🤔 Who are you when no one’s watching?

📸 And who are you when everyone is?

We talk about the gap between who we are and who we post.

Why we only see the highlights.

Why validation isn’t wrong — but pretending might be.

Oversharing. Lying. Parasocial relationships.

And the quiet pressure of living life according to social media timelines.

This episode dives into the real self vs the online persona — validation, oversharing, curated lives, and the quiet pressure to live life by the feed.

Messy. Honest. Necessary. 💥

Aagh you know where the links are bestie x

Two VERY different things, but ag… life will mos teach you until you learn properly.

We spoke about naming your boundaries, setting them, and actually keeping them — even when it feels kak uncomfortable 😅.

Early detection is ALWAYS easier… for you and for the guilty parties 😂.

Family, friends, romantic partners — nobody is exempt.

Boundaries aren’t disrespect 🙅🏽‍♀️

They’re clarity.

They’re care.

They’re the difference between connection and full-blown chaos 💥.

And babes — watch for the vibes, but not whole time whole time 👀😂. LISTEN instead.

That’s the important part.

Because as usual… the technical grinch got us 😒😂

Don’t vesuip in the boundaries. Hold them with softness, but HOLD THEM.

This took 7 years. Osss is MOEG.

The technicals still have us in a chokehold and honestly… at this point? It is what it is, maaan. 😭🎙️

But we made it. And we’re coming in HOT with something I legit never heard of before: Limerance.

Wat is daai even? 👀

All I’m saying is… once you know, you can’t un-know. And suddenly?

HARD RELATE.

Skat, we’ve ALL been there… maybe. 😅

Come laugh with us, at us — ek care nie.

Just listen, and maybe learn something new about yourself… or someone you smaak. 👀💛

🎧 Linky links in the bio.

I wasn’t grieving him — I was grieving the version of my life I thought I finally deserved. 💔

The loss wasn’t the person… it was the future I let myself believe in.

Future faking doesn’t just break your heart — it breaks your imagination.

I didn’t fall for him; I fell for the future he painted — and that’s what hurt.

The betrayal wasn’t in the leaving, it was in the dreaming.

Healing began when I realised I wasn’t naive — I was hopeful. ✨

I had to forgive myself for loving a life that never existed.

Rebuilding self-trust starts here: hope didn’t fail me — he did.

The hardest goodbye is the one you say to the future you thought was yours.

It wasn’t delusion. It was desire — and someone took advantage of that.

🔥 Disclaimer: The video quality is ass, but the conversation is FIRE.

Just be lekker and listen — you mos don’t need to see us. 😌

Netflix: “Here’s another serial killer series.”

Us: “Lekker. Add spice and all the sauce — we’ll take a full Gatsby, cut in 4.” 😭💀

From horror to habit, babes — the macabre’s got us in a chokehold.

Netflix feeds, we consume, then act ‘so disturbed’ like we didn’t just binge the whole thing in one night 😭

What the actual, babes?! Hoekom?

We’re talking Monsters, specifically Ed Gein — and our sick craving for the dark side 👀But like… what does that actually say about us?

Is OS okay? Or does this deeply disturbing content make the real world feel a bit more bearable?

Thing is though — these stories are true! 💀

🎧 New episode out now. Go listen there, man.

“Women are not the problem. Men are the problem for other men.”Zane spitting bars — like Eminem in the early noughties

😤🔥Yes, the sound quality is kak — blame me (Nabeelah) 🙋🏽‍♀️😅BUT… this conversation is way too important not to share.

We’re talking masculinity, accountability, vulnerability —and how our mens treat each other… not just women.

🎧 Join the conversation.

💙 Tag a man who needs to hear this.

#MensMentalHealth #Accountability #CapeColouredPodcast #SeenAndHeard #LetsTalkMens

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Okay, we had some technical issues 😅

But she’s finally here — Episode 2! 🎧

Here you go…

A whole train wreck of growth — realisations, learnings, and a few “maybe I was the problem” moments.

We talk accountability, emotional maturity, and that uncomfortable part of healing no one really preps you for. 💭

It’s messy, honest, and maybe a little too real — just how we like it. 💅🏽

What if love languages have been lost in translation all along? 👀What is this emotional dialect you speak of? 💬What if we don’t speak the same one? Are we doomed… or learning new languages at our ripe old age? 😏 Naaauuuurr… or maybe yes? 🤷🏽‍♀️❤️ Words of Affirmation as bait.🛠 Acts of Service as control.🎁 Gifts with strings.⏱ Quality Time as surveillance.🤝 Physical Touch as possessiveness.Love languages… or manipulation in disguise? 👀