In this episode, Lisa Michelle Zega explores the powerful role that self-shaming and reimagination can play in the grieving process. Lisa shares personal experiences and insights on how being present to our own suffering, rather than trying to undo the past, can open us up to deeper self-compassion and the ability to create new, enriching experiences. The discussion touches on the importance of embracing the messiness of life, allowing ourselves to fully feel our emotions, and using the power of reimagination to find closure and nourish new growth. Throughout, Lisa emphasizes the synergy between being present to ourselves and being present to others with kindness and love.

1. How have you experienced the pull of "should-ing" yourself in the face of grief or difficult experiences? How can you practice being more present to your actual experience rather than trying to undo the past?

2. In what ways have you found the process of reimagining or re-living past experiences to be helpful in your own healing and growth? What new perspectives or insights have emerged through this process?

3. How might embracing the messiness and imperfections of life and relationships open you up to deeper self-compassion and connection with others? What would it look like to let go of the need to curate your experiences?

4. What are some concrete ways you can nurture the "soil" of your life, allowing past experiences to compost and feed new growth and opportunities? How can you be more intentional about metabolizing rather than suppressing difficult emotions?

5. How can the power of reimagination help you find closure, complete unfinished conversations, or give yourself the experiences you wish you had in moments of loss or regret? What might that process look like for you?