This episode of the Hot Fat Guy Club Podcast is the third in our series of member advice sessions. Where members of the Hot Fat Guy Club can sign up to be on the show and get dating, confidence, and life advice from our founder and CEO Alex Frankel. In this episode we discuss various topics including positive masculinity, woodworking, and the challenges of dating. Our guest shares his experience as a bigger guy in the dating world and feeling invisible in spaces that are supposed to be accepting. Our conversation touches on the idea of self-esteem and the concept of abundance and the need to put positive energy out into the world to receive it back. We talk a lot about the challenges of approaching and connecting with others, particularly in social interactions while being conscious of and respecting personal space and autonomy. Alex also emphasizes the value of approaching people with confidence and offer tips for initiating conversations, such as talking to old people and people with dogs. And finally we tackle the issue of male loneliness and the societal expectations of masculinity that contribute to emotional suppression and highlight the need for men to challenge traditional masculinity ideologies and be safe and respectful in their interactions with others. Takeaways: Positive masculinity can be exemplified by individuals like Terry Crews Woodworking is a visually creative pursuit that provides a focus and a sense of fulfillment Dating challenges can arise from height preferences and feeling invisible in certain spaces Approaching people in real life can be difficult due to uncertainty about their receptiveness Giving genuine compliments about things people can control is a good way to start conversations Putting positive energy out into the world can lead to more positive interactions Respect personal space and autonomy in social interactions. Approach people with confidence and initiate conversations in low-stakes situations. Talk to old people and people with dogs as a way to connect with others. Challenge traditional masculinity ideologies and be safe and respectful in interactions. Develop a healthy relationship with oneself and practice self-validation. Sound Bites "Terry Crews is so positive masculinity" "Woodworking is a visually creative thing" "The real secret sauce is having the actual balls to approach someone." "Talk to old people. They are desperate to talk to people." Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Positive Masculinity 02:53 Woodworking as a Creative Pursuit 04:32 Challenges of Online Dating 08:06 Approaching Strangers in Real-Life Situations 09:57 Superficial Preferences and Height 15:02 The Power of Genuine Compliments 22:19 Approaching Strangers 24:53 Challenging Societal Expectations 27:51 Developing a Healthy Relationship with Oneself 33:18 Audience Participation 34:24 Checking in on Personal Growth WANT TO BE ON THE SHOW? DM us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hotfatguyclub Follow us on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@hotfatguyclub