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Marriage Therapy Radio

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Look... every couple struggles. You fight too much; you're bored; sex is either okay (or rare); maybe you're even considering divorce. OR... maybe your marriage is actually pretty good, but you want to go deeper. In this podcast, straight-talking marriage therapist Zach Brittle tackle the most common complaints virtually every marriage experience. Along the way, they reveal the science behind strong relationships and talk about what's really going on for couples. Topics include conflict, communication, compatibility, money, sex, in-laws, infidelity, time-management, future dreams, and more. If you want relief? A deeper connection? A new way forward...? Then you've got to find out what's REALLY going on in your marriage. That's what this podcast is about. You can learn more about Zach, and his alternatives to traditional therapy at marriagetherapyradio.com.

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  • Ep 445 Low Desire, Low Testosterone, and Lost Pleasure w/Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz

    Ep 445 Low Desire, Low Testosterone, and Lost Pleasure w/Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz
    2026/10/06

    Zach talks with Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz, the married sex therapists behind the Intimacy Institute, and starts somewhere unexpected: their Sunday night calendar meeting. Before the conversation ever gets to the bedroom, Jenni and Daniel walk through the weekly check-in they swear by as parents of two boys, covering finances, kids' schedules, board meetings, and a bar mitzvah on the horizon. It's not sexy, Jenni admits, but she says it's exactly what clears her head enough to be present for the parts that are.

    From there, Zach brings them a pattern he's seeing again and again in his own practice: couples in their 40s, 50s, and 60s where she is waking up to her sexuality and he is coasting, happy with his garage and his sports and not all that interested. Jenni and Daniel lay out what they'd look for. They start with testosterone and move through resentment, an old affair that never healed, fear of his body failing him, and what Daniel calls a resistance to dreaming. Daniel's emergency brake image, where everything in a man's life carries just a little extra friction, is one of the clearest descriptions of low testosterone you'll hear. The couple also tells their origin stories. Jenni played Dr. Ruth to her friends and wrote her own Vagina Monologues piece in college. Daniel's grandmother asked about his sex life in front of his girlfriends, he lost his father when he was 7, and men's work led him, reluctantly, into sex therapy.

    The last stretch turns to pleasure itself. Jenni pushes back on the idea that we have to earn it, Zach floats a theory that people who struggle with pleasure in the bedroom might start at the dinner table, and Daniel shares a steak analogy that perfectly captures what performance anxiety does to sex. If your sex life has gone quiet, or one of you wants more than the other, this episode gives you a long list of places to look and a lot of permission to slow down.


    Key Takeaways

    • A weekly logistics check-in isn't romantic, but clearing the mental clutter of schedules and bills makes it easier to be present for intimacy.
    • Intimacy can work like a junk drawer: the unresolved dynamics in a relationship tend to end up there, which is why working on intimacy often means working on everything else.
    • Sex is often the symptom that gets a couple through the door, not the whole problem. The deeper work is usually underneath.
    • When a midlife man's desire drops, the causes can include low testosterone, resentment, unhealed betrayal, depression, trauma, or fear that his body won't cooperate.
    • Some partners stop hoping for a better sex life because it feels safer than being disappointed. "If I never get to go to Hawaii, then I won't miss it."
    • A man who has always been the initiator may freeze when his partner starts initiating, especially if he has quietly relied on planning ahead to feel confident.
    • You don't have to earn pleasure through suffering or productivity. Practicing it in everyday ways, like eating slowly or taking a warm shower, can make it easier to access in the bedroom.
    • Rules and performance pressure crowd out pleasure. When you're focused on doing it right, you stop noticing what you're actually experiencing.

    Guest Info

    Dr. Jenni Skyler

    Sex therapist and founder of the Intimacy Institute, which she started before she met Daniel. Its mission is "giving all people permission for pleasure." She hosts the Sex and the Psyche podcast and is active on social as Dr. Jenni Skyler (spelled "with an I").

    Daniel Lebowitz

    Sex therapist at the Intimacy Institute who focuses on men's work and masculinity. He has a master's degree in Latin American studies and planned to become a history professor. He later trained as a therapist and joined the practice. He's not on social media.

    Jenni and Daniel are married with two sons, ages 10 and 12. The Intimacy Institute offers clinical sex and relationship therapy, from brief solution-focused work to longer, deeper relational work. They also run private multi-day couples intensives built around each couple.

    website: https://www.intimacyinstitute.org/

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    49 分
  • Ep 444 Why Couples Resist Change, and What It Costs to Stay Stuck w/Iona Monk & Pam Stewart

    Ep 444 Why Couples Resist Change, and What It Costs to Stay Stuck w/Iona Monk & Pam Stewart
    2026/09/29
    Zach flips the usual format and welcomes two fellow podcasters: Iona Monk and Pam Stewart, the therapists behind Relationship Dish. They're podcast partners, not romantic partners, and they're quick to add that they'd be a terrible match anyway (Iona pursues, Pam withdraws). Iona started the show to take the shame out of couples therapy. Couples tend to show up six or seven years too late, like walking into a dentist after years away and asking them to save the tooth. If two therapists can talk openly about their own marriages, maybe everyone else will get help sooner. Pam brings a different lens from years of family therapy, where parents often believe everything would be fine if the kid would just change.That idea turns into the backbone of the conversation: systems resist change. Iona calls it homeostasis, the pull back to whatever the body and brain already know. Pam calls it the "misery stabilizer," and points out how much energy it takes to keep things stuck. Zach pushes back on the idea that people hate change. They change their clothes every day. What they hate is loss, and they don't move until the cost of staying the same outweighs the cost of changing. From there, the three of them run with a Home Depot metaphor. Couples come in asking for tools, but a good helper asks what you're building first, and you don't hand a power saw to a kid. Iona shares a story about a couple who wanted "tools" mostly so one could hit the other over the head with them.The episode closes with Iona's new book, Happy for the Long Haul, which looks at marital conflict through five lenses, including relational trauma and what she calls the biological need for speed: the way growing up in chaos can leave your body craving the adrenaline of conflict. Zach connects it to what he calls relational recovery, the idea that all of us are hooked on the protective systems we learned as kids. It's a smart, funny, and practical conversation about why couples stay stuck and what it takes to finally move.Key TakeawaysPeople don't resist change. They resist loss. Name what the change will cost you, and it gets easier to face.You won't change until staying the same costs more than changing. Part of good therapy is helping you see that cost clearly.Staying miserable takes more energy than it looks like. Couples often realize this only after they've changed.Sometimes a couple avoids doing the work because failing would be scarier than staying stuck. Not trying protects the fantasy that things could be better "someday."Tools don't help until you know what you're building. Figure out whether you need fresh paint, a remodel, or a new foundation.A relationship tool can become a weapon. If you're using what you learned in therapy to prove your partner wrong, you're missing the point.The problem is rarely one person. It's the cycle you've built together, and that cycle is your common enemy.The survival strategies that protected you as a kid can sink you as an adult. You can survive or you can thrive, but you can't do both.Guest InfoIona Monk is a registered clinical counsellor in the greater Vancouver area with a graduate degree from the University of British Columbia. She works with couples and individuals, mainly through the lens of attachment and defense systems, with emotionally focused therapy as a core approach. She has 25 years of experience as a couples therapist. Iona co-hosts Relationship Dish and is the author of Happy for the Long Haul, a practical guide to building a marriage that goes the distance, drawn from her client work and her own 30-year relationship. The book came out September 22 and is available on Amazon.Pam Stewart is a registered clinical counsellor with master's degrees from the University of British Columbia and the University of Colorado. Her clinical focus is parents and children, helping families build healthy attachment relationships, often alongside child therapists and psychiatry as part of a coordinated care team. She says she's retired, but she still does some family therapy and has a side business in interior design. Pam and Iona met in grad school and co-host Relationship Dish together.Relationship Dish is a podcast where two therapists talk honestly about their own romantic relationships. New episodes come out every two weeks on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and other podcast apps.Iona's practice and show page: ionamonkcouplestherapy.com/relationshipdishBook: Happy for the Long Haul (Amazon)Show socials: Instagram @relationshipdishCrossover note: Zach also appeared on Relationship Dish to talk about the movie The Invite.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  • Ep-443 An NPR Journalist, Her Audio Engineer Husband, and the Negotiation That Never Ends w/Yowei Shaw & Kyle Pulley

    Ep-443 An NPR Journalist, Her Audio Engineer Husband, and the Negotiation That Never Ends w/Yowei Shaw & Kyle Pulley
    2026/09/22
    Zach talks with Yowei Shaw and Kyle Pulley, a married couple who make the podcast Proxy together, a show that investigates "emotional mysteries" by connecting people who feel alone in a specific conundrum with a stranger who has lived through something close to it. Yowei spent about seven years creating and hosting the NPR documentary series Invisibilia before she was laid off in 2023. Kyle co-owns a recording studio in Philadelphia and plays a hands on role in Proxy, mixing episodes, managing the spreadsheets, and generally functioning, in his own words, as Yowei's bedraggled podcast spouse. They met on OkCupid, where Yowei used a flimsy pretext (she asked Kyle, an audio engineer, for help recording a narration she had already written an article about how to do herself) to get to know a guy with cute band photos.Most of the conversation traces how that early flirtation turned into a real, ongoing negotiation. When Yowei's NPR job pulled her to DC, Kyle stayed in Philadelphia with his studio and his music scene, and for years the two of them lived split lives, with Yowei commuting by Amtrak and Kyle rearranging his schedule, his living situation, and his role in the house to make it work. The bigger shift came when Yowei's income outpaced Kyle's and she became, unexpectedly, the breadwinner. She's candid that this new power showed up in their fights as an unfair trump card, and just as candid about how getting laid off in 2023 flipped the dynamic again, sending her into what she calls a complete mess of a stretch that Kyle met with support instead of shame. They talk through what stuck from couples therapy, and the concept from Yowei's individual therapist about not letting one partner absorb all the worry in a relationship, a framework they still use today around money, the future of the show, and the question of having kids.What makes the conversation land isn't that Yowei and Kyle have solved any of this. It's that they've built small, repeatable structures, a weekly "proxy meeting" to keep the podcast's business from leaking into date nights, permission to have a real blowup about once a quarter and then let it go, honesty about which gender roles still sneak up on them even though they don't believe in them, that let two strong willed, creative people keep choosing each other. It's a warm, funny, unusually honest look at a relationship that runs on ongoing negotiation rather than a moment when everything got figured out.Key TakeawaysNegotiation isn't a phase a couple moves past. Kyle says what convinced him he wanted to stay was that they always came back to the negotiating table, not that they stopped needing to.A sudden shift in who earns more money changes the emotional balance of a relationship, not just the financial one, and both partners have to consciously renegotiate power along with the budget.A recurring check in meeting, even a literal business meeting with a whiteboard, keeps one source of stress (in this case, the podcast) from leaking into every other part of a relationship.Learning your own rhythm for conflict, how often you blow up and how you repair afterward, matters more than trying to avoid conflict altogether.When one partner absorbs all the worry or responsibility for the future, there's no room for the other to step in. Deliberately pulling back can invite a partner to show up.Gender roles a couple has rejected intellectually can still resurface underneath old fights, especially around money and caretaking.Unconditional support through a layoff or career setback, without shame or pressure to hurry up, can become the turning point that redefines who carries a relationship's weight.Couples therapy can feel like it's taking sides when it's actually just holding both partners equally accountable, and that discomfort is often the useful part.Guest InfoYowei Shaw, creator and host of Proxy, an independent, mostly listener-funded podcast that investigates specific, private emotional conundrums. She calls herself an emotional investigative journalist. Before Proxy she spent years at NPR as a producer, co-host, and editorial lead on Invisibilia, with earlier stints as a temp on Fresh Air and stories for This American Life. Invisibilia was canceled and she was laid off from NPR in 2023, after which she built Proxy independently from Philadelphia.Website: https://yoweishaw.com Show: https://proxypodcast.com Instagram: @yoweishaw (personal), @proxypodcast (show) Kyle Pulley, Philadelphia music producer, audio engineer, and bassist. Co-founder and co-owner of Headroom Studios (with Joe Reinhart). Production and engineering credits include Dr. Dog, Alex G, Hop Along, Jay Som, Adult Mom, Diet Cig, Shamir, and Kississippi, among others. Also plays bass and co-writes in the band Thin Lips. He's the mixing engineer on Proxy and married to Yowei Shaw; Proxy's about page credits him as Mixing Engineer / Bedraggled Podcast Spouse.Website: https://kylepulley.netStudio: https://...
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    38 分
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