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In this episode of Stepmum Space, Katie sits down with Tess — a woman living the complexities of stepfamily life from both sides. She’s a stepmum to three children, and her own child also has a stepmum, giving her a rare and deeply layered perspective.

Tess opens up about the emotional toll of trying to create the perfect blended family — the fairytale — while feeling unappreciated, rejected, and emotionally drained. From being the stricter household to hearing the constant echo of “My Mum Says…”, Tess shares what it’s like to give everything and still feel like it’s never enough.

This episode explores:

• The heartbreak of loving your partner but feeling rejected by his children
• The emotional weight of being the stricter house
• The pain of trying hard for your stepkids without recognition
• How to cope when your home feels dominated by talk of the biological mum
• Tess’s advice for staying grounded — including her mantra: “Find the funny” which reminds us that even in the hardest moments, humour can be a lifeline.

If you’re in the thick of it right now, this conversation is here to remind you: you’re not alone. You’re doing more than you know, and your efforts matter.

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Keywords:

Stepmum podcast, Blended family struggles, Stepfamily dynamics, Stepmum emotional support, Biological mum tension, Feeling unappreciated as a stepmum,

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In this heartfelt episode of Stepmum Space, I’m joined by Rosie—a woman who had her solo life beautifully sorted. The career, the home, the financial freedom… everything in place. But when love arrived, so did a whole new reality—one that included children she hadn’t planned for.

Rosie opens up about the emotional, practical, and relational shifts that come with stepping into a blended family. We explore what it means to redefine your identity, recalibrate your finances, and navigate the complexities of becoming a stepmum when that was never part of your original plan.

We also talk about one of the hardest parts of stepmum life: when the ex-partner refuses to acknowledge you, won’t accept your presence, or actively ignores your role. Rosie shares how that dynamic impacted her confidence, her relationship, and her ability to feel safe and respected in her own home.

This episode is especially powerful for anyone who’s transitioned from independent living into stepfamily life—and is trying to find their footing in a role that’s often misunderstood, unsupported, and emotionally loaded.

What We Cover:

• The emotional impact of suddenly having children in your life
• How to protect your identity and independence in a blended family
• Setting boundaries that support your wellbeing (even when others push back)
• Navigating finances and lifestyle changes when love comes with kids
• What to do when the ex refuses to acknowledge or accept you
• The importance of aligning with your partner on your role as a stepmum

3 Key Takeaways:

1. Keep your own identity—don’t lose the parts of you that existed before stepkids.
2. Keep doing what you love—your passions and routines still matter.
3. Define your role—and make sure you and your partner are on the same page.

This role can be beautiful, but it’s also complex. Without boundaries, it can consume you. And while not everyone will understand your limits—especially when you're being ignored or excluded—protecting your emotional and physical resources is essential.

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If this episode resonates and you’d like support with boundaries, identity, or any other part of stepmum life, I’d love to hear from you. 📧 Email me at katie@stepmumspace.com 🌐 Visit www.stepmumspace.com for coaching, resources, and community.

Huge thanks to Rosie for her honesty and courage. If you have a story you’d like to share on the podcast, please get in touch. This show exists because of women like you who are brave enough to speak up.

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In this episode, we hear from Katy—a stepmum whose journey began when she met a father of five through work. What followed was a life-changing experience filled with love, loyalty, and heartbreak.

Katy opens up about the emotional toll of parental alienation, the reality of family court proceedings, and the pain of being separated from stepchildren she’s grown to love. Her story is raw, honest, and deeply relatable for anyone navigating the complexities of stepfamily life.

We explore:

• What it’s like to support a partner through custody battles and alienation
• The emotional impact of not seeing all your stepchildren
• How Katy held space for her husband while protecting her own children’s wellbeing
• The tension between wanting a united family and feeling like the sacrifices aren’t shared
• Why stepmums often feel stuck between love, loyalty, and boundaries

Whether you’re dealing with high-conflict co-parenting, feeling unseen in your role as a stepmum, or simply trying to make sense of the emotional load—you’ll find something here that speaks to you.

If you’re a stepmum searching for support, advice, or just a reminder that you’re not alone—this episode is for you.

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