On today's episode, we're joined by Aaron Thomas, Founder of Prenups.com and author of The Prenup Prescription, to discuss the role a prenup can play in supporting your marriage. After defining what a prenup actually is, Aaron shares some of the things a prenup can accomplish during three stages of marriage:

• Before - disclosure of assets and debts
• During - how bank accounts will be structured
• "The Contingency Plan" - dividing assets as you wish and not how your state decides

We also discuss how a prenup can help couples avoid arguments around each partner's discretionary spending, and how it can protect a partner who steps out of the workforce to care for children.

Aaron even shares some of the terms of his own prenuptial agreement with his wife, which includes a provision for marriage counseling. Finally, we talk about how and when to bring up a prenup to your partner, the process for drafting one, and the associated costs.

**Bonus for Practically Married listeners**
Want to learn more about prenups? Visit Prenups.com/PracticallyMarried to take advantage of this special offer for our listeners:

• Free copy of the e-book: 7 Steps to a Marriage Saving Prenup
• 30 minute video tutorial explaining all of the most common options you can include in your prenup
• 30 minute zoom call with a premarital finance specialist to help you brainstorm how to best customize your financial relationship with your spouse.

All of this for the reduced price of $99.00!

If you like what you heard...

• Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode!
• Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources!
• Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show!

Edited by Veronica Gruba
Music by Sage Holt-Hall

In this solo mini-episode, I describe what I mean by the name "Practically Married" and I list the 10 subjects that make up the Practically Married approach to marriage preparation, which are:

1. Communication & Conflict
2. Careers & Goals
3. Money
4. Home Life
5. Sex & Romance
6. Leisure Time
7. Family & In-laws
8. Physical & Mental Health
9. Spirituality & Culture
10. Children

Join us next week when we get back to talking with our marriage experts!

If you like what you heard...

• Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode!
• Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources!
• Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show!

Edited by Veronica Gruba
Music by Sage Holt-Hall

In this episode, I welcome author, entrepreneur, and coach Abby Davisson to the show to talk about the intersection between careers and relationships. Abby is a Fortune 200 leader-turned-founder of the Money and Love Institute whose mission is to help people turn daunting decisions into achievable action. She's also the co-author of Money & Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life's Biggest Decisions and the writer behind the popular newsletter, Practically Deliberate.

Abby and I discuss how couples can navigate pursuing their career aspirations while prioritizing the needs of a long-term committed partnership. More specifically, we address:

• The importance of self-reflection around values and career goals
• How to lead with curiosity when discussing careers with your partner
• Gendered expectations in straight couples
• Planning for eldercare and childcare
• Corporate trends in supporting dual career couples

Abby also explains the 5Cs framework for decision-making as explained in Money & Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life's Biggest Decisions:

1. Clarify
2. Communicate
3. Choices
4. Check In
5. Consequences

Publications and resources mentioned in this episode

• "Talk It Out" by Rebecca Beyer (Stanford Magazine article)
• Money & Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life's Biggest Decisions by Myra Strober & Abby Davisson
• Money and Love Institute
• Quiz: What's your money and love decision-making style?

Learn more about terms mentioned in this episode

• Sliding vs Deciding - Dr. Scott Stanley
• Kinwork (also known as kinkeeping)
• System 1 vs System 2 thinking from Thinking Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman
• Resulting - Annie Duke

If you like what you heard...

• Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode!
• Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources!
• Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show!

Edited by Veronica Gruba
Music by Sage Holt-Hall