『Marriage Therapy Radio』のカバーアート

Marriage Therapy Radio

Marriage Therapy Radio

著者： MTR
無料で聴く

Look... every couple struggles. You fight too much; you're bored; sex is either okay (or rare); maybe you're even considering divorce. OR... maybe your marriage is actually pretty good, but you want to go deeper. In this podcast, straight-talking marriage therapist Zach Brittle tackle the most common complaints virtually every marriage experience. Along the way, they reveal the science behind strong relationships and talk about what's really going on for couples. Topics include conflict, communication, compatibility, money, sex, in-laws, infidelity, time-management, future dreams, and more. If you want relief? A deeper connection? A new way forward...? Then you've got to find out what's REALLY going on in your marriage. That's what this podcast is about. You can learn more about Zach, and his alternatives to traditional therapy at marriagetherapyradio.com.

© Marriage Therapy Radio 人間関係 個人的成功 心理学 心理学・心の健康 社会科学 自己啓発 衛生・健康的な生活
エピソード
  • Ep 429 The Therapist and Her Partner: What It Actually Looks Like to Live the Work w/Anna & John

    Ep 429 The Therapist and Her Partner: What It Actually Looks Like to Live the Work w/Anna & John
    2026/06/16
    Zach sits down with Anna, a faculty member at the Relational Life Institute and one of his mentors, and her husband John, a self-described practitioner of life rather than therapy. Together, the three of them get into something that rarely happens on relationship podcasts: a real, textured, honest look at what it means to actually live relational principles inside a marriage, not just teach them.The episode turns on a fascinating contrast. Anna has been steeped in Relational Life Therapy for years, knows the language and the tools inside and out, and still finds herself slipping into covert control. John has no clinical training, no internet footprint, and no interest in marketing the work, but walks into every conversation with an intuitive grasp of what healthy relating requires. Zach presses both of them on this. What does doing the work actually mean when one partner has the vocabulary and the other just seems to live it? The answers are more interesting than either of them might have predicted.The centerpiece story is a moment from a joint retreat in Costa Rica, where Anna had to manage a minor household crisis back home without telling John what was happening. She kept things managed, kept things calm, and kept him in the dark, and then eventually had to reckon with the fact that her "helpfulness" had crossed over into exactly the pattern she spends her professional life helping couples dismantle. When she finally told him, his response was one of the most reparative moments she had experienced in their relationship. That single story opens into a much bigger conversation about the difference between protecting your partner and controlling the room, about what it costs to never let yourself be surprised by someone else's goodness.What sticks is this: the goal is not to never get off balance. It is to catch it sooner. Anna says it plainly and Zach echoes it with his now-running story about screaming at strangers in the Costco gas line. Nobody has figured this out. Nobody is immune. But some people are getting better at noticing, and this episode is 45 minutes of what that actually looks and sounds like in a real marriage.Key TakeawaysIntimacy requires level ground. You cannot have real closeness from a one-up or one-down position, whether that means superiority, caretaking, or control.Covert control often starts as kindness. What begins as "protecting" your partner can quietly become a way of managing your own anxiety about their reaction.Predicting a bad response can cost you a good one. When Anna stopped waiting for John to disappoint her and told him what was going on, she got one of the most reparative moments in their relationship.The work is not a destination you arrive at. It is the repeated, unglamorous act of noticing when you have drifted, and coming back.Doing the work is not the same as talking about the work. John's ability to intuit the relational principles without the clinical vocabulary challenges the assumption that people who read the books and say the right things are necessarily further along.How you show up solicits how your partner shows up. Bringing your grounded, adult self to an interaction invites the same from the person across from you. It is not a guarantee, but it raises the odds significantly."On a good day" is not the benchmark. The real growth shows up in what you do when it is a bad day and the old patterns are calling your name loudest.Repair is available more often than we let ourselves believe. The barrier is usually not the other person. It is the story we are already telling about how they are going to respond.Guest InfoAnna is a therapist, teacher, and faculty member at the Relational Life Institute. She is a practitioner and trainer in Relational Life Therapy, an approach developed by Terry Real. She references her use of RLT both in her clinical practice and in her own marriage. She is also Zach's mentor, a relationship he acknowledges directly during the episode.John is Anna's husband. He is not a clinician. He came to the relational principles through personal experience, yoga, mindfulness practice, and what he describes as a forced epiphany roughly a decade before this recording. His perspective as the non-therapist partner in a therapist-led framework is one of the central tensions the episode is built around.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
    続きを読む 一部表示
    51 分
  • Ep 428 When the Laughs Are Real: How a Comedy Couple Keeps Their Marriage Honest w/Kevin & Annie

    Ep 428 When the Laughs Are Real: How a Comedy Couple Keeps Their Marriage Honest w/Kevin & Annie
    2026/06/09
    Zach sits down with Kevin and Annie, a married couple from Los Angeles who have built parallel careers in comedy, social media, and content creation while raising two kids and juggling a genuinely hectic life. Kevin is one half of the Dumb Dads, a social media comedy brand that has racked up viral moments and national media coverage, while also recently stepping into a finance job to add income stability. Annie is a story producer for non-scripted television and runs her own comedy account where she documents real parenting and relationship life with a voice that is sharp, honest, and very much her own. This is not a conversation about influencer culture. It is a conversation about two people who have made a shared philosophy out of not taking themselves too seriously, and what that actually looks like inside a marriage.What surfaces quickly is that Kevin and Annie's approach to comedy and their approach to their relationship are basically the same thing: find the seed of truth, name what other people are too embarrassed to name, and trust that the honesty will land. They talk about the chaos of the social media comment section, the difference between content that performs and content that resonates, and what it means to build something funny when half your audience is having a terrible day. Kevin walks through the arc of Dumb Dads going from a pandemic side project to Good Morning America to a grind where Instagram stopped paying for views and he quietly went back to a day job. Annie reflects on pulling down a video that made people feel bad, and how that one moment shaped her entire content philosophy going forward.But it is the stretch of conversation near the end of this episode that earns its MTR stripes. Annie mentions casually that she has been feeling unsettled since Kevin started working office hours again, that she asked him to call during lunch just to feel anchored. Kevin reflects on nine years of being the stay-at-home logistics parent and what it costs the family when that system changes. There is no drama here. There is just two people who know each other well enough to say the true thing plainly and trust that it will be received well. As Annie puts it: she always knows his intentions are good. That assumption, more than anything else they say, is the actual relationship advice.Key TakeawaysAssuming the best about your partner's intentions is a relationship skill, not just a personality trait. It is something Annie and Kevin have actively built.When someone fires off an angry comment online or walks into the room furious, Zach points out what he tells couples in his practice: every single comment is about the commenter. The content is almost never the real issue.Kevin and Annie's viral success came from naming the thing people were too embarrassed to admit. That works in comedy. It also works in relationships.Defensiveness and weaponized incompetence eventually cost you things you actually want. The Dumb Dads made that the punchline of a sketch. It holds up in real life too.Comedy and magic work the same way: draw people in with something familiar, then surprise them. Kevin applies this to his content, but the same principle shows up in how he and Annie talk through conflict without letting it calcify.Annie took down a video because enough people told her it made them feel bad. She did not argue the intent. She just acted. That kind of responsiveness, inside a marriage or outside of it, is how trust stays intact.When your domestic system changes, even for good reasons, the emotional math changes too. Kevin going back to office hours after nine years as the at-home parent created a gap neither of them saw coming, and they caught it early enough to name it.Not taking yourself too seriously is not the same as not caring. Kevin has been doing comedy intentionally since he was 18. He cares deeply. He just refuses to let the weight of it make everyone around him miserable.Guest InfoKevin is one half of the Dumb Dads, a social media comedy brand he runs with his co-creator Evan. The brand grew from a podcast and parenting sketch series started around 2020 into a multi-platform presence that has been covered by Good Morning America, ESPN, and Barstool. Kevin also works in operations at a wealth management firm and has appeared in commercials, including one for Lowe's.https://www.instagram.com/thedumbdads/Annie is a story producer for non-scripted television, with roughly a decade of credits on fishing competition shows including Wicked Tuna. She also runs her own comedy account focused on real, unfiltered parenting and relationship content.https://www.instagram.com/annielaferriere/ See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
    続きを読む 一部表示
    52 分
  • Ep 427 When One of You Is the Problem (And It's Both of You) w/James & Molly

    Ep 427 When One of You Is the Problem (And It's Both of You) w/James & Molly
    2026/06/02
    Zach sits down with James and Molly Christensen, a married couple and fellow therapists based in Sacramento, who spent more than six years in couples therapy before it actually worked. They burned through eight therapists, logged over a hundred sessions, and came within reach of a marriage that had been quietly failing for years. The fact that they are now both practicing couples therapists themselves makes this conversation something rare: a behind-the-curtain look at what the struggle actually looks like from inside.The conversation gets honest fast. James names what he had to face: narcissism, manipulation, a sense of superiority, and an inability to take feedback without it threatening his identity. Molly describes her own side of the dynamic, a deeply people-pleasing, avoidant woman who had been raised to see relationships as transactional, and who spent years wondering whether her instincts about James were accurate or whether she was the one losing her mind. The turning point for both of them came in the form of an intensive with a therapist who was finally skilled enough to hold them both, call them both out in the moment, and care enough about James to be blunt with him without losing him. James started recording every session and listening back four times. By the fourth listen, he could hear himself clearly. That's when things shifted.What runs underneath this whole episode is a conviction that most couples are doing "recovery lounge" therapy, showing up, going through the motions, and feeling okay about it, without ever actually growing. James makes the case that conflict is not the problem in most marriages. Avoidance is. The goal, for both of them as clients and now as clinicians, is more conflict with less anger, which means developing the capacity to say what you actually think, to your spouse, with genuine care behind it, and to hold your ground when they push back. That's differentiation. That's the work. And if you get through it, Zach notes, the intimacy on the other side is real.Key TakeawaysFiring your therapist is sometimes the right call. If you're not making progress after significant time, the fit may be the problem, not the process.Being resistant to therapy is often not about therapy. Molly's refusal to engage was partly a refusal to let James dictate her path. Understanding the resistance tells you a lot about the relationship dynamic.Narcissism has four components worth knowing: fragility (inability to take criticism), a sense of superiority, indifference to others, and manipulation as a means of protecting a false self.The breakthrough often requires a therapist who combines genuine care with genuine bluntness. Truth without love is abusive. Love without truth is just convenient. Both together is what actually moves people.Conflict is not the enemy. Avoidance is. Couples who never fight aren't at peace, they're just not saying what they really think, and it costs them.Differentiation is the ability to stay grounded in yourself when your partner is not okay. It's not about getting them to back down. It's about whether you can hold your own truth without crumbling under pressure.The tools from research-based approaches like Gottman are only as useful as the people holding them. If underlying traits like narcissism or avoidance are untreated, the tools won't stick.When couples heal, families heal. James and Molly both note that their children have noticed the difference, and that the work they've done has changed the floor their kids are jumping from.Guest InfoJames Christensen Licensed couples therapist based in Sacramento, California. Former Air Force pilot with 22 years of military service before transitioning to therapy. Specializes in high-conflict couples using the Crucible approach. Brings his own history as a client, over six years in couples therapy, to his clinical work.Website: https://jamesmchristensen.com/Molly Christensen Associate therapist (currently under supervision), working at a nonprofit and accepting sliding scale and insurance clients. Followed James into the field after their shared experience in therapy. Brings her perspective as a former people-pleaser and avoidant partner to her work with couples.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
    続きを読む 一部表示
    41 分
adbl_web_anon_alc_button_suppression_t1
まだレビューはありません