In this episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast, hosts Lala and Yolie dive into a candid discussion about their recent challenges and the critical importance of self-love. The ladies reflect on the struggles of juggling multiple roles and the intense pressure to excel in every aspect of life, encouraging listeners to confront feelings of inadequacy and embrace their inner strength.

Drawing inspiration from the Disney Pixar movies Inside Out and Inside Out 2, the conversation explores the theme of conquering your inner critic. The hosts delve into the emotion of guilt, describing it as a persistent reminder of our inadequacies and past mistakes that can drain energy and impede forgiveness. They emphasize the importance of recognizing the signals of guilt, examining one's actions, and aligning them with personal values and visions. The conversation proposes replacing guilt with forgiveness, compassion, and patience towards oneself.

Lala and Yolie also discuss the various inner critics that can hinder personal growth, including the critics of comparison, minimization, and comfort zones. The ladies share personal stories and strategies for overcoming these critics to embrace self-worth and growth.

Additionally, the episode touches on several topical issues, including a controversial incident involving a judge in Detroit, the divorce of Judge Mathis, a tragic event at Wells Fargo, and a charming trend involving grandmothers at weddings.

In their final sips, Lala and Yolie underscore the importance of self-love, having a supportive network, and the role of therapy in combating negative self-talk.

TAKEAWAYS

• Life can be challenging, but it's important to prioritize self-love and self-care.
• Don't let pride and shame become your giants; you are stronger than you think.
• Embrace your inner strength and believe in your ability to overcome obstacles.
• Observing and waiting can be powerful strategies for navigating uncertain situations.
• Practice positive self-talk and remind yourself of your worth and resilience.
• Guilt is a relentless reminder of inadequacies and past mistakes, draining energy and hindering personal growth.
• Recognize guilt's signals and examine actions in alignment with values and visions.
• Replace guilt with forgiveness, compassion, and patience with oneself.
• Give oneself grace and recognize personal growth and wins despite past mistakes. Inner critics can hinder personal growth and self-worth.
• Comparing ourselves to others can lead to feelings of inadequacy.
• Guilt can prevent us from acknowledging the positive aspects of our experiences.
• Minimizing our accomplishments can erode our self-confidence.
• Stepping out of our comfort zones is necessary for personal and professional growth.
• Self-love and having a support network and therapy are crucial for countering negative self-talk and building resilience.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction and Focus on Self-Love

02:26 Challenges of Being a Creative and Balancing Roles

05:23 Questioning Self and Overcoming Giants

09:42 Acceptance and Embracing Inner Strength

13:53 Recognizing and Conquering Giants

19:15 Navigating Uncertainty and Observing

21:48 Inside Out: Conquering Your Inner Critic

44:14 Guilt: A Relentless Reminder of Inadequacies

45:14 Guilt's Impact on Personal Growth

46:09 Replacing Guilt with Forgiveness and Compassion

49:04 Recognizing Personal Growth and Wins

53:52 Overcoming the Inner Critic of Comparison

58:39 Releasing Guilt and Embracing the Positive

01:07:09 Conquering the Inner Critic of Minimization

01:11:16 Stepping Out of Comfort Zones for Growth

01:24:46 Judge in Detroit Puts Teen in Prison Garbs

01:27:42 Judge Mathis Faces Divorce and Cheating Allegations

01:33:19 Wells Fargo Employee Found Dead in Cubicle

01:42:00 Grandmothers as Flower Girls: A Heartwarming Trend

01:45:08 The Importance of Self-Love and Support Networks

In this transformative episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast Unhinged, Lala and Yolie dive into their recent decisions to cut their hair, exploring the deep emotional and symbolic meanings behind their choices. Both hosts share the sense of liberation and relief they felt after cutting their hair, discussing the powerful link between personal appearance and identity.

Lala highlights the importance of shedding aspects of our lives that no longer serve us, using her haircut as a metaphor for personal renewal and letting go. Yolie reflects on how hair can hold memories and signify major life changes, emphasizing the connection to her past and the step towards self-reinvention.

The conversation also touches on broader themes of transformation and authenticity, as both hosts reflect on their journeys toward self-acceptance. The ladies discuss the impact of these personal changes on their roles as mothers, aiming to raise kind, authentic children.

As the episode wraps up, Lala reflects on her 40th birthday and the spiritual purification she's undergone, likening her experience to cutting her locks as a form of release and renewal. Yolie shares her evolving struggles with trust and redefining her values.

The hosts express profound gratitude for each other's support through their transformations, thank their listeners for their engagement, and conclude with a light-hearted comparison of their new styles to iconic looks of Stephanie Mills and Jody Watley.

TAKEAWAYS

Sometimes, cutting off physical weight, such as hair, can bring a sense of liberation and freedom.

Letting go of things that no longer serve us can create space for new beginnings and growth.

Hair can hold memories and cutting it can be a symbolic act of releasing the past.

Spontaneity can lead to unexpected and exciting experiences.

Embracing change and trying new things can bring joy and a sense of empowerment. Cutting their hair had a transformative impact on Lala and Yolie, allowing them to embrace change and move forward in their lives.

They express gratitude for their hair and the role it played in their lives, acknowledging its emotional and symbolic significance.

The experience of cutting their hair symbolized a journey of self-acceptance and authenticity, allowing them to let go of past traumas and embrace their true selves.

They emphasize the importance of raising kind and authentic children, creating a space for them to express their feelings and be true to themselves.

The conversation highlights the themes of transformation, self-reinvention, and the power of embracing change.

Birthdays can be a time for reflection and setting intentions for the year ahead.

Testing and purification are part of the journey towards growth and transformation.

Trust can be challenging, especially when faced with uncertainty and past experiences.

It is important to redefine values and vision in times of change and transition.

Expressing gratitude and showing appreciation for others is essential in building strong relationships.

Sharing and engaging with the podcast can help create a supportive community.

Playfulness and humor can bring joy and lightness to challenging situations.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction and Spontaneous Decision

09:02 Feeling Weighted and the Urge to Cut Hair

14:46 Yolie's Hair Loss Journey

25:16 The Synchronicity of Cutting Hair

28:09 Surprising Each Other with Haircuts

32:00 Getting Hair Braided and the Genesis Connection

38:10 Checking in on Each Other's Safety

40:24 The Transformative Power of Cutting Hair

52:05 Gratitude for the Role of Hair in Our Lives

57:04 Embracing Self-Acceptance and Authenticity

01:04:36 Raising Kind and Authentic Children

01:08:15 The Journey of Transformation and Self-Reinvention

01:30:10 Reflections on Turning 40 and the Journey of Transformation

01:36:00 Struggles with Trust and Redefining Values

01:51:19 Building a Supportive Community through Sharing and Engagement

02:09:21 Finding Joy and Lightness in Challenging Situations

Dive into a transformative journey with Lala and Yolie on this episode of "The Spilled Milk Podcast." The hosts explore deeply personal and societal issues that impact our daily lives and long-term aspirations. From embracing self-love to confronting systemic challenges, this episode is a comprehensive guide to personal and collective empowerment.

Lala and Yolie kick off the episode by sharing their latest experiences with self-love and personal growth. The ladies discuss the importance of allowing each other the freedom to pursue individual dreams and trusting in divine timing. The power of positive thinking and overcoming fear and self-doubt are central themes, emphasizing the liberation that comes with true self-acceptance.

The conversation deepens as they tackle the pervasive impact of identity-based labels on self-perception. Exploring ageism, career-based identity, and body image, Lala and Yolie challenge listeners to question societal stereotypes and embrace their authentic selves. They highlight the significance of finding supportive communities that bolster self-belief across all ages, and urge listeners to redefine success on their own terms, free from external validation.

Shifting focus, Yolie and Lala discuss the detrimental effects of gender-specific labels and societal expectations on relationships and self-identity. Both ladies advocate for a journey of self-discovery, emphasizing the importance of defining personal values and desires. The hosts also address the unique challenges faced by parents in modern society, from managing societal pressures to prioritizing self-care and family wellness.

In a poignant segment, the episode addresses a tragic incident involving Sonia Massey, who was fatally shot by a police officer with a history of misconduct. This discussion broadens to the fear and mistrust prevalent in communities of color regarding law enforcement, underscoring the importance of civic engagement and informed voting.

To lighten the mood, Lala and Yolie introduce a new segment called 'Milk and Honey,' where they share what is referred to as a "podcast cleanse" wrapping the episode up on a high note.

The episode concludes with a look at their "Bigger Leaps of Faith" program, encouraging listeners to engage in self-reflection and commit to personal growth, setting the stage for a life filled with purpose and authenticity.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction and Month of Self-Love

03:08 Supporting Each Other's Dreams and Getting on Each Other's Nerves

05:17 God's Concern for the Things that Concern Us

08:22 Trusting in God's Timing and the Freedom to Go

09:08 Flipping Negative Thinking and Believing in the Best

11:33 Closing Thoughts and Empowerment

14:15 Unpacking Identity-Based Labels

16:37 Ageism: Overcoming Limitations and Redefining Worth

30:43 Career-Based Identity: Moving Beyond Titles and Status

43:07 Body Image: Embracing Self-Acceptance and Rejecting Unrealistic Standards

58:55 Curiosity and Avoiding Judgement

01:01:22 Challenging Gender-Specific Labels

01:05:42 Defining Identity and Values

01:10:24 Navigating Challenges of Motherhood and Fatherhood

01:19:53 Prioritizing Family, Legacy, Lifestyle, and Wellness

01:27:39 Detaching from Outside Opinions

01:33:17 Stewarding Children and Answering to God

01:44:39 Tragic Incident and the Need for Better Hiring Practices

01:55:48 The Importance of Voting and Being Informed

01:57:19 Lighthearted Story: Woman Releases Bats in Cheating Partner's House

01:58:42 Introducing 'Milk and Honey' Segment: Uplifting Stories

02:01:16 Discussion about '100 Days of Believing Bigger' Program

02:10:44 Embracing Self-Reflection and Personal Growth

In this insightful episode, Lala and Yolie tackle the crucial topic of unlearning toxic thinking patterns. They delve into how mind reading and filtering—focusing only on negative details and assuming others' thoughts—can distort our perceptions and interactions. Emphasizing the importance of open communication, they advocate for a curious approach that involves asking questions to achieve clarity.

The hosts stress the power of gratitude and the benefits of recognizing positive aspects in all situations. They discuss strategies for overcoming common destructive thought patterns like overgeneralization and catastrophizing, urging listeners to appreciate incremental progress and learn from setbacks.

Throughout the episode, Lala and Yolie explore the shift from fearing failure to embracing life's opportunities with kindness and an open heart. The ladies caution against polarized thinking and discuss the advantages of acknowledging life's nuances and complexities.

As the conversation widens, they touch on varied topics—from a humorous tooth fairy anecdote to more serious discussions about societal behaviors, such as a dating show contestant's disrespect and a case of nepotism at Burger King. They wrap up by promoting their "Bigger Leaps of Faith" program, encouraging listeners to prioritize well-being and maintain a positive outlook.

This episode is a blend of personal growth advice enriched with real-life examples and light-hearted stories, providing listeners with both profound insights and practical tips for fostering a healthier mindset.

Disclaimer:

We sincerely appreciate your tuning in to this episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast. We experienced some technological and recording issues towards the end, and we kindly ask for your patience as we navigate these challenges. Our team is actively working to enhance the quality of our recordings to ensure a smoother listening experience in future episodes. Thank you for your understanding and continued support!

TAKEAWAYS

Unlearning toxic thinking patterns is crucial for holistic wellness.

Mind-reading and filtering are common distorted ways of thinking.

Open communication, curiosity, and asking questions can help overcome mind reading.

Practicing gratitude and focusing on the positive aspects of life can combat filtering.

Celebrating accomplishments and embracing a positive mindset can overcome perfectionism and victim mentality.

Focus on the positive and appreciate incremental achievements.

Shift mindset from fear of failure to embracing opportunities

Be kind to oneself and hold space for others

Avoid overgeneralization and embrace nuance and complexity

Trust in GOD's plan and find the deliciousness in every experience.

Don't tolerate disrespectful behavior, whether it's in dating or the workplace.

Stand up against unfair policies and practices, such as firing someone for nepotism when it's not actually a violation.

Find humor in everyday situations, like a child saving their teeth for a big tooth fairy payout.

Prioritize your well-being and practice positive thinking to overcome negative thought patterns.

Join the Bigger Leaps of Faith program to embark on a transformative journey of faith and personal growth.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates

23:14 Unlearning Toxic Thinking Patterns

36:11 The Pitfalls of Mind Reading and Filtering

38:17 The Power of Open Communication and Curiosity

40:48 Celebrating Accomplishments and Overcoming Perfectionism

46:40 The Dangers of Polarized Thinking

51:46 Appreciating Nuance and Complexity

59:04 Overcoming Catastrophizing and Trusting in God

01:15:18 Finding the Deliciousness in Every Experience

01:28:27 Dealing with Disrespectful Contestants and Unfair Policies

01:33:18 The Funny Side of the Tooth Fairy

01:43:29 Some People Deserve the Circus

01:47:05 Prioritizing Well-being and Positive Thinking

01:55:33 Join the Bigger Leaps of Faith program for Personal Growth

In this enlightening episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast, hosts Lala and Yolie dive deep into the concept of chrononutrition, a dietary approach that harmonizes eating patterns with the body’s circadian rhythms. They unpack the science behind how timing meals can significantly influence metabolism, hormone regulation, and overall health.

Throughout the discussion, Lala and Yolie explore the practical aspects of integrating chrononutrition into everyday life, addressing common challenges and effective strategies for adaptation. They emphasize the importance of personalized nutrition—understanding and respecting each individual’s unique physiological needs.

The conversation also delves into the broader implications of food choices, including the impact of food additives and design on health. Highlighting the critical role of self-awareness, the hosts encourage listeners to make informed, conscious dietary decisions aligned with their natural biological clocks.

Wrapping up, Lala and Yolie remind everyone about the value of incremental changes, advocating for a gradual approach to enhancing wellness through mindful eating and living in sync with natural bodily rhythms.

Disclaimer:

We sincerely appreciate your tuning in to this episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast. We experienced some technological and recording issues towards the end, and we kindly ask for your patience as we navigate these challenges. Our team is actively working to enhance the quality of our recordings to ensure a smoother listening experience in future episodes. Thank you for your understanding and continued support!

TAKEAWAYS

Chrononutrition involves synchronizing meal times with the body's internal clock and circadian rhythm.

Eating heavier meals earlier in the day and lighter meals at night can optimize metabolism and energy levels.

Understanding one's own body and its unique needs is crucial in implementing chrononutrition.

Food design and additives can have a significant impact on overall health and should be considered when making dietary choices.

Know yourself and make conscious decisions about what you consume.

Understand the importance of aligning meal times with your body's natural rhythms.

Prioritize self-care and make incremental improvements every day.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Chrononutrition: Eating on the Clock

08:14 Optimizing Metabolism and Energy Levels

16:13 Understanding Women's Health and Eating Habits

21:50 The Impact of Food Design and Additives

32:19 Considerations for the Last Meal Before Sleep

37:05 Conscious Consumption

38:13 Aligning Meal Times with Your Body's Rhythms

39:08 Prioritizing Self-Care and Incremental Improvements

47:55 Stop Drinking Nestle Water

53:57 Shout Out to Firefighters and Newlyweds

55:30 Uber Eats Discount and Grandparent Sleepovers

01:03:12 Final Thoughts and Self-Reflection

In this episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast, Lala and Yolie kick off Season 2 with personal life updates. Lala discusses the importance of setting boundaries to prevent being taken advantage of, while Yolie talks about her journey re-entering the workforce and securing a position she once held. The conversation then turns to the necessity of rest, self-reflection, and recognizing personal limits, emphasizing the integral role these elements play in maintaining overall wellness.

The episode delves into physical wellness, spotlighting functional fitness and the significance of varied and balanced movements. Yolie highlights the benefits of stretching for physical health. The dialogue expands to cover holistic wellness, exploring its physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, environmental, and social dimensions. Topics such as the advantages of stretching, deep breathing, and kegels for physical health are discussed, alongside toxin-free living.

For emotional and mental wellness, the importance of journaling, question looping, expressive arts, and mind mapping are explored. The hosts also stress the need for spiritual tranquility through stillness, solitude, and silence, and the value of fostering healthy social interactions, networking, and intentional relationships for social wellness.

Concluding the episode, Lala and Yolie touch on a variety of topics including political awareness, beach safety, and the broader scope of holistic wellness. They discuss the critical nature of informed voting, the precautions necessary when swimming in the ocean, and the meanings behind various beach warning flags. They advocate for an interconnected approach to wellness, encouraging listeners to adopt holistic changes that positively impact all facets of their lives.

TAKEAWAYS

Functional fitness, such as squats and lunges, supports everyday movements and helps prevent chronic pain.

Balancing and alternating movements can improve muscle strength and prevent imbalances.

Stretching is essential for maintaining flexibility and overall physical wellness. Stretching, deep breathing, and kegels are important for physical wellness.

Toxin-free living is crucial for overall physical health.

Journaling, question looping, expressive arts, and mind mapping are beneficial for emotional and mental wellness.

Stillness, solitude, and silence are important for spiritual wellness.

Being mindful of the environment and practicing zero waste contribute to environmental wellness.

Healthy relationships, networking, and intentional social interactions are key to social wellness.

Wellness is interconnected, and changes in one area can affect other aspects of well-being.

Prioritizing holistic wellness involves making choices that align with one's values and considering the long-term impact.

Being mindful of the reasons behind personal choices can help avoid compromising on important values and goals.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Setting Boundaries and Starting Season 2

05:17 Rest and Self-Reflection for Personal Growth

22:26 Physical Wellness: Functional Fitness for Everyday Movements

25:14 Physical Wellness: Balancing and Alternating Movements for Muscle Strength

28:05 Physical Wellness: The Importance of Stretching

29:24 Physical Wellness: Stretching and Deep Breathing

32:11 Physical Wellness: Toxin-Free Living

36:24 Emotional and Mental Wellness: Journaling and Expressive Arts

41:53 Spiritual Wellness: Stillness, Solitude, and Silence

48:58 Environmental Wellness: Zero Waste Living

52:56 Social Wellness: Building Healthy Relationships

01:05:43 The Importance of Voting and Recognizing Political Consequences

01:09:06 Beliefs about the Staging of Events

01:11:50 Understanding the Interconnectedness of Holistic Wellness

01:14:04 Prioritizing Holistic Wellness: Making Conscious Choices

01:15:13 Avoiding Compromises: Mindfulness in Decision-Making

01:21:19 Beach Safety: Understanding Riptide Flags

In this insightful episode, Lala and Yolie tackle a broad range of topics related to enhancing personal well-being and managing wellness effectively. The hosts start by exploring the critical role of rest and the power of self-acceptance in nurturing mental health. They discuss the importance of establishing a consistent bedtime routine and improving the sleeping environment to ensure quality sleep, which is essential for mood regulation and immune function.

Hydration is another key focus, with the hosts advocating for the inclusion of coconut water and fruits high in water content to aid hydration. The conversation shifts to the significance of maintaining good posture and implementing ergonomic practices at work to prevent muscle strain and spinal issues. The use of ergonomic chairs, standing desks, and walking treadmills are recommended.

Lala and Yolie emphasize the need for regular health checkups, particularly for people of color who are disproportionately affected by certain health conditions. They encourage listeners to actively advocate for their health and know their employment rights to maintain a safe working environment. The hosts also delve into the benefits of thermal wellness practices like cryotherapy and saunas, noting their detoxifying benefits and overall impact on well-being.

The episode touches on topical events, such as the recent occurrences at the BET Awards, highlighting the importance of communication and professionalism. Wrapping up, the discussion turns to the Harmony Accelerator program, underscoring its commitment to holistic wellness and community support.

TAKEAWAYS

Maintaining good posture and using ergonomic chairs and devices is important for preventing muscle strain and reducing the risk of injuries.

Devices, such as smartphones, can contribute to poor posture and neck strain, so it's important to take regular breaks and do micro movements.

Routine health checkups and screenings are crucial for early detection and prevention of health issues.

Taking care of your physical health, including posture and regular checkups, is essential for overall well-being. Regular screenings are important for maintaining good health

Establishing a bedtime routine and optimizing the sleep environment can improve sleep quality

Drinking sufficient water is crucial for overall health and hydration

Choosing the right fabric for sleepwear can impact sleep quality

Avoiding plastic containers for food and water can reduce exposure to toxins

Cryotherapy and saunas can have potential benefits for overall wellness Stay hydrated, especially during the summer months when sweating is more common.

Consider incorporating coconut water for added hydration and electrolytes.

Prioritize your physical wellness and make self-care a priority.

Be mindful of your actions and the impact they can have on others.

Stay informed and do your research before making assumptions or judgments about others.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction and Personal Experiences

18:36 Rest and Self-Acceptance

28:51 Mastering the Fundamentals of Physical Health

38:35 Hydration and Conclusion

39:10 Posture and Ergonomics

54:23 Regular Health Checkups and Screenings

01:02:55 Advocating for Your Health and Knowing Your Rights

01:05:58 Thermal Wellness: Cryotherapy and Saunas

01:10:50 The Importance of Self-Care and Wellness

01:14:15 The Incident at the BET Awards

01:17:49 Angela Simmons' Controversial Outfit Choice

01:24:33 Prioritizing Holistic Physical Wellness

In this insightful episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast, Lala and Yolie delve into the critical art of time investment, examining how effective time management can enhance life's harmony. The ladies tackle common time management pitfalls such as overcommitment, poor prioritization, and the dangers of procrastination, which often lead to burnout and dissatisfaction. The hosts also advocate for treating time as a precious resource, akin to money, suggesting strategies like tracking and budgeting time to ensure it aligns with personal visions and values.

Throughout the discussion, Lala and Yolie emphasize the significance of establishing a routine that respects individual time investment and encourages listeners to prioritize tasks that truly matter. They explore the concept of decision fatigue and how stress distorts our perception of time, making efficient time management even more crucial.

The conversation also ventures into historical and societal contexts, reflecting on the Tulsa Race Massacre and the recent decision by the Oklahoma Supreme Court regarding compensation. Lala and Yolie discuss the broader implications of these events, underscoring the necessity of education, economic empowerment, and the strategic use of alliances to foster change.

The episode concludes with a practical look at the Eisenhower Box, a tool for distinguishing between tasks that are urgent and those that are important, reinforcing the theme of prioritization as a cornerstone of effective time management.

TAKEAWAYS

Overcommitment, poor prioritization, and procrastination can lead to burnout and dissatisfaction.

Time should be treated as a valuable resource and budgeted like money.

Tracking and analyzing how time is spent can help identify areas for improvement.

Prioritize tasks and activities that align with your visions and values.

Create a healthy routine and schedule based on your time investment. Understand the value of time and the investment required for different tasks.

Be aware of decision fatigue and the impact of stress on our perception of time.

Innovative approaches are needed to create change and address systemic issues.

Education, economic empowerment, and leveraging allies are important for progress.

Distinguish between urgent and important tasks using the Eisenhower box.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction: The Impact of Time Investment on Harmony

26:19 Pitfalls to Avoid: Overcommitment, Poor Prioritization, and Procrastination

35:39 Treating Time as a Valuable Resource

37:41 Creating a Healthy Routine and Schedule Based on Time Investment

41:58 Mastering Time Management and Prioritization

44:28 The Impact of Stress on Time Perception

53:28 The Value of Time and Commodity

57:18 The Tulsa Race Massacre and the Fight for Justice

01:09:02 Innovative Approaches for Change and Progress

01:12:32 The Eisenhower Box: Distinguishing Urgent and Important Tasks