CJ, a self proclaimed late-blooming kinky queer woman, is a certified life and sex coach who shares her personal journey of self-discovery and exploration of alternative relationships and pleasure. After separating from her first husband, CJ realized she wanted more intimacy and pleasure in her life. She embarked on a journey of self-exploration, which led her to discover non-monogamy, BDSM, and the queer community. CJ emphasizes the importance of prioritizing pleasure and exploring one's desires. She also highlights the significance of touch and the benefits of platonic cuddling. CJ encourages women to embrace their authentic selves and not shape-shift to fit societal expectations. CJ shares her personal journey of exploring sexuality, agency, and hormone replacement therapy. She emphasizes the importance of prioritizing pleasure and challenging societal expectations as we age. As an Alternative Pleasure Coach, CJ encourages individuals to take control of their own sexual experiences and explore their desires. She also discusses the benefits of hormone replacement therapy in enhancing sexual well-being and overall health.

CJ is an Alternative Pleasure Coach and Mentor who is all about liberating sexual expression and cultivating new pleasure palates. She gets off on debunking the myths around female aging, desire and desirability as well as talking about the taboo. She loves welcoming midlife+ women into alternative pleasures and lifestyles so that they can experience erotic evolution and neuro-expansion as they age.

She is a certified life and sex coach focusing on kink and non-monogamy.

She can be found on instagram @noshamewithcj and via her website https://www.noshamewithcj.com/

If you are woman who is craving more out of life, reach out to schedule a free 20 minute Consultation Call to learn more about her 3 month coaching/mentoring program called Erotic Evolution.

Tabitha Sweeney, a coach specializing in radical self-acceptance in the context of sexuality, discusses breaking taboos and embracing desires. She shares her personal journey of healing and self-discovery after a strict Catholic upbringing. Tabitha emphasizes the importance of open communication and trust in exploring kinks and fantasies. She highlights the need for women to feel empowered to initiate sex and discusses common challenges in expressing desires. Tabitha also explores the concept of kink and its diverse manifestations, emphasizing the importance of consent and safety. In this conversation, Tabitha Sweeney discusses her experiences in the BDSM community and how it has impacted her understanding of consent, boundaries, and self-acceptance. She emphasizes the importance of open communication, trust, and exploring one's desires in a safe and consensual manner. Tabitha also shares a personal story about a negative experience in the lifestyle and the lessons she learned from it. Overall, she believes that exploring one's sexuality can have a profound impact on all aspects of life and lead to personal growth and empowerment. Tabatha takes private clients and can be reached at: TabithaSweeney.com tabithalynnsweeney@gmail.com www.facebook.com/tabithalsweeney https://www.instagram.com/tabithalynnsweeney/ 00:00 Introduction and Exploring Radical Self-Acceptance 06:24 Empowering Women to Initiate Sex 09:26 The Importance of Supportive Partners 13:54 Discovering the Underground Community of Kink 19:18 Common Challenges in Expressing Desires 23:47 From Initiating to Exploring Kinks 29:25 Understanding the Diverse Manifestations of Kink 33:07 Kink Beyond Penetration and Consent 36:06 Introduction to the BDSM community 39:06 Roles and boundaries in BDSM relationships 41:31 Radical self-acceptance and setting boundaries 46:46 Power dynamics and gender in the lifestyle 57:56 Trusting your gut and spirituality in sexual exploration 01:03:59 Journaling and self-reflection as tools for self-discovery 01:08:58 Closing thoughts and future discussions keywords radical self-acceptance, sexuality, taboos, desires, healing, communication, trust, kinks, fantasies, initiation, Catholic upbringing, empowerment, consent, safety, BDSM, consent, boundaries, self-acceptance, communication, trust, exploration, sexuality, personal growth, empowerment

Dr. Leslie Wakefield, a pelvic health physical therapist, and Angela the Christian Sexpert, discuss the damaging effects of purity culture and the importance of healthy, consensual sex in Christian marriages. They address topics such as the control tactics used in purity culture, the pressure on women to fulfill their husband's sexual needs, the misconception of men needing sex every three days, and the importance of mutual pleasure and communication in a marriage. They also touch on the challenges faced by women in expressing their own sexuality and the need for comprehensive sex education within evangelical culture. Angela discusses the importance of open communication and boundaries in sexual relationships, and the impact of shame and purity culture on marriages. Together they emphasize the need for consent and the importance of female pleasure. They challenges misconceptions about sex and religion, debunk harmful beliefs and provide a more informed and compassionate perspective.

You can find Angela at www.thechristiansexpert.com on IG: @thechristiansexpert and Tiktok @thechristians_xpert

Top Takeaways

• Purity culture, popularized in the late 70s and early 80s, relies on shame and control tactics to regulate teenagers' sexual behavior, but it has been proven to be damaging and ineffective.
• Women who were raised in purity culture are twice as likely to experience sexual dysfunction.
• The narrative in evangelical culture often places the burden of fulfilling a husband's sexual needs on women, leading to coercion and potential marital rape.
• Healthy women in safe marriages should not feel obligated to perform sexually and should be able to explore and express their own sexuality.
• Comprehensive sex education is lacking in evangelical culture, leading to misconceptions and misunderstandings about sex and pleasure.
• Mutual pleasure and communication are essential in a healthy, consensual sexual relationship within a Christian marriage. Posting on TikTok led Leslie to speak at a conference in front of 50,000 Christian women, highlighting the demand for open conversations about sex within religious communities.
• Open communication and setting boundaries are crucial in sexual relationships, especially in the context of shame and purity culture.
• Consent is essential and should be freely given, reversible, informed, enthusiastic, and specific.
• Female pleasure is often overlooked in purity culture, and it is important to challenge harmful beliefs and provide education on sexual pleasure.
• Misconceptions about sex and religion can be debunked by understanding the historical and cultural context of biblical teachings.