Why You Keep Self-Sabotaging Your Health Goals (And How to Finally Stop)

Ever catch yourself thinking, “I know what to do... so why aren’t I doing it?”

You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. And this isn’t about willpower.
This episode of The Menopause Method is your midlife brain’s wake-up call.

🎙 In this episode, Cam Allen reveals:

• Why self-sabotage in midlife is actually self-protection
• How the unconscious mind keeps you stuck in familiar patterns
• The real reason motivation fades (hint: it’s not your fault)
• Simple NLP-based reframes to shift your story and your results
• Why behavior follows identity—and how to change both gently
• How to finally get consistent without more pressure or perfection

Whether you’re navigating perimenopause, postmenopause, or just feel like your spark has turned into a flicker—this one’s for you.

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🧠 This episode is packed with mindset shifts, nervous system wisdom, and language upgrades that actually work for midlife women.

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We'll cover:

1. Why ‘sabotage’ is actually your brain’s outdated safety system.That block you keep running into? It’s not laziness — it’s biology. Your brain is efficient, always choosing familiar (even uncomfortable familiar) over the unknown.
2. Why your old willpower tricks don’t work anymore. Shaming yourself or trying to “just do it” doesn’t calm your nervous system — and that’s exactly what you need as you move through and beyond menopause.
3. How to reframe your inner dialogue to become your own cheerleader. Instead of “I always quit,” try “I haven’t found a rhythm that supports me yet.” The words you use with yourself aren’t just fluff — they’re instructions to your body and mind, especially in midlife.
   
   

Key Takeaways:

• Self-sabotage is often actually self-protection, not a personal flaw.
• Your brain prioritizes safety and the familiar over your goals, especially in midlife.
• Willpower and shame-based motivation don't work for long-term health changes after menopause.
• Reframing your thoughts and language can help shift your habits and outcomes.
• Hormonal changes in menopause affect stress and stored hormones, making past strategies less effective.
• Small, compassionate steps lead to real change—start with micro moves, not grand gestures.
• Your identity creates momentum; embracing new self-talk can anchor lasting behavior shifts.

Chapters:
00:00 Rethink Motivation for Post-Menopause
04:13 Rewire Thoughts Through Reframing
07:26 Rediscover Leadership: Embrace Change

Feel like you’re stuck in midlife no matter how hard you try?
It’s not a motivation problem — it’s the story you’re telling yourself.

In this episode of The Menopause Method, Cam Allen breaks down how your unconscious mind is following old scripts—and how to finally rewrite the story to create new energy, motivation, and results in midlife.

You’ll learn:
• Why self-sabotage really happens (hint: it’s not your fault)
• How your unconscious mind takes your words as literal instructions
• How to shift your inner story without toxic positivity
• The tiny language upgrades that can change everything

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Key Takeaways:

• Your unconscious mind runs 95% of your thoughts and actions—old stories might be driving your habits.
• The words you use matter; your brain believes what you tell it, so self-talk shapes your results.
• Motivation isn’t the problem—your underlying stories are. Change your story, and your actions follow.
• The unconscious mind responds best to clear, positive, and specific directions (not shame or vague goals).
• Self-sabotage is often just your brain trying to protect you based on outdated beliefs.
• Reframing negative thoughts into gentle, believable upgrades creates real changes over time.
• Awaken your midlife potential by becoming aware of old patterns, questioning them, and writing a new story for your next chapter.
  
  

Chapters:
00:00 Emotions Drive the Unconscious
04:58 NLP as Health Coaching Tool
08:20 Questioning Beliefs for Self-Growth
11:05 Emotions: Key to Positive Rewiring
13:33 Overcoming Challenges with Mindset

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If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, “This is just how I am now,” or “I never stick to anything,” this episode is for you.

In this episode of The Menopause Method, I’m diving into the words we use—out loud and in our heads—and how those words are shaping our energy, motivation, and even our physical body in midlife. You’ll learn how your self-talk programs your nervous system, impacts your health, and how to shift it without toxic positivity or fake affirmations.

We'll cover:

1. Your Words Are More Than Just Thoughts
   The way you talk to yourself actually becomes an instruction manual for your nervous system—and your body listens!
2. How Childhood Programming (and Diet Culture!) Might Be Running the Show
   We dive into why old self-talk patterns pop up now, and how to lovingly update them.
3. Simple Reframes That Change Everything
   Discover small language shifts you can use right away—no “fake” affirmations needed—to create energy, motivation, and self-acceptance.

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Key Takeaways:

• The words you use to describe yourself can shape your midlife experience—your self-talk becomes instructions for your body and mind.
• “I’ll try” and negative self-beliefs often signal unconscious self-sabotage; swap them for more accurate, supportive statements.
• Our common beliefs about aging, body changes, and motivation are often old programming picked up from childhood and culture—these narratives are changeable!
• Reframing your thoughts with curiosity, rather than criticism, opens the door to better self-understanding and more positive outcomes in menopause.
• Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) techniques can help you shift unhelpful self-talk and transform your results in midlife and menopause.
• Your stress and frustration don’t just feel bad—they can literally affect your hormones, cravings, and even your blood sugar.
• Simple practices—like questioning whether your self-talk is creating the “you” you want to become—can have a big impact on your well-being and results.

Chapters:

00:00 Dallas Trip & NLP Insights
03:10 Navigating Midlife Changes
07:36 Embracing Change and Self-Discovery
11:51 Transformative Self-Talk Practice
13:08 Words Shape Your Body

Have you ever had one of those days where part of you is all set to jump into a workout and feel unstoppable, while the other part is whispering sweet nothings about taking a nap and enjoying a glass of wine? Yeah, we’ve all been there, right? Discover how Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) transformed my inner conflict into clarity and confidence during midlife. If you're a woman juggling roles, emotions, and expectations—this one’s for you. Let’s talk real solutions for real midlife struggles.

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We'll Cover:

1. Understanding Parts Work: You'll learn about the concept of parts in our minds, especially when you find yourself torn between two decisions or thoughts, like wanting to be active versus needing rest. This episode explains how those parts are just different ways your brain is looking out for you.
2. NLP and Rewiring: Cam shares how Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) can help rewire your brain and change old patterns, particularly those that might have been developed at a very young age, so you can achieve the results you desire in midlife.
3. New Perspective on Fitness: There's a refreshing take on fitness, where it's not about long, intense workouts. Cam introduces the idea of "menopause minis," short, effective workouts, showing how fitness can be flexible and still beneficial, especially during menopause.

Key Takeaways:

1. Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) can help rewire midlife mindset by addressing conflicting desires and parts.
2. Parts work involves recognizing and integrating conflicting desires for better balance and peace.
3. Journaling about your conflicting parts can reveal what both sides are trying to achieve for you.
4. Rest and recovery are crucial components of midlife fitness, countering the old belief of constant high effort.
5. Consistent short workouts, like 10-minute strength sessions, can effectively replace longer, more intense workouts.
6. Shifting from a battle between desires to cooperation between parts leads to a happier and calmer midlife experience.
7. Challenge yourself to identify and reconcile your conflicting parts to better understand your needs and motivations.

Chapters:

00:00 What it feels like to be pulled in two directions in midlife
01:15 The emotional tug-of-war that made me seek change
02:45 What it is and how it caught my attention
04:10 Real shifts I experienced and how it helped me feel whole again
06:00 Simple techniques to start your mindset makeover
07:30 A Message for Midlife Women

As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts! Shoot me a message over on Instagram @heymomma_cam and let me know which part of this episode resonated with you. Did you manage to reconcile your parts?

Remember, you’re not alone in this. By sharing this podcast, you’re helping others on their menopause journey too. Subscribe, like, and share – let’s spread the word and make sure no one feels confused or alone.


Thanks for listening!

Making Midlife Marvelous!

Cam Allen

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In this episode of The Menopause Method, Cam Allen takes you behind the scenes of her suitcase to share how she packs with intention for travel. From hormone support to portable workout gear and essential self-care items, Cam’s holistic approach ensures her health habits don’t get left behind at home. Whether it’s a weekend getaway or a longer trip, she explains how movement, nutrition, and self-care anchor her wellness — no matter the location. A must-listen for midlife women who want to feel amazing on the go.

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We'll Cover:

1. Practical Travel Packing Tips: Cam shares a comprehensive list of her must-have items for staying healthy and maintaining her routines while traveling during menopause. This includes essentials like comfortable walking shoes, resistance bands, and her body weight workout plan.
2. Importance of Consistency with Hormones and Supplements: Cam emphasizes the significance of keeping up with her hormone patches, supplements, and how these play a crucial role in maintaining her well-being while on the go. She dives into her routine, which includes bioidentical hormones and supplements like collagen and creatine.
3. Self-Care Routines to Incorporate While Traveling: Cam talks about the self-care practices she sticks to during her travels, such as using yoga toes, gua sha tools, and the Insight Timer app for meditation. She also highlights how these can help manage menopause symptoms even when you're out of your regular environment.

Key Takeaways:

• Packing for travel requires careful consideration of health goals.
• Movement and exercise are crucial for maintaining metabolism.
• Comfortable shoes are essential for walking during trips.
• Bodyweight exercises and resistance bands are great for travel workouts.
• Hormone management is important, especially during menopause.
• Daily supplements help maintain health while traveling.
• Self-care practices can enhance well-being on the road.
• Using tools like yoga toes can improve foot health.
• Meditation apps can help manage stress during travel.

Planning meals and snacks is key to avoiding unhealthy choices.

Chapters:
00:00 Packing for a Purpose: The Journey Begins
02:36 Movement Matters: Staying Active While Traveling
05:23 Hormones and Supplements: Essential Travel Companions
07:57 Self-Care Essentials: Nurturing Your Well-Being
10:30 Conclusion: Your Travel Must-Haves

Thanks for listening!

Making Midlife Marvelous!

Cam Allen

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Feeling tired, puffy, or stuck in your workouts? It might be a protein problem. In this episode of The Menopause Method, Cam Allen breaks down exactly why protein matters more than ever in midlife — for your metabolism, hormones, muscle, energy, and even your mood.

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You’ll learn:

• Why most women 45+ are under-eating protein (by a lot!)
• How much protein you really need (based on your goals)
• The best way to space it out during the day
• Why timing protein around your workouts matters (and why Cam is anti-fasted workouts)
• Easy, no-stress ideas to get 30g of protein per meal
  
  

Key Takeaways:

• Most midlife women are under-eating protein — often by half.
• What worked in your 20s doesn't cut it anymore. Your body needs more, not less, to thrive in menopause.
• Protein is essential for more than just muscle — it's key for mood, metabolism, energy, and recovery.
• Your body uses protein less efficiently in midlife, so you need more to get the same benefits.
• Aim for 0.7–1g of protein per pound of your ideal lean body weight.
• 30 grams of protein per meal is the sweet spot.
• This is the minimum needed to trigger muscle protein synthesis — anything less and you're not getting the full benefit.
• Timing matters: eat protein before and after your workouts.
• Fasted workouts can spike cortisol and backfire in midlife. Fueling your body supports better strength gains and recovery.
• You don’t need to be perfect — you just need to be consistent-ish.
• Simple go-tos like collagen, Greek yogurt, tuna, and protein bowls can make it easier.
• Protein is a form of self-respect — not a punishment.
• When you nourish your body intentionally, everything works better: energy, hormones, workouts, and how you feel in your skin.

Timestamps:

00:00 Midlife Protein Needs Explained

05:38 Protein Boosts Post-Workout Gains

08:30 Protein-Packed Meal Ideas

11:39 Suitcase Essentials for Healthy Travel

Grab your Greek yogurt, friend. Let’s make protein simple, doable, and delicious.

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Why Your Workouts Aren’t Working After 40 (And What to Do Instead)
If you’ve been working out but not seeing the results you used to, this episode is for you. Midlife fitness isn’t about doing more—it’s about doing what actually works for your metabolism, hormones, and recovery.

In this episode, we’re breaking down the four keys to midlife fitness so you can stop overtraining, under-recovering, and feeling frustrated. You’ll learn:

• Why strength training 2-3x per week is the best way to build muscle and boost metabolism
• How daily movement (NEAT) keeps you burning more calories without overloading your body
• Why rest days and recovery are just as important as your workouts
• The difference between HIRT (High-Intensity Repeat Training) and HIIT—and why one works better for midlife women.

If you’ve been wondering "Why your workouts aren’t working anymore"or "what kind of exercise is best after 40", this episode will give you clear, doable strategies that actually support your body.

Your body isn’t broken—you just need a different approach.

🎧 Listen now and learn how to train smarter, not harder!


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Free Menopause Sleep Guide: https://www.camoyler.com/pl/2148586038

Get the Menopause Mini Workouts: https://www.camoyler.com/meno-minis.

We'll cover:

1. The Magic of Strength Training: Discover why strength training is your best friend for boosting metabolism and maintaining muscle mass in midlife.
2. Daily Movement is Your Secret Weapon: Learn about the power of NEAT (Nonexercise Activity Thermogenesis) and how simple daily movements can rev up your metabolism effectively.
3. The Importance of Rest & Recovery: Find out why rest days are crucial and how they actually help your muscles grow stronger. Plus, get the inside scoop on the right way to do high-intensity workouts with the HURT method.

Key Takeaways:

• Strength training is crucial for maintaining muscle mass after 40.
• Daily movement, or NEAT, significantly impacts metabolism.
• Rest and recovery are essential for muscle growth and overall health.
• High Intensity Repeat Training (H.I.R.T.) is a better alternative to traditional HIIT.
• Insulin sensitivity can be improved through strength training.
• Walking can help lower cortisol levels and improve overall health.
• Progressive overload is key to building strength effectively.
• Tracking daily steps can help maintain accountability in fitness.
• Active recovery is important on rest days to prevent injury.
• Training smarter, not harder, is the goal in midlife fitness.

Timestamps:

00:00 The Importance of Strength Training
03:50 Daily Movement: The Secret Weapon
07:37 Rest and Recovery: The Missing Piece
10:35 High Intensity Repeat Training (H.I.R.T.)

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How Stress Wrecks Your Metabolism in Midlife (And What to Do About It)
In this episode of The Menopause Method, we’re diving into how stress secretly sabotages your metabolism, hormones, and fat loss after 45.

If you’ve been feeling tired no matter how much you sleep, craving sugar all day, or holding onto belly fat even when eating healthy—stress could be the missing link.

I’ll break down:
✔ How chronic stress raises cortisol and triggers fat storage in menopause
✔ The sneaky signs of stress overload (bloating, sleep issues, cravings, and more)
✔ Why stress messes with your blood sugar and metabolism—making weight loss harder
✔ Science-backed strategies to lower stress, reset hormones, and support metabolism

Your body isn’t broken—it’s responding to stress. Learn how to work with it, not against it, so you can feel strong, energized, and in control again.

Tune in now to take back your metabolism in midlife!

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Free Menopause Sleep Guide: https://www.camoyler.com/pl/2148586038

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Key Takeaways:

• Stress is a physiological response that affects metabolism.
• Chronic stress can lead to weight gain, especially around the belly.
• High cortisol levels disrupt digestion and hormone balance.
• Women in midlife often experience hidden signs of stress.
• Dieting harder and exercising more can worsen stress-related weight gain.
• Strength training can help reduce cortisol levels.
• Walking after meals aids digestion and lowers blood sugar.
• Prioritizing protein and fiber helps manage cravings and gut health.
• Self-care is essential for reducing stress and improving health.
• Identifying stress triggers is crucial for managing overall well-being.

Timestamps:

00:00 Understanding Stress and Its Impact on Health
01:23 The Physiological Response to Stress
06:22 Chronic Stress and Hormonal Imbalances
09:15 Strategies to Manage Stress and Reset Metabolism