In this conversation, Tanya and Elen delve into the concepts of interoception and neuroception, exploring how these senses impact our understanding of bodily signals and emotional responses. They discuss the importance of recognizing and responding to internal cues for self-regulation, particularly in neurodivergent individuals. The conversation also highlights the significance of creating safe environments and understanding survival responses, such as fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. Finally, they emphasize the need to find glimmers of joy in everyday life to support emotional well-being and resilience.

• Interoception is our sense of what's happening inside our body.
• Neuroception is our sense of safety and danger.
• Everyone has sensory systems, and understanding them is crucial.
• Self-regulation starts with noticing internal sensations.
• Not everyone receives interoceptive messages reliably.
• Children may struggle with recognizing bodily cues due to various factors.
• Trauma can impact one's ability to sense internal messages.
• Finding glimmers of joy can enhance emotional resilience.
• Practicing self-regulation strategies when calm is more effective.
• Understanding survival responses helps in supporting children.

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Overview

03:12 Understanding Interoception and Neuroception

06:36 The Impact of Interoception on Daily Activities

14:29 Challenges and Variations in Interoception

19:13 Being Trauma-Informed in Interoception Work

27:27 Strategies for Developing Interoception Awareness

40:23 Supporting Children in Using Self-Regulation Strategies

50:00 Understanding Neuroception: Our Sense of Safety and Danger

55:41 The Different Threat Responses: Mobilization and Immobilization

01:13:37 Signaling Safety to Children: Tuning into Glimmers and Moments of Joy

You can connect with Elen Nathan here:

Website: https://theplayfulplace.co.nz/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePlayfulPlace

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If you would like to join the conversation by being a guest on the show, please email Tanya at tanya@tanyavalentin.com.

Aleesha White, founder of Moody, shares her journey of supporting neurodivergent individuals and their families.

She discusses the challenges she faced as a high school student with seizures and her subsequent passion for helping neurodivergent people.

Aleesha emphasizes the importance of creating inclusive opportunities and supporting neurodivergent individuals outside of the traditional classroom environment.

She also highlights the need for neuro-affirming strategies in education and offers advice for educators and parents. Moody aims to provide a supportive platform for teachers, students, and parents on their neurodiverse journey.

What we chatted about on the show:

• Supporting neurodivergent students requires creating inclusive opportunities and focusing on their well-being and mental health.
• Neurodivergent students may face challenges in traditional classroom environments, and it is important to provide support outside of the curriculum.
• Teachers can make a positive impact by modifying and differentiating their teaching strategies to meet the needs of neurodivergent students.
• Parents can advocate for their neurodivergent children by establishing open communication with teachers and sharing concerns and successes.
• Moody aims to provide a supportive platform for teachers, students, and parents, offering resources and strategies for the neurodiverse community.

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Aleesha White and Moody

01:27 Creating Inclusive Opportunities for Neurodivergent Individuals

04:17 Supporting Neurodivergent Students Outside of the Classroom

09:06 Neuro-Affirming Strategies for Educators

16:10 Advocating for Neurodivergent Children: Tips for Parents

22:47 Moody: A Supportive Platform for the Neurodiverse Community

Connect with Aleesha:

Free guide: empowering parents of neurodivergent children https://moody.myflodesk.com Instagram @themoodydifference

The full transcript for this episode is available HERE

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For many parents of neurodivergent children, bedtime is one of the hardest and most stressful times of the day. If this is true for you and your family, you're not alone, as many neurodivergent individuals find sleep challenging.

In this episode, I chat with Laura Hellfeld, neurodivergent nurse and sleep consultant.

Here are some of the topics we discussed:

• Changing the paradigm from traditional parenting perspectives on sleep and bedtime to a more connection-oriented approach.
• Helpful insights to support parents at bedtime.
• Giving yourself permission to listen to your child and your intuition and take the road of least resistance at bedtime.

To Follow Laura’s Work

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⁠LinkedIn⁠

⁠Webpage⁠

Resources

⁠Creating Safe Spaces for Autistic People paperback⁠

⁠Creating Safe Spaces for Autistic People Ebook⁠

⁠Autistic Revolution online magazine⁠

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Today, I am joined by Elen Nathan from The Playful Place to give us insight into ARFID (Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder).

Here is what we chatted about:

• What is ARFID?
• What causes ARFID and how can we know if our child (or we) are affected by ARFID?
• What can we do as parents to support our children if they are affected by ARFID?

If you missed Elen's other two episodes on Sensory Systems here are the links:

https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/78epUpjiXJb

https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/tG4jyrjiXJb

You can connect with Elen Nathan at:

https://www.theplayfulplace.co.nz

Click here to find out more about the Neurodivergent Family Toolbox⁠⁠⁠⁠

If you would like to join the conversation by being a guest on the show, please email Tanya at tanya@tanyavalentin.com.

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In this solo episode, I talk about a topic that is often shut down in parenting communities. The topic of experiencing grief for various aspects of our parenting journey. In our Instagram society, where we just see the highlights, the happy moments the joyful moments of parenting we can feel 'wrong', 'broken' and isolated because we aren't feeling or experiencing these things. There can be many times when we wish things were different. I have often felt like this but have not had the language to talk about my experience until I came across the Five Gates of Grief by Francis Weller. In this episode: I talk you through these five gates of grief and how they could relate to you. I share with you the three-step process I use when I am processing difficult emotions. If you experience grief over aspects of your parenting journey then I hope that you feel seen by what I share in this episode.

Frances Weller’s deep and profound work can be accessed here: https://www.francisweller.net

Click here: https://tanyavalentin.co/the-neurodivergent-family-toolbox-week-by-week-breakdown/

to find out more about The Neurodivergent Family Toolbox.

You can contact me on Instagram and Facebook @tanyavaletinnz to chat about the Neurodivergent Family Toolbox or the contents of this show

Today on the show I chat with Kate Kleinau, who you may know from her Facebook and Instagram accounts as Raising PDA Kids.

In this episode, Kate and I chat about:

• How her son's autistic burnout in his early childhood years led her to discover that he was PDA.
• The things she and her husband did to support her son's recovery from burnout.
• How embracing radical acceptance and adapting the way she parents her children has led to calmer, connected moments with her son.
• Her work supporting other PDA mums.

Does this resonate for you?

Do you think your child might be PDA? The PDA Society has some great resources: https://www.pdasociety.org.uk/ You can find out more about Kate's work here: https://raisingpda.com/ Connect with her on Facebook and Instagram at Raising PDA Kids- Kate Kleinau, OT

Click here to find out more about the Neurodivergent Family Toolbox⁠⁠⁠⁠

If you would like to join the conversation by being a guest on the show, please email Tanya at tanya@tanyavalentin.com.

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Today on the show we chat with Pip Brun, a neurodivergent human, a mum of 6 and a passionate advocate for the rights of disabled people.

Pip is a passionate member of the Enabling Good Lives mid-central leadership group in New Zealand.

In this episode, we chat about:

• Pip's lived experience as a mum of 6 neurodivergent children (including her daughter Lucy who has a rare chromosome disorder).
• The Enabling Good Lives approach and its guiding principles and what these mean for us in our lives.
• How we can live these principles in our own lives and use this approach to empower us to advocate for ourselves and our loved ones.

Additional information and resources for the Enabling Good Lives Approach:

https://www.enablinggoodlives.co.nz

Good Start To Life Practice Guidance:

//www.hqsc.govt.nz/assets/Consumer-hub/Partners-in-Care/Publications-resources/Good-start-in-life-practice-guidance-Mar-2020.pdf

https://www.msd.govt.nz/about-msd-and-our-work/publications-resources/monitoring/uncroc

https://www.enablinggoodlives.co.nz/system-transformation/mid-central-updates/midcentral-leadership-team/pip-brunn/

Click here to find out more about the Neurodivergent Family Toolbox⁠⁠⁠

If you would like to join the conversation by being a guest on the show, please email Tanya at tanya@tanyavalentin.com.

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A funny thing happened when I sat down with Elen Nathan from the Playful Place for our first chat on the sensory systems. We just clicked and geeked out about the sensory systems and our neatly planned agenda for the episode went out of the window.

After recording part one we immediately knew that we should do a follow-up. So Elen came back on a Sunday to record this episode with me and it is a real gem.

In this episode:

• Elen unpacks the 8 sensory systems and the hyper (extremely sensitive ) and hypo (low sensitivity) of these.
• We also chat about rethinking children's so-called 'behaviour' from a sensory perspective and how we can use this lens to be more supportive parents.
• This is essential listening for all parents and educators.

To get your free sensory system screening tools:

https://sensationalbrain.com/free-resources/

You can connect with Elen Nathan here:

Website: https://theplayfulplace.co.nz/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePlayfulPlace

⁠Click here to find out more about the Neurodivergent Family Toolbox⁠⁠

If you would like to join the conversation by being a guest on the show, please email Tanya at tanya@tanyavalentin.com.

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