In this episode, Nicole and Aseelah explore the complex topic of forgiveness, reflecting on personal experiences and discussing why it's so challenging. They also touch on how spirituality and beliefs influence the ability to forgive. Nicole shares her perspective on navigating forgiveness in her own life. Aseelah also shares her professional insights on the role of forgiveness in our lives and its impact on mental and physical well-being. Whether you have BPD or not, this conversation offers valuable perspectives and tools for reaching a place of healing. Tune in for an insightful exploration of this essential emotional journey.

Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline

Here is the episode breakdown:

Guest: Aseelah El-Amin: https://www.instagram.com/talkptwithseesee/

In this episode, you will hear:

• 0:00 Intro

(Beginning of Interview)

• 1:08 Nicole’s Opening Statement and Beginning Pleasantries
• 3:53 What Does Forgiveness Mean?
• 7:11 Why is It Difficult to Forgive?
• 10:23 Is It Easier to Hold A Grudge?
• 12:08 Nicole’s POV: A Time Where You Struggled with Forgiveness
• 19:31 Aseelah’s POV: A Time Where You Struggled with Forgiveness
• 23:38 Did Your Spirituality Affect How You Affect Your Choice to Forgive?
• 28:18 The Philosophy of Forgiveness
• 30:31 Navigating Forgiveness as a pwBPD or A Person Without BPD
• 34:47 Other Strengths To Consider To Get to A Place of Forgiveness
• 37:07 What Would Aseelah’s Clients Think?
• 39:33 More On Spirituality, The Physicality, and The Science of Forgiveness
• 48:31 Aseelah’s Final Words

(End of Interview)

• 50:48 Nicole Closing Statement
• 51:12 BPD Daily Mantra
• 51:28 Outro
• 52:49 “Forgive Them” by Jane Handcock, Harry Simmons: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=arhT2OSTGlA
• Episode Resources:
  • Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/

  ❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗

  Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast.

  • “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFT

  Connect with the Host:

  Nicole Darby: presspause4grace@gmail.com

  Credits:

  Hosts: Aseelah El-Amin and Nicole Darby

  Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIII

  Sound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

  Podcast Producer: Nicole Darby

  Research Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

Episode Nineteen: [Miik Wells – Inner Equity]

In this episode, Miik shares his connection with his work with the audience through Nicole's testimonial, offering a glimpse into his approach to mental wellness. He provides strategies for key areas where individuals with BPD often struggle. The episode also features interactive "Game Time" segments, where he discusses the importance of untangling personal patterns, rewriting your story, and embracing authenticity. He concludes with powerful closing thoughts that resonate with anyone on a mental health journey. Tune in for an engaging and transformative discussion aimed at supporting your mental wellness journey.

Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

Here is the episode breakdown:

Guest:

• Miik Wells

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/insiit.miik

In this episode, you will hear:

• 0:00 Intro

(Beginning of Interview)

• 1:07 Nicole’s Opening Statement
• 1:57 Introduction to Miik Wells
• 3:23 Self-Attunement and Inner Equity
• 8:14 Nicole’s Session Testimonial with Miik
• 10:07 Miik’s Connection With His Work
• 16:13 Strategies for the Five Key Areas Where Individuals Struggle with BPD
• 26:01 Game Time: Untangling Your Patterns
• 28:29 Game Time: Rewriting Your Story
• 30:32 Game Time: Free To Be Me
• 32:43 Miik’s Final Words

(End of Interview)

• 34:45 Nicole Closing Statement
• 35:08 BPD Daily Mantra
• 35:24 Outro
• 36:43 “FREQUENCY” by Stella: https://youtu.be/p2BpRCBnx-I?si=cLiifYtOLEoeWQdq

Episode Resources:

• Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/

❗Don't miss the special offer from Dr. Gregory Serfer, who is providing a 30% discount on the digital version of his book, “I Am Still Right Here” exclusively for our listeners! Use promo code XA05T3V2K1MMK on the website linked in the episode resources section. ❗

Additionally, 15% of each sale using this code will go to support the “Press Pause” podcast.

• “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFT

Connect with the Host:

Nicole Darby: presspause4grace@gmail.com

Credits:

Host: Nicole Darby

Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIII

Sound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

Podcast Producer: Nicole Darby

Research Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle

In this episode, Nicole, Dr. Gregory Serfer, and Melanie Jones explore the fear of abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). They discuss how this fear affects relationships and daily life, sharing personal experiences, insights, and strategies for managing this challenging aspect of BPD. Whether you're looking to understand BPD better or seeking practical advice, this episode offers valuable guidance on navigating fear and abandonment.

Disclaimer: The title of this podcast and its contents are not intended to in any way promote, encourage, or advocate suicide or any form of self-harm. If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide and needs support, please call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

Here is the episode breakdown:

Guest:

• Dr. Gregory Serfer

Email: contact@gregoryserfer.com

Book: “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFT

Quora: https://www.quora.com/profile/Gregory-Serfer

• Melanie Jones: emmjay993@yahoo.com

In this episode, you will hear:

• 0:00 Intro

(Beginning of Interview)

• 1:07 Nicole’s Opening Statement
• 2:24 Introduction to Dr. Gregory Serfer and Melanie Jones (and Handsome Dan)
• 8:00 The Importance of Fear of Abandonment Concerning BPD
• 13:22 Follow up: Can Fear of Abandonment Play into Other Emotions/Thoughts
• 18:36 Mel’s Perspective: Fear of Abandonment
• 23:30 Relationships with a Person with BPD (pwBPD)
• 29:06 Advice For Confronting Discards
• 32:07 Mel’s Perspective: Tips to Avoid the Fear of Abandonment
• 35:20 Nicole’s Perspective: Tips to Avoid the Fear of Abandonment
• 38:44 More Strategies (Continued)
• 39:58 Testing, Self-Awareness, and More Perspectives
• 47:15 Resources, Solutions, Planning, and Support
• 49:08 Mel and Gregory’s Final Words

(End of Interview)

• 49:52 Nicole’s Closing Statement
• 50:15 BPD Daily Mantra
• 50:31 Outro
• 51:50 Ion Like That by Jane Handcock: https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=j5oo3U0QeLQ

Episode Resources:

• Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/

Connect with the Host:

Nicole Darby: presspause4grace@gmail.com

Free BPD Support Resources and Weekly Support Group (Wednesdays): https://www.showmegrace.org

Credits:

Hosts: Nicole Darby, Dr. Gregory Serfer, Melanie Jones, "Handsome Dan" -Yeti microphone

Music Producer of Podcast’s Intro Music: DJtheIII

Sound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi

Podcast Producer: Nicole Darby

Research Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle