In this episode, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, a licensed psychotherapist, best-selling author, and researcher shares her insight on shameless parenting and our ability to heal while we learn alongside our kids.

Dr. Tina and I dig into how sexual shame impacts our ability to form secure attachments and relationships. She shares her experience as a professor and noticing the shift as the first wave of "purity culture" took on a different narrative that was harmful to the students she was teaching.

One of my favorite books, Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy was powerful in helping me understand how and why shame is rampant in our culture, but often hard to notice. And she has recently another book called, Shameless Parenting: How to Raise Confident, Shame free Kids and Heal Your Own Shame Too!

Dr. Sellers emphasizes the role of parents in fostering shame-free environments for their children, regardless of their family makeup. She encourages open conversations with teenagers, addressing myths and stereotypes about sex, and prioritizing connection and pleasure over obligation in relationships. Dr. Sellers emphasizes the importance of ongoing learning, dispelling myths, and staying on the path of personal growth to lead a fulfilling life.

Follow Dr. Sellers on Instagram at @DrTinaShameless

In this episode:

0:02:28 Dr. Tina Shermer Sellers bio

0:08:45 Healing Through Shameless Parenting

0:27:26 Importance of Social and Emotional Learning

0:32:51 Parenting Insights Beyond Traditional Family Structures

0:39:39 Embodying Sexuality for a Fulfilling Life

0:42:13 Connect with Dr. Tina on Instagram

0:42:37 Dr. Tina's Podcast Episodes

Although this will be my last episode, please stay in touch! Check out what I have going on @shannonhamaker on Instagram!

Also on my website: shannonhmaker.com will share the latest and greatest in my offerings through coaching and retreats.

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One of the most impactful experiences you can have in strengthening your partnership is the understanding of feminine and masculine energy. Most of us understand and embody masculine energy easily without having to think about it. It is the doing, going, and moving forward that most of us learn as valuable in our culture. We learn the social construct that productivity is valued and doing comes naturally to most.

But what does feminine energy look and FEEL like?

My co-facilitator and friend, Amanda Curry, and I speak from our experiences of why masculine and feminine energy is a powerful concept to understand. We share our moments of learning and how we continue to lean into this concept of “being” in our feminine energy.

Amanda Curry is a transformational coach for women who uses the power of somatics, inner child work, and breath to facilitate lasting change.

She has been a physical therapist for 12 years and in the self-development world for 15 but only started to support deeper levels in 2020.

Amanda is a wife of almost 15 years and a mother of two.

Amanda and I discuss personal growth, reflection, and the importance of inner work. We explore masculine and feminine energy, challenge societal expectations, and share our personal experiences. We address the issue of female partners feeling unsupported and offer insights and suggestions.

We also mention an upcoming couples retreat focused on effective communication and cultivating extraordinary relationships.

Reach out to us for coaching or workshop opportunities.

In this episode:

0:00:39 Reflecting on growth and partnership in the healing journey

0:03:10 The deeper transformation and tools in retreat work

0:06:46 Embracing vulnerability and facilitating deeper reflection

0:11:31 Embracing the balance of masculine and feminine energies

0:13:01 Discerning aligned masculinity from wounded masculinity

0:20:27 Embracing both feminine and masculine energies

0:23:17 The journey of balancing feminine and masculine energies

0:30:24 Couples retreat: extraordinary communication and support

0:32:07 Planting seeds of curiosity and compassion

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In this episode, we explore the world of non-monogamy with Dr. Joli Hamilton, a renowned relationship coach. We discuss the reasons why some choose open relationships, different approaches to non-monogamy, managing jealousy, setting agreements, repairing relationships, and providing valuable resources for further support couples in that space.

Tune in to gain insights and connect with Dr. Joli Hamilton for coaching and workshops.

In this podcast episode:

0:03:40 Dr. Joli's journey into the field of non-monogamy

0:09:56 Navigating polyamory with care

0:13:09 The two extremes of jumping into polyamory or hesitating

0:15:20 The need for negotiated and consensual relationships

0:17:29 Relationships require effort and willingness to embrace change

0:20:28 Embracing different needs and relationship dynamics

0:28:25 The complexity of envy and jealousy

0:30:55 Unpacking the narrative of jealousy

0:37:20 Setting boundaries and honoring agreements

0:39:24 Trusting yourself and holding integrity with agreements

0:41:39 Relationship check-ins and intentionality

0:45:09 Consequences and planning for repair

0:47:38 Graduating with a clear relationship choice

Find Dr. Joli Hamilton on:

Dr. Joli Hamilton's website - https://www.jolihamilton.com/

The Year Of Opening - https://theyearofopening.com/

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