🎙️ Where my freaks at? Control Freaks that is.

In this episode, we dive deep with psychologist and author Joanna Kleinman to unpack why that voice in your head is working harder than a barista during morning rush hour.

Shanenn and Joanna talk about:

• How your inner critic is just like the mean girl at school when you were growing up and she's been messing with you since you lost your first tooth 🛡️

• The Jerry Maguire "you complete me" line is such a bad representation of the way relationships should really work and your relationship expectations may be as older than that movie. Big red flag 🚩

• How social media has become the Olympic Games of impossible standards (and why we keep competing) 🏅

Don't Miss Moments:

"We're like starving dogs waiting for that bone of validation" - on why we stay in unhealthy relationships

"We're dishwashers - I'm a Whirlpool, you're a GE, but we all run the same programs" - on universal human patterns

Action Items from the Episode:

• Name your inner critic ... 😉
• Practice catching yourself in "control mode"
• Start asking "What evidence disproves this belief?" when your inner critic goes on a rant
• Start getting curious about your beliefs instead of judging them
• Practice being okay with the possibility of things not going "perfectly"

Follow Joanna on her podcast "Dethroning Your Inner Critic" where she dives deeper into the MIND Method and helps women stop being their own worst critics and start being their own best advocates.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome
00:20 Understanding the Inner Critic
01:58 Origins of the Inner Critic
06:47 Cultural and Social Influences
09:33 Control and Perfectionism
11:35 Healthy Relationships and Self-Worth
21:32 Practical Steps to Dethrone the Inner Critic
29:20 Conclusion and Podcast Promotion

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The information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn's guest, award-winning psychologist Dr. Courtney Warren opens up about her own struggles with relationship insecurity and shares her thoughts about the lies we tell ourselves.

From crying when her college boyfriend went out with friends to becoming an expert on self-deception, Dr. Warren's personal journey and professional wisdom offer hope for anyone wrestling with jealousy and relationship fears.

Key Moments:
- 2:00 - Why self-honesty is the key to living a fulfilling life
- 9:00 - Dr. Warren shares a vulnerable story about her college relationship
- 21:00 - The Three A's of Authenticity framework revealed
- 31:00 - Why your friends might not understand your jealousy (and that's okay)
- 37:00 - Small changes that lead to massive transformation

Golden Episode Nuggets:
💎 The most damaging lies are the ones we tell ourselves
💎 Jealousy often has nothing to do with your partner
💎 Your worth isn't determined by your relationship status
💎 Change happens in micro-steps, not overnight transformations
💎 Finding the right support system is crucial for healing

About Our Guest:
Dr. Courtney Warren is a board-certified clinical psychologist and author who specializes in addictions, self-deception, and eating pathology. Her TEDx talk "Honest Liars" has helped countless people understand the psychology behind self-deception and personal growth.

Resources Mentioned:
- Dr. Warren's TEDx Talk: "Honest Liars"
- Dr. Cortney Warren's Website and Books
- Support groups for relationship insecurity - Jealousy Junkie Facebook Group

Quote of the Episode:
"You are not defined by your romantic relationships... whether you are loved or liked or rejected or single or coupled actually has no bearing on your value as a person." - Dr. Courtney Warren

Perfect for listeners who:
- Struggle with jealousy in relationships
- Want to build healthier romantic partnerships
- Are ready to face their own self-deception
- Feel alone in their relationship insecurities
- Are working on building self-confidence

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Disclaimer
The information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Feel like your relationship is hanging on by a thread? Do you wonder if too much damage has been done to the relationship?

I was there too but you can turn things around. Your relationship can recover from this, but it's might take you going against how you normally feel after an argument to make a difference.

It may take you recovering quickly instead of letting the shame and guilt of your actions take over. Apologize to your partner, forgive yourself, and push yourself to get back to normal as quickly as possible.

In fact:

• Research shows couples who recover quickly from disputes have higher relationship satisfaction
• One partner's ability to recover quickly can positively impact the other partner
• Quick recovery helps prevent conflict spillover into other areas of the relationship

Here are some common things to avoid but there's so much more packed in this episode:

• Getting defensive when partner isn't ready to accept apologies
• Seeking excessive reassurance
• Engaging in catastrophic thinking

Shanenn also shares some recovery strategies like:

• Use "I" statements when explaining your perspective
• Focus on impact rather than intent
• Give partner space to process their emotions
• Return to normal daily routines
• Avoid forcing immediate reconciliation

## Resources Mentioned
- Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp
- Individual coaching options
- ForYourMarriage.com
- PsychologicalScience.com

Something to highlight from the episode:
"As bad as it gets, if you start making the changes, remember, you can make big changes with small steps."

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Join the "Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp" by clicking here.


Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.

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Disclaimer
The information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Jealousy Junkie podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.