If you had a traumatic childhood, you dream about having a different experience in your adulthood. You would like to find love and feel safe in the hands of your significant other. However, your trauma may often stand in the way of finding happiness. You may have difficulty trusting your partner, and you may have developed coping skills that might hurt your partner.

This podcast discusses the tendency to project the image of the people who hurt us in our childhood onto our partners. This can lead to attacking them as if they were our enemies, which can cause them to become defensive and confirm our fears that we cannot trust them.

The good news is that traumas are not set in stone. Our brains are plastic, and we can learn to trust our loved ones and heal our inner child. We have helped many couples overcome their childhood trauma and have better relationships. We invite you to join us in this quest to understand how the wounds you carry from your childhood affect your present relationships and how you can overcome them to find happiness and connection.

We all dream about having a great relationship with a loved one. We think the ideal relationship is one where there isn't any disagreement, or at least disagreements are rare. In this podcast, we show how even the best relationships have disagreements. The hallmark of a good relationship isn't the absence of disagreements but the ability to repair. When we disagree and feel disconnected from our partner, our ability to repair will make all the difference. Reaching out to our partners and taking responsibility for hurting them helps us reconnect.

In this episode, we discuss people's tendency to think that their worth depends on external circumstances. We explain that our worth does not depend on our condition, money, beauty, or accolades.

The concept of authority is frequently confused with harshness and power. The “authoritative” person places themselves in a position of superiority and shows others who is the boss. This causes people to feel humiliated and disrespected. The result is that people either resist defiantly or comply for fear of consequences.

We receive these messages about authority from our caretakers in our childhood. Many of us were treated from a top-down position by them. We felt hurt, but we learned from them and did the same as they did to us. We pass down to the next generation what was passed down to us. We don't remember how we felt hurt and humiliated by this kind of treatment, and we lose the ability to be empathic to our children and subordinates.

In this video, Tricia and I introduce a different type of authority. One that is born from a deep sense of respect and belief in the good of the other person. We focus mainly on parenting and how we can change the narrative of power and force to kindness and respect.

In this edition of the Thriving Your Love Podcast, Shalini Dayal, MFT, and Natasha Kharbanda, LCSW, speak about their work and how they have shared their knowledge of EFT and John Gottman with therapists in India and other countries.

In this special edition of Thriving Your Love, we interview Shalini Dayal, LMFT, and Natasha Kharbanda, LCSW. They discuss the importance of tailoring couples therapy to the needs of each culture, in their case, the South Asian community. They raise awareness of the challenges of interracial marriage and the influence of in-laws. They also discuss what made them decide to become therapists and their specialties as couples' therapists.

We talked about the negative cycle that happens between partners. One partner seeks connection through blame and control, while the other avoids it for fear of being hurt. In this episode, we explain how one partner can bring the other close by being responsive.

We talked about how reassurance helps people feel more secure. When people are afraid of losing their attachment figure, reassurance of one's love goes a long way toward helping them feel safe.