Why is anger so rampant? What if you could stop anger in your relationships? What would that be worth to you? Think of the possibilities. Greater happiness. Less divorce. Fewer kids growing up in single family homes. More functional adults. Greater productivity. What if we could stop anger in its tracks? Join Dr. John in this eye-opening talk with Rod Jeter, the creator of WBAngry and find out!

About Dr. John’s Guest:

Rod Jeter is a navy veteran and married father of 5 adult children. His career spans from real estate broker to entrepreneur, and he has a master’s degree in software engineering. Married for 12 years, Rod and his wife were kicked out of marriage counseling on the fifth of what was supposed to be twelve sessions. It was according to Rod, his doing, nevertheless, he was moved to find a way to help couples see results faster than traditional counseling. Rod created a game to help couples resolve their disagreements in just minutes. Rod’s goal is to create happier homes and help as many couples as possible solve conflicts and disagreements with less drama and more fun through the YBAngry relationship tool. https://ybangry.com.

Welcome to The Evolved Caveman Podcast. In this episode we tackle what it truly takes to build and maintain a happy, thriving relationship. Whether you’re in the honeymoon phase or navigating the ups and downs of long-term commitment, this show is for anyone looking to deepen their connection with their partner and cultivate lasting joy.

We often hear that love is a feeling, but a great relationship goes beyond emotions—it’s built on trust, communication, respect, and a willingness to grow together. In this podcast, we’ll dive into the real-life strategies, habits, and mindsets that couples use to keep their relationships strong. From overcoming conflict to nurturing intimacy and balancing personal growth with partnership, we’ll uncover the keys to sustaining love over the long haul.

So, whether you’re tuning in with your partner or on your own, join Joree Rose, LMFT, & Dr. John Schinnerer as they explore what it really takes to not just survive—but thrive—together.

And tune in for the premiere episode of our new podcast, Love Isn’t Enough which drops tomorrow on all major podcasting platforms. It’s all you need to know to create the happy, thriving relationship you so richly deserve!

Millions of men are tired of the way in which MAGA Republicans have defined masculinity in the traditional, restrictive fashion - emphasizing the “hard” side of men and shaming the “soft” side. This includes prioritizing independence over interdependence, thinking over feeling, autonomy over connection, and emotional suppression over vulnerability. The old view is “power over” others rather than “power with”. The old view is to exert control over women which is demonstrated by MAGA’s views on abortion and birth control.

The solution is not to prioritize the hard side of masculinity over the soft side. Nor is it to prioritize the soft side over the hard side. The solution is to create a climate which values all sides of masculinity (or even better, humanity!), so that we may bring the best aspects of ourselves to any situation as needed. The solution is to stop shaming men when they feel natural, healthy human emotions (think of how Gus Walz was treated when he displayed love, connection and pride over his father at the DNC).

What is the Man Box? It’s the rules you absorbed as a boy about what it means to be a “real man”; rules that have made you emotionally constipated, caused conflict in your romantic relationship, encouraged you to chase material things, and caught up in a hyper-competitive rat race. The rules include such classics as be tough, hide your feelings, dominate women, be self-reliant, don’t be feminine, and don’t be homosexual.

Research shows that this restrictive, tired view of masculinity has negative effects on us. The more we subscribe to traditional Man Box beliefs, the lower our self-esteem (Cournoyer & Mahalik, 1995), the more difficulties we have in romantic relationships and friendships (Fischer & Good, 1997; Sharpe & Heppner, 1991), the more we act in violence (Franchina, Eisler, & Moore, 2001), and the more depressed and anxious we feel (Cournoyer & Mahalik, 1995; Hayes & Mahalik, 2000).

Join Dr. John Schinnerer and Mark Greene in a fascinating conversation about the Man Box culture, and how it’s playing out in politics right now. The solution is not to flip the script so that we overvalue the soft aspects of men over the harder aspects. The goal is to honor both the hard and the soft sides of our humanity equally. It’s giving men permission to tap into all aspects of their humanity so that they are comfortable bringing the best parts of themselves to a particular situation.

This is not a problem at an individual level. It is a cultural issue, a culture in which the full spectrum of our humanity has yet to be valued fully. The thing I love about the Man Box idea is that none of this is your fault. You didn’t ask to be socialized like this. You had no control over it. It just happens. So keep in mind that while this is not your fault, it is your responsibility to evolve beyond the Man Box. And that’s what we are seeking to do in this election, discover more ways to evolve our masculinity.

About Dr. John’s Esteemed Guest, Mark Greene:

Mark Greene works to engage men in creating diverse, equitable, and inclusive workplace cultures. Co-Author with Dr. Saliha Bava of The Relational Workplace. Mark works with organizations and individuals to overcome the challenges created by retrogressive workplace cultures through his Man Box Choice Point trainings.

Mark is the author of The Little #MeToo Book for Men, Remaking Manhood, and co-author, along with Dr. Saliha Bava, of the Relational Book for Parenting. Mark's newest book, co-authored with Dr. Bava, is The Relational Workplace. Available now: https://a.co/d/1PcuEsn

Mark is co-host of Remaking Manhood, the Healthy Masculinity Podcast. All of Remaking Manhood’s healthy masculinity resources are here: https://linktr.ee/RemakingManhood

When I went through divorce after a 16 year marriage, I was devastated, depressed and angry. My ex-wife (unnecessarily) initiated litigation that lasted 3.5 years and cost hundreds of thousands of dollars in legal fees. It took me months, if not years, to fully recover, both emotionally and financially. So how can we do divorce better? How do we recover more quickly? How do we bounce forward with greater energy and purpose? How do we begin to trust the other sex after an ex has treated us poorly (in a variety of ways) for years? Tune in to find out.

About Dr. John’s Guest, Nigel Smart:

Nigel is a serial entrepreneur that has spent a large part of his career building high performance systems in both operating and consulting companies. He holds multiple degrees including his Ph.D. in biochemical sciences from Manchester University. He has established several companies including his current venture which assists industry in establishing systems and leadership for high performance results. His goal is to find elegant solutions that define a different path.

As an International speaker he uses stories around his personal and professional experiences to drive new approaches and strategies to develop new levels of success.

As a second career he has written a best selling book entitled Bouncing Back From Divorce With Vitality & Purpose; A Strategy for Dads, and coaches fathers emerging from divorce to regain their self respect and rebuild their lives to once more be productive members of society and their families.

It’s time to check back in with one of my favorite guys doing men’s work - Alex Terranova. Alex just published a book of the top 100 things he’s learned in doing over 500 podcasts and was kind enough to include me in it! But the book barely gets a mention as there are so may other things to discuss. How does a “recovering asshole” come to be a reputed men’s coach and Coach of the Year? How do we evolve as men? What are Alex’s men’s retreats like? Is there one best version of masculinity towards which we are all striving?

About My Esteemed Guest and Good Friend:

Alex Terranova is an Executive and Leadership Coach, Performance and Success Alchemist, and Sacred Guide for men. Alex's training and essence are steeped in ontological principles, which focus on the nature of being and reality, ancient rituals that promote personal growth and transformation, integrity that underpins all his actions, and somatic practices that involve the integration of mind and body for holistic healing and expansion.

With a commitment to love and support and a willingness to tell the hard truth, Alex Terranova fearlessly guides individuals and organizations to transcend mental barriers and unlock their boundless potential. His transformative coaching has led to tangible results, such as businesses growing from 6 to 7 figures, healed relationships, improved parenting, reduced employee turnover, and enhanced happiness, peace, job satisfaction, relationships, and overall life fulfillment.

Alex's coaching is a unique blend of integrity, boldness, trust, and love. His expertise spans a wide spectrum, from Business Coaching for owners and leaders striving to grow sales and scale their companies to Mindset and

Performance Coaching for athletes seeking high level results to Leadership Coaching for those aiming to elevate every aspect of their lives. His clients share a common desire to grow, improve, succeed, and deepen their relationships. Alex's unique approach, grounded in integrity, boldness, trust, and love, empowers his clients to thrive in all aspects of their lives.

Alex's journey towards mastery began in 2015 when he was certified by the esteemed Accomplishment Coaching. His relentless pursuit of excellence led him to earn his PCC, Professional Certified Coach Certification from the International Coach Federation, and his MPM, Mental Performance Mastery Certification from Top Mental & Peak Performance Coach Brian Cain. He has trained and worked with Shamans, Indigenous Leaders, and Psychological and Spiritual Leaders from Eastern and Western Traditions. Recognized by Yahoo Finance as 'The Anti-Excuses Coach,' and MSN, who called the Alchemy of Men Retreat "Best Retreats for Men 2024,"

Alex Terranova is a trusted authority in his field. Through one-on-one and Corporate Coaching, as well as leading Retreats, he has transformed the lives of hundreds of people. He has also trained over 100 other coaches, led men's groups, hosted a top 2% podcast, authored best-selling books, and spoken internationally.

Where to reach Alex Terranova:

AlexTerranovaCoaching.com

For more on Alex’s upcoming Men’s Retreats:

AlchemyOfMenRetreat.com

Love isn’t enough for a thriving relationship. That’s merely the starting point. What do you do when life gets in the way? When things get stressful? How do you keep your relationship positive when you are pushed and pulled on all sides?

Join me, Dr. John, and my partner Joree Rose as we discuss the best tools we know of to maintain that positive, supportive, loving feeling in your relationship.

These most powerful tools are backed by science and include:

The softened start up

Validating your partner’s feelings

Listen, fix, hug?

Invitation, request, demand framework of communication

Curiosity and compassion

Non-violent communication

Nonjudgmental listening

And more!

By the end of this podcast, you'll have a more thorough understanding of 8 new tools which you can begin to practice today to improve the emotional connection of your romantic relationship. These proven tools are invaluable. After all, you’re only as happy as you are in your relationship! Join us as we guide you up the path to a healthier, happier partnership.

Find out more about our monthly Master Class on Relationships and about our couples coaching packages at LoveIsntEnough.net.

One of the biggest factors in a happy, thriving life is meaning. Knowing your ‘why’, you can get through any ‘how.’ This show was previously aired in 2022, however it’s one of my all-time favorite episodes as the content is simple, actionable & significant.

Topics covered…

Why is meaning so important for us?

How do you discover your meaning in life?

Are there individual differences in terms of how much we need meaning?

Why is it important to be aware of your core beliefs or ‘givens'?

What are the 3 levels of core beliefs?

How do you identify your core beliefs?

Which core beliefs serve us best for success? For happiness?

Bio:

Dr. Michael F. Steger is Professor of Psychology and the Director for the Center for Meaning and Purpose at Colorado State University. He is an internationally recognized authority on the benefits of finding meaning in one’s life and in one’s work. Dr. Steger is a sought after speaker and enjoys providing keynotes, workshops, and retreats around the world on topics ranging from meaning and purpose, flourishing at work, positive education, effective leadership, expanding clinical practice by incorporating meaning and purpose assessment and interventions. He is the developer of the most widely-used measures of meaning and purpose in the world, including the Meaning in Life Questionnaire and the Work and Meaning Inventory. He has written three books, including Designing Positive Psychology, Purpose and Meaning in the Workplace, and the Handbook of Positivity and Strengths-Based Approaches at Work. Dr. Steger offers a number of online courses on elevating success in work and life, including his newest course, Meaning in the Moment, taught through the Wholebeing Institute.

Here is the course description of Meaning in the Moment…

Crafting a meaningful life doesn’t have to be a philosophical chore, it can be lived one vivid and enjoyable moment at a time. This on-demand online course is focused on practical exercises that help people use the power of now to create lives rich in meaning. Each session offers two or more exercises that you can learn to use one at a time, in an array of combinations, and even all together in a coherent program on meaning in the moment. Mike shows how people can get unstuck and move forward with a lighter heart toward greater meaning and purpose.

https://wholebeinginstitute.com/meaning-in-the-moment/

"The biggest barrier to success is not that others are unwilling to give but that we are afraid to ask.” - Adam Grant, NY Times bestselling author

I love it when, the most powerful ideas are the simplest. Find out how you can begin to master the one tool that stands between you and your success: the ability to ask for what you need to succeed and be happy.

The Man Box culture teaches the value of self-reliance. 85% of Americans agree that “I would rather depend on myself than others.” But, as always, you can take things too far. If you don’t ask for advice, you may miss out on valuable opportunities. Failure to seek early treatment for depression and/or anxiety prolongs the length of the issue. And trying to do it all can lead to stress and burnout.

Discover what keeps you from asking for what you need and how to get better at this invaluable skill.

Dr. Wayne E. Baker

Wayne Baker is the author of the book All You Have To Do Is Ask, and the Robert P. Thome (“Toe-May”) Professor of Business Administration and Professor of Management & Organizations at the University of Michigan Ross School of Business. He currently serves as Faculty Director of the Center for Positive Organizations. His teaching and research focus on social capital, social networks, generosity, positive organizational scholarship, and values. His management and leadership articles appear in venues such as Harvard Business Review, Chief Executive Magazine, and Sloan Management Review. He puts his knowledge into practice as a frequent guest speaker, management consultant, and as an advisor and board member of Give and Take Inc., developers of the Givitas collaborative technology platform. He has won various awards, including the Senior Faculty Research Award from the Ross School of Business and the Best Article Published in 2014 – 2016 from the American Sociological Association Section on Altruism, Morality, and Social Solidarity.