consent and boundaries within the kink community, emphasizing her role as both a top and a bottom.
• [00:05:00] Little Miss Bee's passion for rope bondage, known as Shibari, and her journey from being tied to becoming a rigger.
• [00:10:00] Talks about seeking connections that go beyond physical interactions, aiming for a deeper, more meaningful connections.
• [00:15:00] Little Miss Bee reflects on her sexual evolution from a "desirous, sex-positive teenager" to moving slower, taking in the sensuality of it all.
• [00:20:00] The challenges of maintaining non-monogamy, dealing with societal expectations, and the joys of living authentically.
• [00:25:00] The allure and etiquette of sex parties, describing them as spaces where consent and hedonistic desires meet.
• [00:30:00] A perplexing moment when Little Miss Bee confronted prejudice while revealing her open relationship status.

Imagine being stuck in the “in betweens” of your sexuality.

You’re not “gay enough,” but you’re not “straight enough.” Your sexuality is constantly oversimplified, or oversexualized. You’re stuck wondering… “Am I bisexual enough???”

Though that may not be the reality for all bisexual men, it certainly is a struggle that a lot of people face. Our guest on today’s episode, West, is a bisexual man who learned to embrace his sexuality and accept that he is “enough” exactly as he is.

In his young adulthood, West thought his bisexuality might just be youthful curiosity. But, as his life continued to progress and West continued to mature, he came to realize that his sexuality wasn’t a “phase” or “curiosity.” It was who he was. His journey to this discovery was filled with societal pressures, self-doubt, and uncertainty. But ultimately, West found acceptance, pleasure, and confidence in his sexual identity.

If you have any questions, thoughts, or stories to share after listening to this episode, I’d love to hear from you. Michelle@GETSOME.ca

Show Notes

• [00:00:00] West recounts a story of a dating app match that missed reading his bisexual identity listed on the profile and her reaction once finding out.
• [00:00:32] Discussion about the common challenges faced by bisexual individuals.
• [00:01:05] West reflects on his journey of self-discovery and the stigma associated with his sexuality.
• [00:02:03] Content Warning - Trigger warning for a discussion about sexual abuse.
• [00:03:14]West shares insights into how he recognized his attraction to both sexes early in his life.
• [00:06:08] Impact of Abuse - A candid discussion about how the impact of sexual abuse complicated his bisexual journey.
• [00:08:00] West discussed societal expectations and how they impacted his bisexuality.
• [00:8:04] Unlearning Sexual Shame Module awareness segment.
• [00:09:25] West discusses how his past experiences influenced his views on consensual sexual relationships.
• [00:17:30] The dating scene and challenges and observations from West’s experiences with online dating as a bisexual man.
• [00:21:01] West shares his approach to online dating as a bisexual man and how his focus on honesty and self-acceptance gets quality matches.

Guest: West

Host: Certified Sex Therapist Michelle Fischler

Production: Katie Jensen at Vocal Fry Studios

Listener Note:

• This episode contains discussions about sexual abuse that may be triggering for some listeners. Please take care while listening.

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As a sex worker, Shannon Ariel, founder of Pink Banana Sparkles, always had a strong relationship with sex & her body.

…but after her first child, she felt something shift. With a changing body and changing needs, Shannon had to rebuild her relationship with herself, her sex life, and her career.

For many, motherhood takes a toll on their sex lives. Their priorities, bodies, and relationships are drastically different than they were before they had their kids, and getting back to a place of confidence, pleasure, and fulfillment can often be an uphill battle. For Shannon, a retired sex worker turned fashion designer, and mom whose identity is linked to her sexuality, this shift was a jarring one that required her to look at her life from a wider lens. What started as a journey to rediscover her sexuality postpartum turned into Shannon learning to put herself first, having the best sex of her life, and bravely sharing her story so that other women know they’re not alone.

Where to find Shannon?

https://www.pinkbananasparkles.com/

Instagram and Facebook: @pinkbananasparkles