On Blessings, Atlanta '96, Church, and William Carey

Not Alone Today Podcast | Season 6 Episode 2

What do you do in the following circumstances:

1. When God does not come in ways that match your expectations?
2. When you find yourself in situations that seem larger than you are capable of dealing with?
3. When you do not feel motivated to go to church?
4. When your spouse does not fully share what you believe to be your calling?

Welcome back to another episode of the Not Alone Today podcast! In this episode, Joseph and Anu reflect on some lessons they are learning in recent weeks.

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On Parenting, Jürgen Klopp, Weapon of Silence, and Slow Progress

Not Alone Today Podcast | Season 6 Episode 1

Welcome back to another episode of the Not Alone Today podcast! In this episode, Joseph and Anu reflect on some lessons they are learning in recent weeks.

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Avoiding Distractions in a Long-Distance Marriage

Not Alone Today Podcast | Season 5 Episode 3

Welcome back to another episode of the Not Alone Today podcast! In this episode, Nike asks a follow-up question to Timothy's question which we treated in the last episode (titled When a Couple's Attraction Wanes). Nike asks,

“How can I maintain focus and keep the attraction alive in my long-distance marriage? I'm feeling emotionally confused and relying on my faith for support. I can't help but notice other attractive guys, but I've accepted the reality of our separation. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Managing three kids alone leaves me exhausted in the evenings, and sometimes I fall asleep before calling him. He always wants to talk, but I can't always find the time. 🫣 What should I do about these distractions and the temptation of other attractive men? 👀😁”

Some Resources Mentioned in the episode:

• Couply - a mobile app that helps couples connect and build stronger relationships

• NIV Couples' Devotional Bible

• S5E02 - When a Couple's Attraction Wanes

Biblical Insight 

• We highlighted Philippians 4:8-9 as a guardrail to implementing the ideas and tips shared in the episode.

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When a Couple's Attraction Wanes

Not Alone Today Podcast | Season 5 Episode 2

Welcome back to another episode of the Not Alone Today podcast! In this episode, we dive into a question from a listener named Timothy who asks,

“How can I handle the situation when I find myself getting less attracted to my wife due to certain habits or attitudes she wouldn't change? Communication is a major challenge between us. I value class and taste, while she seems more laid-back about appearances. How can I address this and understand her perspective better?”

Timothy's question revolves around how to handle the situation when he feels less attracted to his wife due to her unwillingness to change certain habits and attitudes. He also seeks guidance on addressing the issue of communication challenges and understanding his wife's perspective better.

Some Key Highlights

• The importance of valuing what God values in a marriage

• The significance of communication, vulnerability, and acceptance in fostering a loving and harmonious relationship.

• The power of laughter and finding joy in everyday moments to strengthen the connection between partners.

• Embracing each other's unique traits and differences rather than trying to change one another.

Biblical Insight 

Drawing from 1 Peter 3, we emphasise the value of inner beauty—a calm and gentle spirit—as being precious in the eyes of God. This insight encourages spouses to focus on the beauty that comes from within and align their values with what God values.

Practical Tips

• Encourage open and honest communication in the relationship, with a focus on understanding each other rather than trying to make a point.

• Find creative ways to express love languages to one another, making correction more romantic than confrontational.

• Embrace each other's differences and learn to find joy in them, recognising that attraction evolves over time.

How to Listen to the Episode

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In this episode, we reflect on the previous year and the transition into a new year.

We discussed the following among others:

• ✥ Highlights of 2022
• ✥ The merits and demerits of making new year resolutions
• ✥ Daily Audio Bible Chronological (https://player.dailyaudiobible.com/chronological)
• ✥ The concept of naming a new year
• ✥ A warning against distraction

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This is a 6-in-1 special episode bringing together over two hours of Relationship Content from the Not Alone Today Podcast.

For easy navigation, here's a guide:

• 0:00  ⏩  1. Help! I Don't Like Who God Wants Me To Marry 
• 19:07  ⏩  2. Marrying a Pastor 
• 45:14  ⏩  3. Becoming the Right Person While Waiting for the Right Person
• 01:12:40  ⏩  4. The Audacity of Marrying on a 'God Said' Basis
• 01:30:15  ⏩  5. Being Sure of Who to Marry
• 01:51:47  ⏩  6. Am I Ready for a Relationship?

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In today's episode, we respond to Chika's question sent in from Lagos, Nigeria. Here's her question:

"What do you do when you try to work out your relationship with other people and it seems like the more you try to 'express' who you are, they keep misunderstanding?"

We discussed a few possibilities for Chika's consideration including but not limited to:

✥ The possibility that God may be teaching Chika some patience

✥ The possibility that Chika may be surrounding herself with the wrong inner circle

✥ The possible flaws in Chika's attempt to "express who she is"

✥ The possibility that Chika may be unpacking the gift of 'not fitting in', which is often a prerequisite for a call into PIONEERING one form of ministry or the other.

For more on the last point, we mentioned the works of Jonny Baker who has written a lot of insightful materials on the gift of not fitting and pioneer practice as a whole. 

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In today's episode, we respond to Betty's question sent in from East Africa. Her main question goes thus:

"Pastor, I need your help. I've been married to a man I believe is God's will for my life for a couple of years. However, I have observed in recent times that my husband lies to me and hardly apologises! There are so many decisions we make as a family but sometimes he goes against them and, in turn, lies to me instead. I am so fed up. I feel it's not healthy for me, especially as we are currently expecting our first child. To be fair to him, he had previously confessed to me that while he was growing up, he never felt loved because both his parents passed on while he was still very young. However, the fact that he lacked any significant parental love while growing up seems to be affecting him in marriage. It also meant that he didn't grow up with a model of what a man does to his wife. Sometimes, when I am feeling down and in need of his support and encouragement, he doesn't know what to do. Yet, I feel like I need him sometimes to show me that he's concerned or understands how I feel, but he doesn't seem to care about it. As for me, I grew up around both my parents, so I am here battling in my mind about how I think "he's supposed to do this and that" or "this should come naturally to him" but those things are not happening. I am confused and need your help."

We discussed this in the episode, among other things, an exposition on 1 Peter 2 and 3 while also offering some practical insights into Betty's question.

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