In this episode of Right From Wrong, I'm taking you on an incredibly personal journey alongside someone who has been instrumental in my path to redemption: Wendy, my probation officer from all those years ago. When my life was at its lowest point, Wendy stepped in to help me navigate the complexities of probation, the court system, and, most importantly, myself.

We'll be diving deep into the transformative period when I first met Wendy—shy, confused, and absolutely terrified—right through to the moment I decided to take part in restorative justice. Wendy's unwavering support, insight, and persistence have been pivotal in my journey from punishment to accountability and ultimately, to redemption.

We'll explore how Wendy played a critical role not just in keeping tabs on me during probation but in pushing me toward opportunities that fostered my growth. From suffering the bewilderment of pre-sentencing to facing the raw emotions of communicating with my victim's parents, every step was crucial, and Wendy was there through it all.

This episode is particularly special because it showcases the power of compassionate guidance and the ripple effect it can have on someone's life, emphasizing the human side of the justice system. Wendy and I reflect on those dark, uncertain times and celebrate the milestones that have shaped my life today.

Tune in to hear Wendy's perspective on how restorative justice can change lives and the emotional conversations that underpin the essence of true accountability. Whether you're curious about restorative justice, interested in stories of redemption, or simply in need of a bit of hope, this episode has something to offer.

Key Moments

00:01:43 Wendy’s Role and Initial Encounter. Jacob introduces Wendy as his probation officer and recalls the initial connection made through a family friend concerned about his wellbeing.

00:02:52 Wendy’s First Impressions of Jacob. Wendy describes Jacob’s demeanour when they first met—quiet, shy, and in a state of shock—and her attempt to explain the court process to him.

00:04:18 Pre-Sentencing Recommendations. Wendy details her recommendations to the judge, emphasising the importance of a minimal custodial sentence due to Jacob's age and personal circumstances.

00:05:40 Changes in Jacob During Prison. Wendy reflects on the changes in Jacob’s demeanour six months into his prison sentence, noting his shift towards a “hard man” survival mode.

00:06:57 Jacob’s Release on New Year’s Eve. Wendy shares her concerns about Jacob’s release date being New Year’s Eve, fearing he might celebrate excessively and potentially slip back into old habits.

00:07:41 Post-Prison Life and Housing Struggles. Jacob and Wendy discuss the challenges Jacob faced with unstable housing upon his release and her efforts to help him find stability.

00:10:00 Respect in the Wrong Context. Jacob talks about the misguided respect he received from his neighbourhood upon his release and the risks of slipping back into old behaviours.

00:11:00 Wendy’s Concerns and Support. Wendy emphasises the vulnerability of individuals transitioning out of prison, highlighting the importance of stability and her methods to support Jacob during this period.

00:12:02 Introduction to Restorative Justice. Wendy recalls receiving the initial call about restorative justice and being quite unfamiliar with the concept before Jacob’s case.

00:14:00 The Impact of David and Joan’s Letter. Wendy describes the emotionally charged moment when she and Jacob listened to the letter from the victim’s parents, a pivotal point in Jacob’s journey of accountability.

00:16:02 Engaging with Restorative Justice. Jacob...