Why do we withdraw or hide parts of ourselves when we’re longing for connection the most? In this episode of Project I AM, we explore the Central Relational Paradox—a concept from Relational Cultural Theory that sheds light on the push-and-pull between our deep desire for connection and our fear of rejection.

Join your host, Dr. David Schlosz, as we dive into the origins of this paradox, its roots in relational psychology, and how it shows up in our everyday lives. Using current research, real-world anecdotes, and practical advice, we’ll uncover why this paradox exists and how to overcome it.

Discover:

• Why fear of vulnerability often leads us to self-sabotage relationships.
• How past experiences shape our ability to connect authentically.
• Practical strategies to break free from the patterns that keep us stuck.

Whether you’re navigating friendships, romantic relationships, or professional connections, this episode will challenge you to examine your relational patterns and take steps toward deeper, more fulfilling connections.

Tune in now and learn how small acts of courage can transform your relationships.

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In this episode, we explore the transformative practice of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), a communication style that prioritizes empathy, clarity, and compassion. Developed by psychologist Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, NVC encourages us to approach conversations—especially challenging ones—with openness and respect. We’ll break down the four essential components of NVC: Observation, Feelings, Needs, and Requests, and discuss how each step can help us connect more meaningfully with others while reducing conflict.

With real-life examples, a practical exercise, and insights into Rosenberg’s philosophy, this episode provides a foundational understanding of NVC and tips for incorporating it into your daily life. Whether you’re navigating relationships, workplace dynamics, or simply looking to communicate more effectively, tune in to discover how NVC can help you transform your interactions and foster deeper, more compassionate connections.

More resources available at The Center for Non-Violent Communication: https://www.cnvc.org

In this episode, we explore the journey from loneliness to aloneness—a transformative state where solitude becomes a source of comfort, growth, and even joy. Loneliness is a deeply human experience, and research shows that it’s more common than ever. But what if instead of running from loneliness, we learned to embrace it as an opportunity for self-connection and inner peace? We dive into recent studies on the effects of loneliness, self-compassion, and mindfulness, sharing practical steps to help you turn moments of loneliness into valuable times of self-discovery.

Join us to explore how you can shift your perspective, find meaning in solitude, and nurture a sense of wholeness that comes from within. If you’re feeling disconnected or yearning for more peace in your own company, this episode offers comfort, insight, and a gentle reminder: you are enough, just as you are.