The Marriage Habit

著者: The Marriage Habit | Jonah Jeremiah
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  • This podcast is based on 40 habits found in The Marriage Habit. You can read about them in https://theMarriageHabit.com

    If you want to ask a question that can be answered in the Podcast, just use the Podcast Reviews to post your question. It's easier (but please make it a good review, otherwise, Apple will likely hide the podcast and my episodes).

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This podcast is based on 40 habits found in The Marriage Habit. You can read about them in https://theMarriageHabit.com

If you want to ask a question that can be answered in the Podcast, just use the Podcast Reviews to post your question. It's easier (but please make it a good review, otherwise, Apple will likely hide the podcast and my episodes).

2023 The Marriage Habit, LLC
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  • control: the hidden dynamic of all marriages
    2023/10/04

    The default area most therapist and counselors will guide couples on is communication. This is wrong. Not because communication isn't important, because it is. But communication is not the root. What needs to be discussed from a Biblical perspective is control. This episode we'll talk about the nature of its root and why it is a prevalent challenge, and how to address it.

    The default area most therapist and counselors will guide couples on is communication. This is wrong. Not because communication isn't important, because it is. But communication is not the root. What needs to be discussed from a Biblical perspective is control. This episode we'll talk about the nature of its root and why it is a prevalent challenge, and how to address it.



    16 To the woman he said,


    “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe;

    with painful labor you will give birth to children.d

    Your desire will be for your husband,

    and he will rule over you.e” Genesis 3:16 NIV



    16 To the woman he said,


    “I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing;

    iin pain you shall bring forth children.

    jYour desire shall be contrary to6 your husband,

    but he shall krule over you.” Genesis 3:16 ESV



    16 Then he said to the woman,


    “I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy,

    and in pain you will give birth.

    And you will desire to control your husband,

    but he will rule over you.* ” Genesis 3:16 NLT


    You will be accepted if you do what is right. But if you refuse to do what is right, then watch out! Sin is crouching at the door, eager to control you. But you must subdue it and be its master.” 


    Tyndale House Publishers, Holy Bible: New Living Translation (Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 2015), Ge 4:7.



    The Marriage Habit

    This podcast introduces you and your spouse to the concept of the Marriage Habit. 


    It's intended to be listened to by both parties in your marriage. And the best time to start was the day you get married.


    The second best time: now!


    You can read about my habits and the devotionals online:


    https://themarriagehabit.com


    Steps you can take:


    1. Subscribe to the podcast - constant, regular content shows your priorities!
    2. Subscribe to my emails - go to https://themarriagehabit.com and subscribe to get valuable reminders today that can save your from thousands of dollars in the future in therapy!
    3. Ask a question! Right now, till I can make a better app (which is coming), ask your question by giving me a rating!  I get notified of it and can answer those questions in the next episode!
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    24 分
  • Ep 14: The Marriage Habit - Shared Accountability
    2023/10/04

    The culture isn't comfortable with shared accountability. But the Christian life is marked by it. Learn how it is missing in most marriages, the impact of missing this critical element, and how we can address it.

    What is shared accountability?

    It's owning all of what you own together. It's owning all of your stuff, all of it, and by stuff, I don't mean the material: I mean the behavioral and the outcomes. It's owning together all of the other person's stuff to the degree you can do anything about it without controlling the other person. It will include the difficult task of owning how your actions may have contributed, not caused, but contributed to the other person's actions. And the other person owning, even if there was huge contribution by the other person, their own actions.


    What threatens it?

    I go back to the therapeutic model which has made its way into the church, and if you want to learn more, go to those episodes. It's highly important to understand that traditional, modern therapy, even that exercised by the church, to restore marriages will likely make it worse, and certainly will not lead you to a stronger foundation on the Truth of the Gospel.


    Accountability is not evenly distributed in society, in the family, in most cultures.


    The scope of accountability differs and it leads to control. If you are a wife, as an example, and you consider your scope of responsibility, as it often is, to ensuring the kids are healthy, surviving, the house is organized -- you can often criticize the man for not meeting those standards of these seen areas of accountability; a man's area of accountability is to wrestle with the world to face the challenges of work and acceptance and financial stability and spiritual leadership, and those are unseen powers. He will be criticized for the internal scope; criticized for the lack of fruit of the unseen scope not knowing what's going on; and criticized for not giving a Westernized and corrupted sense of "love" to the woman in exchange for shame and criticism.


    The man's scope is protect and provide and lead into the unknown, and that scope does need to be taken on, but accountability turns into criticism and control very quickly because a) it's not shared; b) not fully understood; c) not seen.


    What are examples?

    - Wife breaks down emotionally, raising her voice, getting angry, insulting, in a session, but the therapist turns to the man and asks what do you think about these tears; and asks the wife, what's behind all of this? But leaves it, as if the heightened emotions, alone, are the truth.

    - Wife wants caring, nurturing, gifts, affections, all her tasks done -- but doesn't own the mound of criticism that has preceded the withdrawal. Doesn't see the lack of respect in even very basic communication.

    - Wife only sees the man getting defensive, but not owning that he's defensive because she is, in fact, in attack mode, in shaming mode, in blaming mode, as opposed to seeking help mode, or desiring support mode.



    Scripture

    "Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ." - Galatians 6:2


    "Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye." - Matthew 7:3-5

    "Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working." - James 5:16

    "Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep." - Romans 12:5

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    22 分
  • The Boiling Frog - Why Every Marriage Needs a Habit!
    2023/06/26

    Your marriage is constantly put under the pressure of a pot of boiling water. 

    Frogs that stay there...well, you know what happens. 

    The solution? 

    Regularly, constantly, pouring fresh cool water into the pot. That's what a Marriage Habit is. But most people don't like habits...so listen in to get into the mode!

    The Marriage Habit

    This podcast introduces you and your spouse to the concept of the Marriage Habit. 


    It's intended to be listened to by both parties in your marriage. And the best time to start was the day you get married.


    The second best time: now!


    You can read about my habits and the devotionals online:


    https://themarriagehabit.com


    Steps you can take:


    1. Subscribe to the podcast - constant, regular content shows your priorities!
    2. Subscribe to my emails - go to https://themarriagehabit.com and subscribe to get valuable reminders today that can save your from thousands of dollars in the future in therapy!
    3. Ask a question! Right now, till I can make a better app (which is coming), ask your question by giving me a rating!  I get notified of it and can answer those questions in the next episode!
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    4 分

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