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TCMP: S1Ep4: Taking responsibility and saying sorry after an 'unconscious' episode
- 2019/08/18
- 再生時間： 25 分
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あらすじ・解説
It happened. I lost my sh*t. And I think it happens to all of us from time to time, especially if you have had to raise young kids. In that moment of unconscious behaviour I was like to myself: "Dude, you are acting like you father... not cool..." Not that my dad was not cool - but you know what I mean. When I flipped out I saw the look in my daughters eyes. That look was the same as the look I gave to my father when I was a boy and I know too well the feeling accompanying that look. Without thinking I was perpetuating the same behaviour that was imprinted on me as a child. This is basic programming. The honest 'trick'/'hack' or more appropriately 'approach' to manage these flare ups when they happen is to quickly acknowledge the error and to say 'sorry' - and mean it. The Gottman Institute (https://www.gottman.com) and their instagram feed (https://www.instagram.com/gottmaninstitute/) have some great resources worth checking out when it comes to this topic and how best to manage energies within the home. I don't have the answers and no-one is perfect however if we can be better than we were yesterday especially when it comes to raising kids - we collectively are then raising a more emotionally resilient and aware generation - and among all the worthy causes on this planet and in our lifetime, I think this is one of them. May the force be with you and hope that this finds you well. As always, peace and love. B.