EPISODE 58: Dating Advice: Should He Delete Photos Of His Ex?

It’s our monthly community episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast!

We kick things off with a hilarious dating story about an awkward, accidental belly-button encounter that broke the ice when a new girlfriend met her partner’s sister for the first time, followed by the loveliest feedback from a regular listener.

You'll also hear my advice on how to manage insecurities when it comes to a partner’s past relationships and how to keep things easy breezy when you start dating someone new.

Questions I answer:

• What do you think about partners having photos of exes on their social media or phone - should they delete them out of respect for their current partner?
• How do you stop yourself from future faking and keep things “easy breezy”?

Mentioned:

Mindset Shifts You Need to Make Around Dating

Am I Actually Delusional? The Rollercoaster of Modern Dating

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You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.

Resources

• The 9 Red Flags You Need to Stop Ignoring Immediately
• The Dating Debrief
• Attract on the Apps
• Loved Up
• The Breakup Bounce Back
• The Confidence Kit
• The Confidence Course

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EPISODE 57: The Reason I Stopped Looking At Their Social Media

I was swiping away on Hinge the other day when I was reminded of the thing that gives me the ick instantly....

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You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.

Resources

• The Dating Debrief
• Attract on the Apps
• Loved Up
• The Breakup Bounce Back
• The Confidence Kit
• The Confidence Course

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EPISODE 56: Watch Out: 7 Easy To Ignore Red Flags I'm No Longer Available For

Have you ever been on a date with someone and something’s just felt….off?

You can’t put your finger on it because it’s not an “in your face” red flag, but your intuition is telling you something isn’t quite right.

As you reflect on the date(s), you realise there were subtle red flags that’d be easy to miss had you not been working so hard on yourself…..

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I dive deep into the seven easy-to-ignore red flags I’m no longer tolerating in relationships. These red flags are subtle but crucial to recognise if we want to raise our relationship standards and avoid settling for the wrong person.

I share my personal experiences over the last year, reflecting on how I’ve become more attuned to these signs now that I'm in my 30s.

From how someone speaks about their ex to the effort they put into a relationship, this episode will help you identify red flags you might be overlooking and encourage you to trust your instincts when dating.

Here’s a brief overview of what we discuss:

1. Spotting subtle bitterness and resentment towards past partners

2. The significance of how someone talks about strangers or makes spiteful, unnecessary judgements

3. Recognising when someone's words don’t match their actions (even if it’s a “little” thing)

4. Understanding the importance of mutual effort in the early stages of dating

5. How a partner’s response to your boundaries reveals their true character and why you should walk away when they don’t respect you

6. The importance of honesty about lifestyle choices early on and knowing your deal breakers before you start dating

7. Why their reaction to your feelings matters and what it says about respect in the relationship

This episode offers practical insight for anyone striving to date more consciously and confidently.

Mentioned:

He Asked Me to Send Photos

Dating Advice: Is This Really a Red Flag?

The Confidence Course

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You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.

Resources

• The 9 Red Flags You Need to Stop Ignoring Immediately
• The Confidence Course

Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.

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EPISODE 55: How To Be Happy In Your Skin When Divorced In Your 30s

Back in the summer, I received a message on Instagram asking me “What would you suggest the best thing to do for someone who wants to find happiness in their own skin and not feel they need a girl's attention to feel confident and wanted?”.

This message came from someone who was going through a divorce and realised they had some work to do on themselves before they were ready to continue dating.

I had a lot to say in response to this so instead of typing out an essay, I recorded this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast. Tune in as I dive into the importance of self-validation, shifting perceptions of failure, and romanticising daily life to build inner happiness. The episode explores practical steps to rediscover joy, self-confidence and personal growth while navigating life post-divorce.

Here’s a peek at what we cover:

1. Acknowledging Attachment Issues: The importance of self-awareness in addressing attachment styles and emotional needs.

2. Shifting Perceptions of Failure: Redefining divorce and moving back home as part of life's journey, not a failure.

3. Romanticising Daily Life: Creating small moments of joy and practising gratitude to build daily happiness.

4. Building Self-Validation: Steps to shift from relying on external validation to becoming your own biggest cheerleader.

5. Self-Care and Confidence: How regular self-care activities contribute to mental and physical well-being.

6. Taking Action for Confidence: Challenging yourself by stepping out of your comfort zone to build self-assurance.

The episode offers a blend of empathy and practical tips to help you navigate post-divorce life and rediscover confidence in yourself.

Mentioned:

How to Be Confident in Yourself When Dating

The Confidence Course

Get Involved!

You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.

Resources

• Attract on the Apps
• Loved Up
• The Breakup Bounce Back
• The Confidence Kit
• The Confidence Course

Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.

Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram and TikTok.

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EPISODE 54: Single For 5 Years & Celebrating ONE YEAR Of The Podcast!

HAPPY ONE YEAR OF THE DATE WITH CONFIDENCE PODCAST!!

In this episode, I reflect on my personal journey through relationships, breakups and self-discovery. From overcoming codependency to setting healthy boundaries, I share some of the most transformative lessons I’ve learned while navigating love and loss over the past 5 years.

I open up about how fear of abandonment affected my past, the importance of respecting myself and why love alone isn’t always enough to sustain a relationship.

This episode is for anyone who’s ready to take ownership of their emotional well-being and create healthier relationship dynamics in their life.

Here’s a peek at what we discuss:

1. Codependency and Self-Worth: Recognising how my happiness depended on someone else and reclaiming my self-worth

2. Fear of Speaking Up: How fear of abandonment silenced me and the power I found in voicing my truth

3. Setting Boundaries: Learning to stick to my boundaries without fear of being left, and walking away when my boundaries aren’t respected

4. Why Love Isn't Always Enough: Understanding that love alone doesn’t guarantee a healthy relationship

5. Embracing Self-Respect: Prioritising my own well-being and learning to respect myself in love

6. Moving on with Peace: Letting go of resentment and looking back at my relationship with gratitude and acceptance

7. Trusting in My Own Timeline: Finding peace in my own journey and trusting that everything will unfold in the right time

Tune in to hear my raw reflections on love, healing, and creating a future rooted in self-love.

CELEBRATE ONE YEAR OF THE DATE WITH CONFIDENCE PODCAST!

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Mentioned:

I Know What I Deserve Now

The Nose Picker Date Story

Weird Comments I’ve Received on Hinge

This Simple Concept Will Help You Date with Confidence

Get Involved!

You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.

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EPISODE 53: Dating Advice: He Hasn't Said “I Love You” Yet

We’re back baby!!

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I take a deep dive into my recent experiences with dating and how they've made me reflect on my own values, self-awareness and boundaries. After ending a ‘relationship’ with someone whose views didn't align with mine, I took some time off from dating to process everything. I talk about the subtle red flags I’ve learned to recognise and how my 30-something self is more attuned to what I truly want in a partner.

I also share some recent dating stories, including a date that went well but ended without any follow-up. While I acknowledge that I have high standards, I'm unapologetic about them—I want someone who's certain about me. I reflect on a missed connection where someone was uncomfortable with my work, but I see that as a sign they may not have been the right fit.

After a not-so-quick catch up, I also answer your questions about dating anxiety, discussing how to let go of insecurities and focus on self-worth in relationships.

Questions I answer:

• How do I let go of being hyper anxious before it ruins what could be an amazing relationship?
• I’ve been dating someone for 3 months and have already deleted my dating apps but he still has his on his phone - how do I talk to him about it?
• We’ve been dating for 9/10 months now but he hasn’t said “I love you” - surely he should know by now?

Our community episodes happen on the second week of every month. Want to get involved? You can contribute your stories to The Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.

CELEBRATE ONE YEAR OF THE DATE WITH CONFIDENCE PODCAST!

From now until 1st October, save 50% on any of the resources here when you enter code DWCCELEBRATE

Mentioned:

Interview on The Remote Life Podcast: iTunes / Spotify / YouTube

Am I Delusional?!

Resources

• Attract on the Apps
• Loved Up
• The Breakup Bounce Back
• The Confidence Course

Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.

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EPISODE 52: We Need to Talk

There's some things we need to catch up about....

Resources Mentioned:

Manifest The One

The 9 Red Flags You Need to Stop Ignoring Immediately

Heal Your Heart: Powerful Journalling for Breakup Grief

The reel I was talking about

Get Involved!

You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.

Resources

• The 9 Red Flags You Need to Stop Ignoring Immediately
• The Dating Debrief
• Attract on the Apps
• Loved Up
• Level Up In Love
• The Breakup Bounce Back
• The Confidence Kit
• The Confidence Course

Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.

Follow The Date with Confidence Podcast on Instagram + follow your host Rebecca Hawkes here.

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EPISODE 51: If I Wanted to Fall in Love, This is What I'd Do

This video was shared on my YouTube channel in February and I thought it'd be something you'd benefit from listening to too so here ya go....

After 4 years of being single, I'm ready to fall in love again. In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I talk about my commitment to intentional dating with the goal of finding a meaningful relationship and I reveal the key steps I'm taking, the challenges I'm facing and the transformative lessons I'm learning on the path to love.

Here's a glimpse at what we cover:

1. Falling in Love with Yourself: The foundational step in any relationship journey is cultivating self-love. Learn why loving and accepting yourself is crucial before seeking love from others.

2. Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone: Uncover the importance of putting yourself out there, even when it feels uncomfortable or daunting. Gain insights into building confidence and navigating the world of dating apps.

3. Building Trust in the Process: Explore the significance of trusting that your dream relationship is not only possible but also on its way. Discover practical tips for shifting your mindset and creating a positive, magnetic energy.

4. Setting Standards and Boundaries: Understand the power of writing a wish list and defining your standards and expectations. Learn how these lists act as guiding principles, helping you avoid settling for less than you deserve.

5. Manifestation Practices: Delve into two powerful manifestation practices and understand how these practices align your energy with your desired relationship, making you more open to love.

Join me in this honest and empowering discussion about self-discovery, growth and the pursuit of a love that aligns with your highest self. If you're on a similar journey or seeking guidance in your relationship pursuits, this is for you!

Episodes Mentioned:

How to Manifest 'The One'

Your Dream Relationship Exists: Here's How to Believe In It

Get Involved!

You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.

Resources

• The 9 Red Flags You Need to Stop Ignoring Immediately
• The Dating Debrief
• Attract on the Apps
• The Breakup Bounce Back
• The Confidence Kit
• The Confidence Course

Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.