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In this episode, we answer these questions:

• How much do I share with my kids?
• If I tell people about my struggles, will I look like a bad mom?
• How do I avoid hurting my kids while I’m recovering?
• Will I be able to raise secure kids when I’m such a mess?

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.

In this episode, we answer these questions:

• Since discovery, I can’t seem to function like I did before. I’m crying one minute and angry the next. How long will this last?
• As a betrayed mom, what steps can I take to begin healing and ensure I don’t take out my pain on my kids?
• How much do I share with my kids?

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.

On this episode, we answer these questions:

• What does it mean to be sexually healthy as a single?
• What type of boundaries should I have for dating?
• I’ve heard of the “love cocktail” of chemicals people experience when falling in love. Can a person actually experience withdrawals from feeling in love?

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.

In this episode, we answer these questions:

• What comes first: thoughts, feelings, or behaviors?
• I grew up in a home where we didn’t talk about feelings. How can I learn more about feelings, so I can teach my kids about feelings?
• I struggle with talking about feelings, especially to my husband. What can I do to get better at communicating my feelings?

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.

In this episode, we answer these questions:

• I could go the rest of my life without sex. Is this normal?
• My husband is sexually anorexic. What does this say about me?
• Does the Bible really tell us we can’t withhold sex from our husbands?

The Great Sex Rescue, by Sheila Wray Gregoire

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.

On this episode, we answer the following questions:

• I’m five days post disclosure and I’m clueless how to handle this. How should I feel? Can I sleep with my husband if I want and be so angry and hurt at the same time? It’s a weird place to be. He didn’t have an affair but lots of acting out online in chat rooms, fantasy too. I think I’m still numb, is that normal? I’m also a therapist so I feel like I know the answers to these questions but it's different when you are on this side of the fence. a little. maybe a lot, I dunno. Does that help?
• Why do things like violent sex scenes and nude women arouse me?
• We are trying to recover from my husband's SA [Sex Addiction]. He is getting counseling and I know our intimacy needs to be restored one day at a time. Is it wrong within our marriage for him to say explicit words to me? I feel like he's trying to make me feel safe but at the same time these words trigger me.

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions:

• I’m in a Betrayal & Beyond group and it’s teaching me so much about emotional awareness and health. My husband is in a Seven Pillars group and he’s not learning anything about emotional health or betrayal trauma? Why is this?
• When/How will my husband learn to be empathetic and take responsibility for the pain he’s caused me, if it’s not in the Seven Pillars work?
• My husband has been in group for months and I’m not seeing any changes in his attitude or behaviors. Can I talk to his group leader to find out if he’s actually doing the work?

Show notes:

Help Her Heal, by Carol Juergensen Sheets

Help Them Heal, by Carol Juergensen Sheets

Worthy of Her Trust, by Stephen Arterburn

Pure Desire Counseling

Betrayal & Beyond (Women's Betrayal Resource)

Seven Pillars of Freedom (Men's Recovery Resource)

The Compassionate Warrior (Men's Recovery Resource)

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions:

• Can my husband rape me?
• Can I say no to my husband?
• I feel disconnected when we don't have sex, but when I have sex with my husband I feel used. What can I do to change this pattern?

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