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Summary:

In this episode, Lucia d'Carpio discusses the negative impact of people pleasing on creativity. She shares her personal journey of overcoming procrastination and the fears and anxieties that held her back from pursuing her goals.

Lucia explains the definition of people pleasing and how it involves consistently striving to please others at the expense of one's own wants and needs. She emphasizes the importance of strategic people-pleasing and setting boundaries.

Lucia also provides tips for practicing saying no and changing the perception of saying no. She encourages listeners to reclaim their authenticity and creativity by taking control and making a change.

Takeaways:

• People pleasing can negatively impact creativity by suppressing one's authentic expression and preventing them from thinking outside the box.
• Strategic people-pleasing involves being intentional about when and how to please others, while still prioritizing one's own needs and desires.
• Practicing saying no can be uncomfortable at first, but it is essential for reclaiming control over one's life and creativity.
• Changing the perception of saying no as neither positive nor negative can help reduce the anxiety and guilt associated with it.
• It is important to be prepared for others' reactions to your change in behavior, as some people may not initially understand or support your decision to prioritize yourself.
• Reclaiming your authenticity and creativity requires actively listening to your core and making decisions that align with your true self.
• Just like a puzzle, the pieces of your authentic self can be put back together with time and effort.
• Taking control and making a change is the first step towards reclaiming your creativity and living a more fulfilling life.

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Overcoming Procrastination

03:02 The Negative Impact of People Pleasing on Creativity

07:48 Understanding People Pleasing

10:02 The Impact of People Pleasing on Decision-Making

13:18 Strategic People Pleasing

14:41 Practicing Saying No

16:36 Changing the Perception of Saying No

18:02 Dealing with Others' Reactions to Your Change

20:15 Reclaiming Your Authenticity and Creativity

22:40 The Puzzle Analogy: Putting the Pieces Back Together

25:36 Taking Control and Making a Change

26:04 Conclusion and Call to Action