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Failure to Launch is one of the most widely used terms to describe young adults who are not progressing toward independence, but what does it really mean, who does it apply to and where did the term come from?

In this episode, I talk deconstruct Failure to Launch, as I take you through the history of it, from early research in Europe during the 1980s to Japan’s phenomenon of hikikomori and the rise of the term in popular culture.

You’ll learn why Failure to Launch is not a permanent label, why terms like “lost” and “stuck” may not accurately describe what’s happening, and why this challenging stage for young adults has existed for decades.

I also highlight the work of psychologist Dr. Mark McConville, author of Failure to Launch: Why Your Twentysomething Hasn’t Grown Up...and What to Do About It, whose book became an important contribution to understanding this growing conversation. I’m excited to have Dr. McConville joining me on a future episode where we’ll explore this topic even further.

Most importantly, I’ll share 5 practical tips to help your adult child move forward, including how to change the dynamic of your relationship, stop enabling, set healthy consequences, and become the parent they need now.

If you’ve ever felt stigmatized by the term Failure to Launch, wondered what you can do to help them move through this stage, this episode is for you.

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My guest today is Dr. Isabela Granic, a professor, psychologist, and developmental researcher with 25 years of experience studying what young people need to thrive. She’s also a parent of two young adult children and the founder and CEO of Liminal Learning, an innovative program designed to help young adults develop the social skills, confidence, responsibility, and a sense of purpose they need to navigate adulthood.

Even though we're talking about the program at the start, Dr. Granic offers incredible suggestions for parents to reconnect with their adult children and help them to thrive. As always, it's closer to the end of the episode. Please don't miss this invaluable advice. You'll leave feeling as though you can do something.

I'm really excited to share this conversation with you because I believe Liminal Learning is incredible, and so is Dr. Granic.

If you're interested in knowing more, here's Dr. Granic's website:

https://liminal-learning.com/

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Every once in a while, I release an episode that needs no introduction.

And this is one of them.

It's the number one issue that every parent with a struggling adult child living at home has no idea how to handle.

They honestly believe that there are absolutely no consequences that would stick.

That level of disrespect is so telling. They aren't bad kids. Nor are they lazy. There's a bigger problem and I talk about it in this episode.

But more than that, I explain everything you need to know about consequences and what you can do to create your own.

Please share this episode with any parent that struggles with this. Remember to hit the follow button, and while you're here, I'd be so grateful if you could rate the podcast and leave a positive review.

As always, thank you for joining me.

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If you've been doing everything for your adult child and their lifestyle hasn't changed, in fact nothing about their life has really improved, it's time you stop supporting them.

No, you don't have to kick them out. Unless of course circumstances have become so unbearable at home, and they seem completely uninterested in being responsible and respectful, which means you're setting a move-out date.

If that's the case, don't feel bad. Many parents are at that point.

But if you're not there yet and you still feel hopeful that your son or daughter can become fully independent, while living at home, than you just need a new approach. And today's episode is going to introduce you to one.

This is another mini episode with just me sharing something that has been on my mind. There's a word that is so overused that it is now misunderstood. And we need to reconsider a new perspective and approach.

By the end, I'll give you an exact statement for you to say to your adult child that could pave the way for their future.

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Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it, and hit the follow button so you never miss a drop.

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This is a much needed episode and I'm excited to share it with you along with my guest Andie Toderovitz, a Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying) who specializes in relationship issues, attachment styles, and emotional well-being. Andie helps individuals of all ages develop greater self-awareness and build deeper, more meaningful connections.

Although most parents with struggling young adults tend to focus on fixing their adult child - the unemployment, the lack of motivation, the disconnection from life, there's a deeper truth that often explains why they have stalled.

It's the parent and adult child dynamic and until that relationship is healed, nothing changes.

Which is why this episode is so important. Andie introduces us to Esther Perel's three hidden dimensions of conflict that arise when relationships are in need of repair: power and control, care and closeness, and respect and recognition.

She shares with us what the warning signs look like in each area, and offers incredible suggestions to help parents restore and repair the relationship so their adult child can finally begin to move forward.

Please share this episode with another parent who needs to hear it and remember to hit the follow button so you never miss one.

As always, thank you for listening.

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For more information and where to sign up, visit: https://parentingfx.com/parentingcourse

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When an adult child is struggling, most parents focus on the most obvious problem: no motivation, lack of employment, low self confidence, complete dependence, zero responsibilities, poor communication…

But what if you’re looking too narrowly?

In this episode, I introduce a different perspective for parenting your young adult, one that looks beyond a single issue and considers the whole person.

Discover why emotional well-being, mental health, relationships, life skills, self-confidence, purpose, and family dynamics are all connected, and how seeing your adult child through a different lens can transform the way you support, guide, and communicate with them.

Sometimes the most powerful change starts with a new perspective.

LAUNCH Scripts is available to help build connection through conversations.

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💻 Have you enrolled in Shari's Parenting course yet? "The Journey to Independence: A Step-by-Step Roadmap to Guiding and Launching Your Adult Child.”

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Do you want to know if your adult child is struggling with Failure to Launch? Grab the FREE Failure to Launch Checklist here:

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This episode could be a recurring one because it is the MOST important topic in raising children, and that say a lot.

As powerful as it is, a majority of parents struggle with it because they were raised by a generation who didn’t understand how to apply these principles.

But once you do, and you can, the floodgates will open. Your relationship with your adult children will change. They’ll feel heard, understood and safe to open up to you.

It’s a short episode today. But I think it packs a punch. It’s the one topic you can’t put off.

Nothing matters more.

To those of you who are letting me know that you're starting to see progress, because you're changing your approach, I'm SO excited for you. You didn't give up, even though you were frustrated and worried. And now, the future is looking a bit brighter.

I really appreciate you and the effort you're making. And I believe that good things are ahead. I'll never get tired of saying...

I’m here for you every step of the way.

Here’s the link to Scripts. I hope you grab it. If not, I’ll keep doing what I do anyway.

ParentingFX.com/Scripts

What the hell...here's a virtual hug for my moms and a fist pump for the dads!

P.S I see you buying the course, and I'm proud that you're willing to do the work.

💻 Have you enrolled in Shari's Parenting course yet? "The Journey to Independence: A Step-by-Step Roadmap to Guiding and Launching Your Adult Child.”

For more information and where to sign up, visit: https://parentingfx.com/parentingcourse

Do you want to know if your adult child is struggling with Failure to Launch? Grab the FREE Failure to Launch Checklist here:

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In this eye-opening conversation, I sit down with Dr. Brie Turns-Coe, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Associate Professor of Marriage and Family Therapy at Arizona Christian University, and Director of their Masters of MFT program. With a career spent helping hundreds of parents break generational patterns and repair their relationships with their children, Dr. Brie brings both clinical expertise and genuine compassion to one of the most important conversations a parent can have.

What Dr. Brie sees time and again in her practice might surprise you: parents who are unknowingly making parenting decisions not for their child but to heal their own childhood wounds. Are you parenting to be liked? Are you struggling with feelings of not being good enough or worthy enough, and looking to your adult child to fill that void? If any of that lands close to home, this episode is for you.

We dig into how to shift from parenting out of your past to truly showing up for the young adult who needs you right now. We also cover different attachment styles, why boundaries are a necessity, and even estrangement.

Dr. Brie is also the author of Parent the Child You Have, Not the Child You Were and by the end of this conversation, you'll understand exactly what that means.

I have no doubt you'll walk away from today's conversation a little wiser, and a whole lot more confident in the parent you're becoming.

How to contact Dr. Brie: https://www.drbrieturns.com/

DrBrie@TheFamilyTherapist.org

The book that Dr. Brie mentioned: Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

💻 Have you enrolled in Shari's Parenting course yet? "The Journey to Independence: A Step-by-Step Roadmap to Guiding and Launching Your Adult Child.”

For more information and where to sign up, visit: https://parentingfx.com/parentingcourse

Do you want to know if your adult child is struggling with Failure to Launch? Grab the FREE Failure to Launch Checklist here:

🗣️One-on-One Consultations are available. Click here!

Email me if you have any questions at: Shari@ParentingFX.com

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