Brandon Doerkse opens up about how he nearly lost his marriage due to emotional numbness, distraction, and addiction. For years, he struggled with avoidance, failing to recognize how his actions were eroding the trust and intimacy in his relationship. It wasn’t until he hit rock bottom that he realized the painful truth—his marriage was falling apart, and he was the one responsible.

Topics Covered: 👉 The impact of emotional disconnection in marriage 👉 How avoidance and addiction sabotage relationships 👉 Why men must take the first step in healing a broken relationship 👉 Understanding attachment styles and their effect on marriage 👉 The painful realization that led Brandon to transformation 👉 How honesty and accountability helped rebuild trust 👉 The importance of integration with God, family, and self 👉 What true masculine leadership in marriage looks like

Brandon’s journey proves that no matter how broken a relationship may seem, healing is possible when a man is willing to confront his shortcomings and take responsibility. His story is a powerful testament to the importance of emotional awareness, faith, and intentional action in restoring love and trust.

If this conversation spoke to you, share your thoughts in the comments. Have you faced similar struggles in your relationship? What steps have helped you move forward? Let’s continue the conversation below.

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In this episode, Adam Lane Smith, the Attachment Specialist, navigates the challenges of a toxic marriage. Through raw and honest conversations, Adam uncovers the root causes of their struggles and offers practical guidance to rebuild trust, communication, and emotional connection. Whether you’re facing similar issues or just want to strengthen your relationship, this episode is packed with insights and advice that can make a real difference.

Topics Covered: 👉 The impact of unresolved trauma on marriage and relationships 👉 How pressure and past experiences shape relationship dynamics 👉 Addressing touch aversion and intimacy issues 👉 The importance of emotional regulation and safe communication 👉 Building a healthy legacy for children and breaking toxic patterns 👉 Strategies to create a secure and loving environment for the whole family

Adam provides powerful insights and actionable steps to help couples rebuild connection and create a healthier, more fulfilling relationship. No matter where you are in your journey, this episode offers hope and practical guidance to transform your relationship dynamics. Don’t miss this transformative conversation—tune in now!

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In this episode, Adam Lane Smith and Shallon Lester expose the hidden red flags of avoidant attachment and why trusting words alone can lead to heartbreak. They break down the toxic dating patterns that leave women feeling unworthy, discuss why men rarely change without consequences, and share practical strategies to build secure, lasting relationships.

Topics Covered: 👉 Why many women settle in relationships out of fear of abandonment 👉 The rise of emotionally unavailable men and the impact on dating 👉 Shallon’s no-nonsense approach to breakups and setting boundaries 👉 Why men rarely change without external consequences 👉 The power of emotional detachment and firm boundaries in dating 👉 How women can communicate their needs effectively without manipulation 👉 The dangers of relying on a partner to define one’s purpose 👉 The struggle of modern women between career success and traditional roles

Adam and Shallon reveal the key mindset shifts needed to break free from avoidant attachment and create fulfilling relationships. If you're tired of toxic dating cycles and want real, actionable advice, this episode is a must-watch.

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In this episode, we dive into the growing divide between men and women in modern society. Our guest, HTH, joins the conversation to explore the cultural and psychological shifts affecting relationships, attachment dynamics, and societal structures.

Topics Covered:

👉 The messaging that paints men as villains and its long-term impact 👉 Why men are walking away from relationships and societal expectations 👉 The rise of cultural and gender conflicts across the world 👉 How attachment styles influence modern relationships 👉 The effects of societal collapse on human behavior and survival instincts 👉 The growing divide between entitlement and responsibility in today's world

If you're struggling with attachment issues or navigating the complexities of modern relationships, our specialized program can help. Designed with structured guidance, it offers a step-by-step approach to healing and personal growth. Join us and take control of your journey.

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Alyssa shares how growing up in an environment that discouraged emotional expression led to survival-mode thinking. She describes the intense stress it placed on her nervous system and the difficulty of accessing emotional regulation.

✨ Main Topics Covered ✨

👉 The long-term effects of survivalist attachment and avoidant behaviors 👉 The struggle of balancing masculine and feminine energy in childhood and adulthood 👉 The role of meditation as both a coping mechanism and a trap for avoidant individuals 👉 The journey of healing from disorganized attachment through therapy, mentorship, and faith 👉 The importance of self-reflection and ongoing personal development in overcoming attachment wounds 👉 How structured programs and accountability help individuals repair attachment challenges

Adam highlights the value of deep self-work and structured guidance in overcoming avoidant attachment. He encourages listeners to seek support and engage in personal development to build healthier emotional connections.

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Many women find themselves in relationships that look perfect on paper but leave them feeling unfulfilled. In this episode, dating expert Julia Mazur shares her personal journey of settling in relationships and how she finally broke free. She discusses societal expectations, personal struggles, and the key mindset shifts needed to prioritize yourself in love and life.

✨ Main Topics Covered ✨

👉 The dating challenges many women face and why they often settle. 👉 The influence of cultural and family expectations on relationships. 👉 The emotional toll of being in a relationship with the “ideal” partner. 👉 How loneliness and lack of fulfillment pushed Julia to reassess her choices. 👉 The dangers of love bombing and future faking in dating. 👉 The importance of filtering potential partners through meaningful questions. 👉 Understanding feminine energy and how it impacts attraction. 👉 Why being interested in your partner is more important than trying to be interesting.

Julia emphasizes that true happiness in relationships starts with self-worth and refusing to settle. She encourages women to trust their instincts, set higher standards, and embrace independence rather than staying in relationships out of fear.

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🎙️ Welcome to this eye-opening episode of "I Wish You Knew" with hosts Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, and Andrey Korikov, CEO and co-founder of Veritas Creative Media.

Emily Humpert opens up about her struggles with relationships, attachment challenges, and emotional intimacy. Adam Lane Smith helps her uncover the roots of her avoidance and how it impacts her connections with others.

Topics Covered:

👉 Struggles with relationships and repeated failures

👉 Avoidant attachment and emotional barriers

👉 Fear of sacrifice in relationships

👉 The myth of a ‘perfect match’

👉 Recognizing personal needs in relationships

👉 Emotional intimacy challenges for high performers

👉 Family influence on attachment styles

👉 Oxytocin’s role in emotional bonding

👉 Steps toward secure attachment

The episode concludes with a reflection on attachment styles and how emotional avoidance may impact relationships. It emphasizes the importance of emotional connection and suggests working toward secure attachment for long-term relational success. If you’re struggling with attachment challenges, consider joining the Attachment Repair Program to build healthier, lasting relationships.

Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes!

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🎙️ Welcome to this eye-opening episode of "I Wish You Knew" with hosts Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, and Andrey Korikov, CEO and co-founder of Veritas Creative Media.

In this episode, Aurora Culp opens up about her experiences with relationships, attachment styles, and why she tends to be drawn to avoidant men. Through personal stories and deep reflections, she explores the patterns that have shaped her love life and what she’s doing to break free from unhealthy cycles.

✨ Main Topics Covered:

👉 Aurora’s struggles with dating and attraction to avoidant men 👉 The role of attachment theory in romantic relationships 👉 How childhood dynamics with parents influence partner choices 👉 The challenges of dating emotionally unavailable partners 👉 The importance of secure attachment and emotional intimacy 👉 Strategies for fostering healthier relationships and breaking toxic cycles 👉 How waiting three months before commitment can impact dating outcomes

If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns, this episode is for you. Aurora’s journey highlights the power of self-awareness and growth when it comes to love and attachment.

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