The Psychology of Me…

Environment- 

 Identity vs. Role Confusion (adolescence)

The critical issue for the adolescent is the development of a consistent identity or sense of self. The positive outcome involves the ability to answer the questions: “Who am I? What will I become? In contemporary society, this stage often extends well into young adulthood as a person typically experiments with many behaviors, roles, and identities before achieving a lasting and satisfying one.

Nature vs Nurture-

Michael Eric Dyson and Everett DysonI am not suggesting that the mere difference in shade has led to his brutal circumstances and my rise. I am arguing, however, that the persistence of colorism -- a sometimes subtle hierarchy of social standing historically dictated in part by darkness or lightness of one's skin, measuring the proximity to, or distance from, the vaunted white ideal -- affected how he was viewed as a developing youth, impacting the view of what gifts he might possess while shaping the presence or absence of social opportunities open to him.

It is true that many darker skinned blacks prosper, and that lighter skinned blacks suffer. But their relative successes and failures are often unconsciously molded in a crucible of race that assigns higher value to the physical features and cultural traits that reflect those of the dominant society.

Your position in the family-

The Position in the family plays a vital role in how you are viewed by your parents and siblings. Many people can attest to feeling like their parents or family members had “favorites” among siblings. Many can also attest that not being favored led them to do some very questionable things in and outside of family dynamics. Looking at my situation my mom had me when she was 18 years old, and then five years later had my brother. The positions of both he and I would be cemented for life in the eyes of my mom now a single mother raising two sons on her own.

Maturity & Self-Awareness-

Having a true understanding of my position in the family as the oldest son, came with great responsibilities that I didn’t always understand growing up, but that I now utilize in Business as an entrepreneur and business owner.