Are you an avoidant? Are you married to one? If you're married to an avoidant, you're probably frustrated as all get out with them, unless you too are an avoidant? If you're an avoidant you might be wondering what all the fuss is about and why is everyone making such a big deal about it? So what, you avoid conflict and shy away from confrontation and intimacy, what's the issue? Well, today I've invited my good friend and expert Tyler Patrick to talk about his own avoidance and how he helps both men and women deal with avoidance and quite possibly the avoidance of their partner. The reality is, no one just wakes up one day and is avoidant. We learn to avoid. Some of us cope with life, pressures, pain, responsibility and intense emotions by avoiding. Often times we avoid because we had to growing up due to developmental trauma or outright abuse. We learned to avoid in an effort to make sense of our life or survive awful circumstances, pain and trauma. I'm certainly not making excuses to justify avoidance in our own life or our partners, but if we don't understand where avoidance comes from, how can we heal and find freedom? How can we move them or ourselves closer towards not only secure attachment but better communication in our most closest relationships? Today begins a journey into the heart and mind of the avoidant. I hope you find healing and insight into either your own avoidance or your partners. For more help reach out to samshealingpodcast@gmail.com.

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Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com.

For decades the 'inner child' has been a topic of confusion and misunderstanding as it relates to infidelity, problematic sexual behaviors and restoring both marriages and individuals. What actually is the inner child? Can I, an unfaithful, blame my inner child for my choices and affair(s)? Don't I have power over my own choices? Is the 'inner child' just an excuse for my affair or addiction? Today Dr. Eddie Capparucci and I discuss the answers to these questions while validating both the pain of the betrayed and the confusion of the unfaithful. I'm confident both unfaithful and betrayed partners alike will feel not only validated but safe by Eddie's heart and approach to both infidelity, trauma and long term sobriety. Eddie Capparucci, Ph.D., LPC, C-CSAS, CPCS, specializes in treating Problematic Sexual Behaviors including pornography. Among his many clients, have been professional athletes including NFL and MLB players and television personalities. Dr. Capparucci is the creator of the unique Inner Child Model for the treatment of Problematic Sexual Behaviors. Learn more at www.innerchild-sexaddiction.com. He believes at the heart of most Problematic Sexual Behaviors are unresolved childhood pain points.

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Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com.

Understanding 'the why' of the affair is vital for a variety of reasons including but not limited to relapse prevention, safety for the betrayed and long term healing for both parties. If an unfaithful doesn't know why they had an affair or acted our, how can they expect to prevent it from happening again in the future? How can they assure their partner they'll never do it again when they were never supposed to do it in the first place and still don't know how to prevent the same circumstances from happening which led to the affair or addiction? It's a common choice of the unfaithful to just want to 'put it behind us' only to realize our betrayed partners don't feel safe, don't want to be vulnerable and don't want to take our word for it that we have it all figured out and we just won't do it again. Discovering why we have affairs or addictions is critical to finding healing, safety and for those who struggle with addiction, sobriety. Without an understanding of why the affair happened outside of our own minds and reasonings, we're doomed to repeat the behavior and run the risk of losing our families or partners. Today, a frequent contributor and expert, Amanda Asproni comes into the podcast to share her clinical insight into why it's vital to know the why of the affair(s) and how both parties can do work to discover either their own or their partner's 'why' of the affair.

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Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com.