Today’s guest is one of my favorite relationship therapists, Patricia Lamas. Patricia is an LCSW, who owns Securely Coupled Therapy, and provides individual, couples, and sex therapy in both LA and NY. She has worked in a variety of different settings and is trained in IFS, Gottman, Brainspotting, and PACT Level 3. She’s a therapy queen.

In this episode of the HUMAN First podcast, Dr. Courtney discusses:

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• Patricia is originally from Spain and that transition was a tough challenge
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• She describes herself as an “anxious ball”
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• Patricia’s struggle with her parents divorce and her parentification lead her to her interest in healthy relationship communication
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• Creating secure relationships can make the world a better place
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• What are attachment styles?
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• We are all babies who are trying to attach or reattach
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• Being wired for connection but also being wired for survival
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• Loneliness is just as bad as smoking a pack of cigarettes a day health wise
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• How many attachment styles are there and what are they?
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• The goal is secure attachment which means 30% of the time your parents got it right
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• What do these attachment styles look like in adulthood
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• Is it possible to have ALL the attachment styles?
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• The goal isn’t necessarily to completely change your attachment style, but to use your understanding of your own to better manage your relationships
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• Couples need to be experts on interpreting each other
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• We don’t heal alone. Community and relationships are vital to healing.
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You can find Patricia Lamas Alvarez online at:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/patricialamastherapy/?hl=en

Learn more about Patricia's offerings at: https://securelycoupledtherapy.com/

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This podcast is not therapy and does not provide personalized clinical advice. The purpose of this podcast is to provide mental health based entertainment and psychoeducation