BOOK 1: Raising Good Humans, A Mindful Guide to Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids by Hunter Clarke-Fields, MSAE

PART 4 of 4: Chapter 7 Solving Problems Mindfully & Chapter 8 Supporting Your Peaceful Home

Presented by Megan Riesgo, LCPC, PMH-C & Joy Walsh, LCSW, PMH-C

OVERVIEW Episode 4 explores chapter 7 & 8 of Hunter Clarke-Fields, MSAE book, Raising Good Humans, A Mindful Guide to Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids. Page numbers and links in show notes for listeners to find additional information on topics explored from the source.

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CHAPTERS and NOTATIONS

Book Exploration - Chapter 7 Solving Problems Mindfully

00:45 (pg. 126) “Mindfulness meditation is the foundation of our conflict-resolution skills.” Normalizing conflict.

01:20 (pg. 126) Example of conflicting needs

01:55 (pg. 126-129) Authoritarian and permissive parenting

03:30 (pg. 130) Conflict resolution with balance. “How do we find the middle path, where everyone can get their needs met?”

04:45 (pg. 130) Latin root of word discipline, disciplina.

06:10 (pg. 132) Five steps for Win-Win Problem Solving, Identify, Brainstorm, Evaluate, Make Decision, Check In

07:50 Five Why’s technique

10:50 (pg. 136) Talking out problems instead of power struggles.

11:10 (pg. 136- 137) Sibling conflict and benefits of role modeling and self regulation. “Coach instead of controlling.”

13:25 (pg. 138-139) Examples and options to tend to both children. “Handling Sibling Conflicts: A Cheat Sheet,” steps referenced.

15:20 (pg. 142) Quote explored, “What need is your child trying to meet? What are your needs?”

Book Exploration - Chapter 8 Supporting Your Peaceful Home

19:00 (pg. 144-145) Identified concepts of connection. “All of this love creates a positive feedback loop.”

21:30 (pg. 150-151) Daily Rhythm concepts explored.

22:20 Resource: Big Little Feelings

22:45 (pg. 152) Test Drive Routine concepts explored to know what is expected with weekly schedule. Reference within Kim Payne’s book Simplicity Parenting predictable rhythm for dinners.

24:45 (pg. 155-160) References to Kim Payne’s Simplification Steps.

25:30 (pg. 153) Reference to Maria Montessori and The Montessori Method, tools and resources at child’s level for independence. Reference to Melissa and Doug and For Small Hands as brand options for daily living toys and tools for kids.

26:50 (158-161) Toys and clutter with options to simplify the environment.

27:00 (pg. 161-162) “Progress not perfection” Reference to Mindful Mama Podcast. Final thoughts reference from book, “How do we give unconditional love? By leading with loving and accepting ourselves.” Additional quote explored, “... old habits are familiar and strong. It takes diligent practice to bring mindfulness into daily life and learn to respond to our children empathetically and skillfully.”