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Marriage Therapy Radio

Marriage Therapy Radio

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概要

Look... every couple struggles. You fight too much; you're bored; sex is either okay (or rare); maybe you're even considering divorce. OR... maybe your marriage is actually pretty good, but you want to go deeper. In this podcast, straight-talking marriage therapist Zach Brittle tackle the most common complaints virtually every marriage experience. Along the way, they reveal the science behind strong relationships and talk about what's really going on for couples. Topics include conflict, communication, compatibility, money, sex, in-laws, infidelity, time-management, future dreams, and more. If you want relief? A deeper connection? A new way forward...? Then you've got to find out what's REALLY going on in your marriage. That's what this podcast is about. You can learn more about Zach, and his alternatives to traditional therapy at marriagetherapyradio.com.

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  • Ep 449 Stop Keeping Score in Your Marriage, w/ Jonathan & Meredith Van Viegen

    Ep 449 Stop Keeping Score in Your Marriage, w/ Jonathan & Meredith Van Viegen
    2026/11/03
    Zach sits down with couples therapist Jonathan Van Viegen and his wife Meredith, who are calling in from the surf town in Panama where they run a surf lodge and raise their two daughters. Jonathan built a huge following on Instagram by saying what he actually believes about marriage, and his first book, Choosing Us, comes out this month. Zach starts by asking what it’s like to be a “marriage character” online. Then he turns to the more interesting question: how do these two actually make it work?Their answers are refreshingly concrete. Jonathan cleans up Meredith’s peanut butter toast board every morning. Meredith never says no to a surf session. Neither of them keeps a running tally. Jonathan calls it refusing to “timestamp” the small moments, and he turns everyday complaining on its head: if you can complain about what hurts, you should be able to complain about what heals, like years of fidelity, loyalty, and honesty. Zach adds his own frame: marriage isn’t 50/50, it’s 60/40, with both partners trying to be the 60.It wasn’t always this easy. Jonathan talks openly about the anger that shaped their first six years. Meredith owns the moment she told him he wasn’t funny enough, a comment aimed at who he was rather than what he did. That fight pushed Jonathan back to school for marriage and family therapy. It also taught them both the rule they now teach couples: go after behavior, never identity. Zach describes the tiger murals in a Japanese palace, painted by artists who had never seen a tiger. Meredith then offers the episode’s most useful insight: underneath a lot of anger is fear.This is a conversation about the long game. If you’re tired of keeping score, or you’re married to someone whose anger feels bigger than the moment, you’ll walk away with a few simple practices and a lot of hope.Key TakeawaysMarriage isn’t 50/50. It works best at 60/40, with both partners trying to be the 60.Stop timestamping. Judge your marriage over a week, not a single moment.If you can complain about what hurts, you can also name what heals.Fight about behavior, never about who your partner is. A person’s identity can’t survive that kind of attack.A lot of anger is fear in disguise. Look for what your partner is afraid of.Shame keeps anger hidden. Talking about it openly is how you gain control over it.Most of what feels threatening is a paper tiger, not a real one.Bring up the small stuff early, before it hardens into resentment.Guest InfoJonathan Van Viegen is a couples therapist and relationship coach with a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy, and the founder of The Van Viegen Institute. He came to the work after years of wrestling with his own anger, which he talks about openly on the show and in his writing. About two and a half years ago he started sharing his views on marriage on Instagram, and his content has since drawn well over 100 million views. His first book, Choosing Us: Stories and Strategies to Strengthen Your Marriage from Inside the Therapy Room (Jossey-Bass), follows three fictional couples through five sessions each. One couple is dealing with infidelity, one with high conflict, and one with long-term emotional decay. Along the way, readers get his actual interventions, scripts, and questions. Website: jonathanvanviegen.comBook: Choosing Us: Stories and Strategies to Strengthen Your Marriage from Inside the Therapy RoomInstagram: @jonathanvanviegenMeredith Van Viegen is Jonathan’s wife of 17 years and his partner in nearly everything, including the business behind his work. She runs the family’s surf lodge in Panama, homeschools their daughters, and recently started leading women’s circles as part of their group coaching programs. She has a background in writing and editing, and she worked on Choosing Us with him: she helped shape the storyline, read every chapter multiple times, and did the proofreading and copy editing alongside the publisher. She brings a candid, steady perspective to the conversation, especially on what it takes to love someone through their anger. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  • Ep. 450 Grief, Heartbreak, and Doing the Work with Robin Ducharme

    Ep. 450 Grief, Heartbreak, and Doing the Work with Robin Ducharme
    2026/11/10

    Zach welcomes back Robin Ducharme, founder of Real Love Ready, for the first of three conversations. The last time listeners heard from her, she was here with her partner, Hector. This time she comes alone. Her mom died three months ago, and a few weeks later, she and Hector broke up. Robin calls it a double whammy, and she doesn't soften what it did to her: "It fucking took me down."

    Robin walks Zach through the weeks after her mom's death in Miami, the cremation logistics across borders, the celebration of life in Calgary, and then the ten days at home when grief finally caught up with her. She couldn't leave the house. She sat by the water, cried, and took up smoking for a couple of months while her son's nurse, Catherine, looked after her and her kids. She talks openly about the spiritual openings she's had after each major loss, starting with her twin brother, Reece, in 2012. And she describes the partner who showed up during that stretch as a stranger: cold, suspicious, and short on empathy. Zach, who admits he has little personal experience with death, stays curious. He wonders out loud whether Hector's behavior was his own trauma response, and he offers a reframe on the empathy debate: you may not always be able to feel what someone else feels, but compassion is always available.

    From there the conversation turns to what "doing the work" actually means. Robin names her own patterns: high-functioning codependency, people pleasing, and the reflex to apologize and fix. She shares her recovery from alcoholism and the four months of daily AA meetings it took. Zach presses on the point that change takes time and effort you can see, and Robin lands it: "Awareness plus new action creates change." They close on grief and acceptance, where Zach offers a line worth keeping: acceptance is the end of grief, but pain isn't a phase. Pain is a fact.

    This is an honest, unpolished conversation with someone in the middle of it. If you've ever lost a person and a relationship in the same season, or wondered why someone you loved stopped feeling familiar, Robin's story will land.


    Key Takeaways

    • Grief can be postponed, but it can't be skipped. It shows up when you finally stop operating.
    • Acceptance doesn't remove the pain. You can fully accept a loss and still be heartbroken.
    • Pain isn't a phase of grief. It's a fact of loss.
    • You may not always be able to feel what your partner feels, but compassion is always available.
    • A crisis often doesn't create someone's behavior. It reveals patterns that were already there.
    • Doing the work starts with asking where your part is, not who's to blame.
    • People pleasing and constant apologizing can look like love, but they're self-sacrifice.
    • Insight alone doesn't change anything. Awareness plus new action creates change.


    Guest Info

    Robin Ducharme Founder and CEO of Real Love Ready, a former professional matchmaker and love coach, and host of Let's Talk Love and Real Love Ready: The Series. She's the creator and producer of In Bloom: A Love & Relationships Summit and the author of Real Love Ready: A Guide to Relational Literacy (published April 2026). Robin has appeared on MTR twice before with her former partner, Hector. In this episode she returns solo to talk about the death of her mother, the end of that relationship, and what relational literacy looks like in practice.

    • Website: realloveready.com
    • Instagram: @realloveready



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    35 分
  • Ep 448 Get Off the Couch. That's Where Life Happens w/Peter & Luisa Csathy

    Ep 448 Get Off the Couch. That's Where Life Happens w/Peter & Luisa Csathy
    2026/10/27
    Zach sits down with Peter and Luisa Csathy, together 33 years and married 30. Peter is a media and tech guy who started his career as an entertainment lawyer, and for their 30th anniversary he secretly wrote Luisa a book: Hiding in Plain Sight: 10 Secrets to a Happy Marriage & Family. Zach wants to know two things: how a lawyer and tech executive ended up with opinions about marriage, and what Luisa thought when she found out.It starts with one of the better meet-cutes MTR has heard. On a Tuesday night in Beverly Hills, an exhausted Peter almost stayed on the couch instead of meeting his biggest client at the time, N.W.A. He went anyway, sat down with manager Jerry Heller while Suge Knight stood over the table, and worked up the courage to ask the hostess for her number. Luisa, 23 and finishing school at USC, brushed him off twice. He called anyway, left a voicemail she thought was cute, and after their first dinner she called a girlfriend to say, "I met the man I'm gonna marry." Peter calls it active serendipity: you don't wait for luck, you take action that puts you where good things can happen. From there the three talk about shared values, trusting your gut on big decisions, and what Luisa calls the yin and yang of two very different people. Zach adds his own take: a relationship takes two functional adults willing to dance, and he borrows a line from Ben Folds about an orchestra's job being to resolve dissonance. Music runs through the whole conversation, from festivals with their grown kids to Zach's advice to clients to change the sound of their home.The most honest moment comes when Luisa describes opening the book in an overwater bungalow in Bora Bora. She's a private person, and a gift that was supposed to be just for her was about to go out into the world. "It lost the intimacy, I think, for me," she says. Peter admits he expected a very different reaction, and that it would have hurt if she'd said no. They talked it through and met in the middle, which is the point of the whole episode.If you've been together a long time and life has gotten comfortable, quiet, or a little too frictionless, this conversation is a nudge to put the phone down, get out of the house, and stay curious about the person next to you.Key TakeawaysLuck is overrated. Active serendipity means taking the action that puts you where good things can happen.Life happens off the couch. Some of the best moments in a relationship start with the night you almost stayed home.A healthy relationship needs two functional adults who are willing to learn, adapt, and do more of what their partner likes.Differences aren't the problem. The work is resolving the dissonance between two people vibrating at different frequencies.Shared values matter more than shared personalities. When family is an automatic yes, a lot of other decisions get easier.Change the sound of your home. Sometimes putting on music is the simplest way to change the air between you.A gift can still land as a loss. When it does, talk it through and find the middle instead of defending your intentions.A frictionless life costs connection. Analog time, without screens, is where curiosity and intimacy get room to grow.Guest InfoPeter Csathy is chairman of Creative Media in Los Angeles and CEO of Deep Cuts Media. He started his career as an entertainment lawyer, where his early clients included N.W.A., then worked as a studio executive at Universal and New Line and led companies that sold to Yahoo and Logitech. For his and Luisa’s 30th anniversary, he secretly wrote Hiding in Plain Sight: 10 Secrets to a Happy Marriage & Family, available now on Amazon.Book site: hidinginplainsight.infoBook on Amazon: Hiding in Plain SightWebsite: Creative MediaLinkedIn: pcsathyThreads: @pcsathyLuisa Csathy is the founder and Chief Inspiration Officer of The Grounded Mind, a coaching and community hub in Encinitas, California. As a certified life coach, she works with young adults and purpose-driven people. She’s also Head of International at Creative Media. She and Peter met in 1993, when she was hostessing at a Beverly Hills restaurant and finishing school at USC, and they’ve been married for 30 years.Website: The Grounded MindSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    46 分
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