Resources: Elyse Fitzpatrick's website Elyse's Books Leslie's Website Leslie's Quick Start Guide In this episode, Leslie Vernick talks with Elyse Fitzpatrick the author of over 25 books on Christian living. Elyse holds a master's degree in biblical counseling from Trinity Theological Seminary and is a popular conference speaker and grandmother to six.

Discussing 'Worthy: Celebrating the Value of Women':

• Overview of Elyse's book 'Worthy.'
• The book celebrates the value of women in the church and society.
• The inspiration behind writing 'Worthy.'

Writing and Reception:

• Elyse's experiences around 2019-2020 that led to writing the book.
• Conversation with Paul Tripp and reading a blog post by Eric Shoemaker.
• The unexpected pushback received from various groups, including church leaders.

Handling Pushback:

• The surprising amount of resistance to the book's message.
• Criticisms, including the apparent lack of focus on traditional gender roles.
• Shock and discouragement faced, even being disinvited from conferences and losing publishing contracts.

The Biblical Value of Women:

• Discussion on the value of women as depicted in the Bible.
• Examples such as Hagar and the significance of her story in Genesis.

Cultural and Church Challenges:

• Examination of the church’s fear of women having power.
• The issue of power dynamics and the misuse of spiritual teachings to control.

Lessons from the Bible:

• Biblical accounts demonstrating God's use and valuing of women.
• Stories of women like Eve, Hagar, and Mary of Bethany.

Women as Co-laborers in Faith:

• The importance of recognizing women as equal contributors to the faith.
• Challenges women face in being seen as more than just traditional roles.

Jesus' Treatment of Women:

• Examples from the New Testament showing Jesus' respect and care for women.
• Stories of Jesus protecting and valuing women.

Resistance and Reconciliation:

• Different responses to sin and accountability between David and Saul.

• Importance of genuine repentance and the recognition of women's value in the community.

In this episode of Relationship Truth Unfiltered, Julie Sedenko and relationship expert Leslie Vernick tackle the tough topic of reconciliation. If you've ever wondered when or if you should reconcile in a relationship, this episode is for you. They discuss everything from the reasons why someone might separate to how to know if it's really the right time to come back together.

Why Separate?

• Leslie talks about the big reasons people choose to separate—from safety concerns to ongoing negative behavior and its impact.

Separation as a Wake-Up Call

• Separation can sometimes be a wake-up call. How do you know if it's working?

Spotting Real Change

• It's not just about saying sorry. How do you know your partner has really changed and is ready to reconcile?

Legal Stuff You Need to Know

• Separation isn't just emotional—there are legal aspects to consider. Make sure you're protected.

Grace and Boundaries

• How do you balance giving grace with setting boundaries? We discuss what you can tolerate and what’s a deal-breaker.

When It's Just Not Going to Work

• Sometimes, reconciliation isn’t possible. Leslie explains when you should consider calling it quits.

This episode, recorded last Christmas, is a reminder that you can find peace in God's presence this Christmas... even if you're dealing with a destructive relationship. In this episode, Leslie & Julie share memories of Christmas debacles and difficulties as well as very practical tips for being your best self during the holidays. Rest assured, friend, there is HOPE! He was born and He is risen. Merry Christmas!!

• Discusses the critical role of mindset in making real changes.
• Leslie explains the difference between breakdown and breakthrough mindsets.
• Uses biblical examples like Esther and Joseph to illustrate points.

• Leslie describes what a breakdown mindset is.
• Explains its effects using stories of people stuck in victim mentality.

• Leslie explains how people deny reality to avoid suffering.
• Shares examples of false spirituality and its impact on lives.

• Julie shares a personal story about her sister’s tragic death and subsequent family losses.
• Discusses the weight of grief and the common but unhelpful reactions from others.

• Leslie talks about distinguishing between healthy grieving and a breakdown.
• Emphasizes finding meaning in suffering.
• Shares the importance of perspective and purpose in tragedy.

• Leslie explains what a breakthrough mindset looks like.
• Provides personal and real-world examples of people converting loss into meaningful actions.

• Leslie provides practical steps and mindset shifts.
• Includes tracking thoughts and noticing the stories we tell ourselves.

• Stresses the importance of self-growth and taking responsibility for one’s mindset.
• Mentions the Empowered to Change group as a resource for developing a noble self.

Details about the Empowered to Change group:

Its role in personal growth.

How it helps women navigate difficult times by focusing on individual growth and mindset shifts.

• Leslie ends with a prayer for women in a breakdown mindset.

Empowered to Change: www.leslievernick.com/empowered

Darby Strickland https://www.darbystrickland.com/

In this heart-wrenching and inspirational episode, Mary shares her powerful story of overcoming decades of abuse. From her tumultuous marriages to finding the strength to rebuild her life, listeners will be moved and motivated to find resilience in their own struggles.

• Mary's Background

  • Insights into Mary’s early life and personal history.
  • Brief mention of her age and pride in overcoming challenges.

• First Marriage

  • The emotional and psychological abuse Mary experienced.
  • Efforts to maintain a normal home and protect her children.
  • Her husband’s eventual abandonment.

• Second Marriage

  • Initial optimism and eventual realization of failure.
  • The additional challenges and learning experiences.

• Discovering Leslie's Materials

  • How Mary found and began engaging with Leslie’s resources.
  • The impact of biblical evidence and therapy on her decisions.

• Applying Knowledge and Therapy

  • Practical steps Mary took to apply Leslie’s teachings.
  • Collaboration with her PTSD therapist to understand and confront abuse.

• Personal Achievements and Growth

  • Overcoming past abuses and achieving significant personal milestones.
  • Her educational pursuits and the establishment of a discipleship group.
  • Aspirations to start an autism center.

• Balancing Commitments

  • Struggles and strategies for maintaining a balanced life.
  • Learning to prioritize and manage commitments without overextending.

• The Role of Counseling

  • The necessity and importance of having a supportive counselor.
  • Perseverance in finding the right match for counseling.
  • Practical advice for those experiencing abuse and seeking help.

• Final Thoughts

  • Encouragement for listeners to seek help and realize their value.
  • Empowering message to those feeling defeated by ongoing abuse.

• Karl's journey of struggle and redemption

• Childhood challenges and the impact of faith

• Integrating science and faith for healing

• Empowering godly decisions in tough relationships

• Overview of the SPEARS decision-making model

• Importance of daily psychological and spiritual upkeep

RESOURCES Register for Leslie's Free Workshop December 5th! www.leslievernick.com/story

Leslie's Quick Start Guide www.leslievernick.com/start

In this episode, Julie Sedenko sits down with Alyson Zurek, who opens up about her tumultuous life marked by three marriages, a traumatic brain injury, and childhood trauma.

From early instability and maternal abandonment to overcoming abusive relationships and exploring emotional recovery, Alyson shares her story of resilience and healing.

She discusses how finding faith and joining supportive communities like Conquer helped her reclaim her life and peace of mind. The conversation serves as a powerful testament to the strength of the human spirit and offers hope for those in similar struggles.

• Leslie's Quick Start Guide: www.leslievernick.com/start
• Chris Moles' Website & Resources: https://www.chrismoles.org/

• Discussion on imbalance of theology related to suffering and authority
• Magnification of male headship and sacrifice over safety and protection of the oppressed
• Lack of focus on misuse and cautions of authority

• Constituted and delegated authority in the church
• Power comes with responsibility and accountability
• The church's duty to hold authority figures accountable for misuse

• Jesus' warnings against the misuse of authority
• Connection to domestic abuse involving various forms of power and control
• The church's slow response to addressing these abuses

• Biblical references to power under versus power over
• The role of accountability and honesty in theological commitments
• Expectation of servant leadership and its importance

• Finding hope and change through the gospel
• The focus on individual safety and sanity over marital restoration
• Importance of setting boundaries and personal growth for both partners

• Misuse of power and patterns of coercive behavior
• The importance of recognizing power dynamics in abuse
• Differentiating between isolated acts and ongoing patterns of control

• Acknowledgment of women's potential for abusive behavior
• Differences in power dynamics and impact between men and women
• Examples of women abusing power in certain contexts

• Encouraging nonviolent forms of resistance
• The significance of maintaining dignity and agency
• Practical advice on resisting control without escalating violence