How to overcome the fear of failure or quitting...

What if failure didn’t exist? What if the implications of failure are just something we made up as humans?

What if we were put on earth to follow our hearts and our intuition and try lot’s and lot’s of different things?

What if there was no failure, there was only learning and growing?

On a coaching call yesterday, one of my Mastermind Members has finished what I call a season of purpose.

(She was feeling like she had failed, but we reframed it together) She started a new business 3 ½ years ago, went hard, put everything she had into it, and changed lives.

But it was the hardest years of her life and she gave up a LOT personally to keep it going.

There were some tough feelings of regret that surfaced.

But I asked her ‘Why would you want to erase all that learning and growing? You are perfectly set up for your next season of purpose.’

That’s right, we can have different seasons of purpose.

Meaning…there doesn’t have to be just one purpose that we spend our whole lives fulfilling or searching for.

We can have many different seasons of purpose and many different seasons of friendships.

She has had many people try to tell her ‘you’re in the tough part, you can’t quit now, keep going, you’ve got this!’

They mean well.

But what if there is no ‘quitting’?

What if there is just choosing something better?

There are so many made up rules about how we are supposed to live this life.

Really, we are only supposed to try one thing and stick to it no matter what?

We are supposed to finish the degree even if we start hating the subject?

We are supposed to stay with the person when our heart and soul are in agony?

Choosing is not quitting.

It’s okay to change our goals.

It’s okay to decide ‘this or something better.’

It’s okay to decide ‘I don’t want this anymore, I want that.’

And it’s also okay if we feel like we crashed and burned many times along the way.

It’s okay if the thing we were excited about, we are no longer excited about.

What if we were put here to try as many experiences as possible while being nice to our fellow humans and spreading the joy that only comes from following our hearts?

I have an entrepreneur friend whose goal is to make 1 Million a year…in profit.

She’s in her 40’s and has been at the game a while.

She is currently at about $500,000 profit per year and heading towards $750,000.

She was up till 2am the night before we talked, working.

We talked about this subject of ‘choosing isn’t quitting.’

She said ‘I feel like I make goals and then I quit before I achieve them.’

I said ‘choosing to change your goals isn’t quitting.’

‘And…what’s wrong with $500,000 per year?’

She told me about when she was making $300,000 per year…and how she only worked 1 ½ hours a day…and how happy she was…but then she got bored!

I love her story lol.

As entrepreneurs we often get bored with what we are doing.

And that’s okay, too.

But when we are seeking our next season of purpose, it’s important to not let the outside ideas and pressure in.

It’s important to not make our new goals based off of something that other people deem ‘cool.’

What do WE want?

What lights us up?

Currently, what lights me up is helping my entrepreneur friends with their businesses.

I love hearing about their businesses and I LOVE strategy.

But most of all I love listening to their hearts and peeling back the layers of ‘shoulds’ and ‘rules’, just like they do for me.